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I was wondering that myself. It seems a bit arrogant to believe every woman has the exact same approach to her own sexuality. Maybe that's true for men?
Arrogant?
Sounds pathetic; "she slept with me, she'll sleep with anyone".
I l am 29/M. I met a 45 year old woman online a couple years ago for a drink. She thought I was too young for her after our first date so there wasn’t a second date.
A couple weeks ago I hit her up to see how she was doing. We started talking and we were going to boating on a lake instead. It rained today so we decided on dinner tomorrow night instead.
She insists it’s not a date but she’s letting me pick her up etc.
Planning on bringing her a bottle of wine when i pick her up, invite myself in when I drop her off and try to escalate.
As far as a plan, that’s all I have lol. It’s worked in the past and hasn’t worked in the past.
Any other tips?
You are to young for her for anything long term but for the present and the next few years enjoy it.
"Romantic mood elements"? Smooth jazz? That's so cliche. It's like something from a 50's or 60's movie. I think I saw one with Peter Sellers in it, that was kind of a spoof on the 60's, that had that. It had a round bed in it, too.
The thing is, you can't orchestrate romance; you can't program it on your sound system, according to a script. That's what people are laughing at, or objecting to, here. What if she hates smooth jazz? Romantic moments, to some extent, are serendipitous, unpredictable. They happen when the chemistry between two people is right, and they can happen anywhere, anytime. That's the magic of it all. Without that chemistry, no amount of smooth jazz can make them happen. lol. Hilarious!
Lava lamps and a heart-shaped bed to add to the ensemble. I think this is one of those guys that try to influence young men, because they'll fall for the BS lol
I hope we lose this mindset of "having sex early in relationships = easy." You can have sex early and still play the "long game." But no one should do something they are uncomfortable with, and you should make your decisions based on what makes you feel comfortable and the pace that works for you.
First, I'd like to apologize for my indelicate comment earlier in the topic. I should have found a different way to make my statement.
Perhaps I may have a different idea of what constitutes "long game" than others. To me that means getting to know your partner very well over a period of months with repeat dating. That's inconsistent with having sex on the third date, at least in my opinion.
My logic is that having a sexual relationship is going influence my feelings towards my partner, and I'd like to fall in love with a clear head not influenced by sexual thoughts. The decision point is when both partners have decided they want to be together for the foreseeable future. That's when the sexual relationship can begin.
Perhaps my definition is different than others perceive but I've thought it over a lot and I believe that will work best for me. Women I have discussed it with agree with me.
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How is it logical to think that a woman choosing to have sex with one guy means she'd have sex with any guy?
How is it logical to think that a woman who chooses to have sex with one guy will probably turn into a cheater?
It isn't logical at all, even the most avowed hedonist and ethical sloot women I know are very picky and sleep with a TINY TINY minority of men that want to sleep with them.
And it has nothing to do with cheating either.
It also contributes to the mentality that if a woman has sex with (other) men she is some how "worth" less or is less desirable.
I'm just saying that I'm not interested in sex outside of a committed, exclusive relationship. The women who get me most interested have expressed the same desire.
It doesn't bother me at all what other people choose to do. That's their right and none of my business. I had casual sex in my teens and 20s, I grew more conservative and mature in my 30s and the casual sex got replaced with relationship only sex with just one woman.
Just exactly how is this off-topic discussion going to help Mr. Going on a date tonight? And I already apologized for my poor presentation earlier in the topic.
It was a spoof of secret agent films if I recall correctly.
You mean, there was more than one film by that description? lol. No, the one I was remembering was where he falls for a flower-child chick, so he adopted all the accouterments of that style, even though he was an older guy.
Oh, I just checked and our OP hasn't returned to the forum since 13 hours after he posted the topic opener.
I don't know that thee is any point to this topic at this late date. All we have left is to do is speculate until/unless he returns.
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You mean, there was more than one film by that description? lol. No, the one I was remembering was where he falls for a flower-child chick, so he adopted all the accouterments of that style, even though he was an older guy.
Even if there were more than one of them, how would you remember the difference? I obviously didn't.
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