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That would be rather harsh but I'd mention I wasn't turned on anymore because of the weight. Plus, if someone is ok with the weight gain while dating what is going to happen if they get married.
Something I've noticed a lot is that one or both people get obese, the sex stops and they get divorced. Then and only then do they get back into shape. Makes no sense.
Well, that's his problem. Why go counseling when you're not addressing the real issue?
Seem like a waste of time and money, for everyone.
If he got himself a hot young fit college woman, I can guarantee his all his boredom, anxiety, low libido or whatever health issues will all disappear. LOl
Well, that's his problem. Why go counseling when you're not addressing the real issue?
Seem like a waste of time and money, for everyone.
If he got himself a hot young fit college woman, I can guarantee his all his boredom, anxiety, low libido or whatever health issues will all disappear. LOl
There's a chance that another woman would "solve" the OP's libido issues, but there's also a 100% chance he will carry his own same old problems into any new relationship if he doesn't get to the bottom of them.
There's a chance that another woman would "solve" the OP's libido issues, but there's also a 100% chance he will carry his own same old problems into any new relationship if he doesn't get to the bottom of them.
Why do sessions last so long if it's not in the quest of her O? Nice and slow is good sometimes, but sometimes you just want to get in and out quickly (NPI).
For me personally I am an unselfish lover and want to please the woman first before we worry about me, so her orgasm is my number one priority. When it comes to sex, I usually last around 45 minutes to an hour or longer, there is no get in and out quickly with me, i always let the girl know beforehand i last a long time.
Maybe low sex drive wasn't the most precise term. But my lack of desiring sex (at least that I'm consciously aware of) stems from the original post.
I mean, I felt bad about referencing weight. I assumed people would think I was shallow for it. But I thought it was good to be upfront when posting here.
Fair.
She likes to spend a very significant amount of time on foreplay (like 30+ minutes) which is where I begin to get bored.
Foreplay for me is the most fun part, not what I receive but when I am giving, when I am pleasuring a girl with foreplay I usually go for about 30 minutes, but I can see how it can be boring for a lot of people who rather get to sex. I like to really pre-heat the oven.
It's your first relationship, so maybe the two of you are not as open about sex as you should be. You'll have to admit, sharing your issues with complete strangers instead of your partner should feel a bit counter-intuitive.
Talk with her about what you like and what you don't. Encourage her to do the same. Do it respectfully and see if there is some common ground in which the two of you agree.
What you'll typically find is, the less you hold back, the more you will gain from the experience. It can be kinda fun figuring out what the other person likes.
If she isn't having the big O, you haven't discovered what she needs to get there. If you love her, you should take that on as a challenge to figure out how to get you there. She should do the same.
I agree 100%, the last girl I dated, we had a rule where we were an open book with each other and nothing was held back in every aspect. we were honest about everything, and it really made for a lot of fun in all aspects.
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