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My wife has a theory about relationships. To her, the ultimate predictor of longevity in a relationship isn't necessarily similar political views or liking the same things, but having equivalent levels of slobness. If one of you just doffs your duds on the floor when going to bed while the other one hangs everything up, et al, then it creates this constant tension in your common life.
My wife and I, on the neatness/OCD scale are right about a 6. Our house doesn't look like something out of Hoarders, but we'll let things slide for a couple of days. Mind you, I will make the bed every morning and I can't stand to go to sleep with a messy kitchen, but I don't freak out if the newspaper is on the floor for a couple of hours. And if it gets too bad, something will snap in me and I'll just start picking up.
But, on the other hand, if you have someone who is a 2 on the slobness scale who is involved with a 9, everything becomes a battle. "Don't leave that glass on the counter. Put it in the dishwasher." "Are you going to pick that up?" "You need to put that away." Neither side is necessarily wrong, but both sides are major-league irritating the other. And those conflicts arise every hour you're together, something that simply doesn't happen with differing political views.
All of this just described me and my husband (the part about you and your wife) and the other part described a couple that I know. She is severely OCD and a neat freak. Her husband is a neat freak too but if anyone leaves a glass on the counter or a dish in the sink, she totally flips out.
For me, being dirty is different than being a bit of a slob. Yeah, I get a little OCD at times because but we both work and have a busy teenager so sometimes life gets in the way.
Someone filthy would be a deal breaker. A little on the sloppy side, no problem.
Ha, I have a lady friend that mocked me for vacuuming every time before she came over... Old carpeting just looks so icky so easily.
I really really like to cook and bake and do lot of things but I really really don't like to clean after. I would be perfect match with a guy who would like to clean but not bake
The hands down funnest, funniest, most easy going, intelligent....etc most perfect woman for me, ever. was, to be kind about it... pretty slobby. Felix Unger level. I couldn't complain too much. I'm on the slob spectrum myself, if its left up to me. Every woman before, or since, has been pretty OCD. I had come to associate that with 'normal'. It kind of bothered me that my ex broke all those rules. Yeah we had major league fun, day and night, but I thought... ... what's wrong... she should be making me clean up the house with her. Thing is, all that tidying, and making sure the kitchen is always put to bed ready for an "Architectural Digest" photo shoot first thing in the morning. All that sorting, washing, folding laundry. All that housework takes time. That's why most LTR's and marriages don't have all that much, you know. Takes it's toll. Admit it. It does. So we broke up. The next woman I was with was more conventionally OCD. Keeps me hopping to this day. I wish it had worked out with my ex. Given the choice again, I'm choosing the slob.
Hi Leise! Just to be a PITA nitpicker...it was Oscar Madison who was the slob.
I think part of the reason the last woman started seeing another guy is because I delayed having her over. I'm not the tidiest person. She wanted to come over, and I always told her I had to clean. From Aug-Dec I didn't have her over.
One of my exes would leave his dirty clothes on the floor instead of putting them in the hamper that was only just a few feet away and my other ex wouldn't soak whatever dishes or pots and pans he used and would leave them in the sink or on the counter.
This is me, and I'm the wife. "Neat-niking" is, for me, a waste of fretful energy. I would have to be a deal-breaker for an OCD man (and those that are, are REAL neat-freaky), because it just wouldn't work. My current husband accepts me as things are but he's not much neater. Therefore, our house always looks lived-in.
I think part of the reason the last woman started seeing another guy is because I delayed having her over. I'm not the tidiest person. She wanted to come over, and I always told her I had to clean. From Aug-Dec I didn't have her over.
How long would it take you to clean your place? 2-3 months? Lol
I think part of the reason the last woman started seeing another guy is because I delayed having her over. I'm not the tidiest person. She wanted to come over, and I always told her I had to clean. From Aug-Dec I didn't have her over.
Once you had her over, what happened?
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and my other ex wouldn't soak whatever dishes or pots and pans he used and would leave them in the sink or on the counter. 
