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Originally Posted by ratherbcrazycatlady
Oh Gosh no, no dinner, you can have drinks for hours and some food you don't call dinner, or something from a food truck in a paper boat, with a beer from the convenience store, while standing, but for chrissakes do NOT call it dinner or you might as well get on airplane.
I've had dinner/food happen plenty of times on first meetings, but never planned. It just happens because we hit it off and the date got extended. One quick drink ends up being 5 hrs long, so food becomes involved. Expect little, go with the flow. Simple.
I found this out the hard way. Many women just interrogate you and it feels like an interview. They would ask me questions very personal like where do you work, what school did you go to, and where do you see yourself in 10 years? I was so turned off by that I called for the check and took her home. Never called her again and never saw her again.
It's always been meeting up for a few drinks with me as its more formal and in my opinion you find out ALOT more about the person over a drink and have a MUCH better night out
I've had first dates that have involved a meal depending how we got on ( as timber says in just going with the flow..... And seeing where the yellow brick road takes us! )..... But very very very rarely an actual arranged dinner date.
For me it just doesn't hold the same buzz and electricity as a pub/bar as you feel you are on ceremony.... Dont say this and that..... Can't raise your voice, can't laugh too loudly, can't really flirt or be as witty/humorous as I'd like etc ..... Basically rather bland for me....... ( a sports bar of sorts would suffice but I'd usually take her out to a lavish and posh restaurant hence ^^^^ describes the atmosphere in them )
Whereas in a boozer you can sit back, relax, let your hair down, be boisterous, laugh like mad! and just have a right blinding night out! LMAO
Tinder is insane. I've gotten more responses in a week than 3 months on eharmony, match and okcupid combined. I could have dates lined up every night for the next two months. I really hope eventually I find a girl who sets herself apart from the crowd.
Tinder is insane. I've gotten more responses in a week than 3 months on eharmony, match and okcupid combined. I could have dates lined up every night for the next two months. I really hope eventually I find a girl who sets herself apart from the crowd.
I just hope you've got the stamina to keep up mate!
Whenever I meet people for drinks, we still end up talking for a few hours, so it's not really a quick thing. I am a slow drinker so it takes me at least an hour to finish a drink anyway.
I think you missed the point. The point here is that you don't know on the first meeting if you are going to really like them or be unable to stand them. Once you know you like them, that quick drink can easily turn into a dinner.
A few drinks certainly can last for hours but it doesn't have to. You talk for hours because you are enjoying the time, but if it became awkward it's much less of a scene to walk out and leave behind a half-empty drink than a complete dinner. In my opinion.
On the same note, I prefer something that I can pay as I go than "run a tab". Then if I want to leave I can just leave and not have to wait around trying to find the waiter and pay the check.
I think you missed the point. The point here is that you don't know on the first meeting if you are going to really like them or be unable to stand them. Once you know you like them, that quick drink can easily turn into a dinner.
A few drinks certainly can last for hours but it doesn't have to. You talk for hours because you are enjoying the time, but if it became awkward it's much less of a scene to walk out and leave behind a half-empty drink than a complete dinner. In my opinion.
On the same note, I prefer something that I can pay as I go than "run a tab". Then if I want to leave I can just leave and not have to wait around trying to find the waiter and pay the check.
I think in many cases it's important to have an escape plan. But I haven't had any dates thus far that I've needed to escape. And I guess I'm not cynical enough to make an escape plan. If I can't get through a simple dinner with someone then I've got major problems.
...Dont say this and that..... Can't raise your voice, can't laugh too loudly, can't really flirt or be as witty/humorous as I'd like etc ..... Basically rather bland for me....... ( a sports bar of sorts would suffice but I'd usually take her out to a lavish and posh restaurant hence ^^^^ describes the atmosphere in them )
Whereas in a boozer you can sit back, relax, let your hair down, be boisterous, laugh like mad! and just have a right blinding night out! LMAO
I guess I'm always acting like I'm in a boozer. I would rather stab myself in the eye than go to a lavish posh restaurant on a first date/first in person meeting.
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Originally Posted by Rocky_Raccoon
If I can't get through a simple dinner with someone then I've got major problems.
What?! We have agreed on something here.
I mean what's the worse that can happen? Even if they didn't know how to behave in public, that's really not a reflection on me. I don't embarrass easily and love to have a good story for next time anyway.
I got a picture, I messaged, texted, talked. Now lets eat, sheesh. I wouldve been able to tell by this point if they were prone to explosive personality disorder antics, even if it had been hidden through all previous communication. I don't get a birthday taken away if they do get escorted out. I'd finish my drink. I know how to behave and assimilate.
I hate having dinner with my BIL, but my sister brings him, so I know I can still enjoy myself.
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)..... But very very very rarely an actual arranged dinner date. 
