I want to get revenge on an abusive, manipulative ex-girlfriend (girl, single)
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OP, instead of seeking revenge on her, put some effort into understanding yourself, and why you put up with that for so long. She sounds mentally ill, like a raging narcissist. They're hypersensitive to criticism, but love to dish it out.
Anyway, make sure you never put up with abuse again. Just walk away when you see red flags, and the person isn't willing to talk about your concerns. Don't be an enabler of your own abuse.
I did enable a lot of it. I think it was because of the fact that I was never in a serious relationship before and I was just happy to be in one, even despite all the abuse and other things I had to put up with. I think she may be a narcissist too but it’s so hard to believe because when we met, she was so nice to me.
Instead of her being the bad one, it will just be you carrying out her vengeful tasks. If you succumb to these impulses, it will prove that she still has control over you.
Choosing NOT to do it will be the way to put her in her place once and for all.
If you do what you describe you'll end up publicly identifying yourself as a "mark" and may end up attracting more women with similar qualities to your psycho ex. If you are looking to get past this and never repeat it again your plan is the exact opposite of what you ought to do.
Because if I do nothing, then she leaves unscathed and I’ll be the only one who’s hurt from this. I want to hurt her in some way as well (not physically).
That’s not a mature or healthy response, OP. I suggest you go to counseling for this, honestly, so you can find a way to be okay with it on your end without being poisoned by your own (justifiable but useless) anger.
Revenge will not help you feel better, just move on and totally forget about her. That's what will help you.
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