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I'm 22 years old and he's 26. We've been together for 4 years and I know he's my soul mate & best friend but I'm so nervous about telling him. We weren't planning on having a baby and I don't even know how it happened. I think I may have forgotten to take my birth control pill one time because I don't see how else it could have happened.
I'm freaking out because I don't know how he's going to react. I'll be honest and admit that kids and babies aren't my forte but I really don't want to have an abortion.
I already feel connected to my baby and I've only known about the pregnancy for 3 months. I'm still not showing so he doesn't suspect anything but every time I decide to tell him I just chicken out.
I feel like the more I put it off, the more hurt he'll be that I didn't tell him sooner. What's the best approach to take when telling him I'm pregnant?
Hopefully your boyfriend is up for kids! You really need to tell him ASAP. He may not react well because you lied by not telling him when you knew. You don't keep this information quiet.
In my day, your situation would have triggered an automatic abortion and I know many women who went on to have long, happy, and productive lives (and kids) afterward.
However, since you're very young and have probably waited past the abortion limit- is your boyfriend husband material? Does he have a steady job or profession? Does he want to marry you? Why haven't you asked him to marry you already since you found out you were pregnant? Do you have a job or profession that will support both you and a child who will need day care and have a lot of expenses?
If the answers to the above are negative, think long and hard about having and keeping this baby. It's a great way to ruin young lives- both yours and his- since he will resent the H out of you!! That's why you're so afraid of mentioning it. There is adoption as an option if he rejects you.
I couldn't imagine myself putting off something major that affects my life for 3 months like that.
And u shouldn't. Since an abortion isn't something u will do, no matter what he will find out eventually. And more importantly he deserves to know, since it's half his.
You need to just come out and tell him. Don't expect him to take it well at first, given the circumstances. But you never know over time he might warm to the situation.
Wait, so you've been with him for four years and he's your soulmate, but you've never talked about children or the future or what you'd do if you got pregnant?
You need to tell him. Now. At this point staying silent is manipulative.
You could tell him, "I'm pregnant", its been known to work.
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I vote for this. Just tell him.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 07-21-2017 at 07:57 AM..
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