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If this is what you think, you’ll never find someone to live with you successfully. Accept this and move forward.
Yes,you like rescuers, but it sounds like you try to take back the control you think was taken from you by the losers by being super controlling of everyone else.
You need to stop trying to date and get extensive therapy.
I have been in therapy for years. I have done couple counseling in two of my relationships. It always ends with the therapist saying I don’t need to come, they need to see him by himself. Which happens for a session or two and they bail... I predict that would be the same with the current one. He has trust issues with everyone. He always thinks everyone is out to get him. He feels like he is not loved and has no control. He always says he has no say in anything. I asked him last night what it is that he thinks he was not included in and he could not give an example, he just kept gaslighting that no one respects him. I actually pointed out that unless my mother sets the place, he always decides where we are eating.
I have a high self esteem. I know my worth. Trust when I should.
My sons father was unmedicated bipolar. The therapist thought I was a saint for weathering those highs and lows for 7 years.
I have been in therapy for years. I have done couple counseling in two of my relationships. It always ends with the therapist saying I don’t need to come ...
I don’t believe this at all.
Well I can believe that one therapist might have said something similar but if anyone told you you don’t need to come you need a new therapist.
You “know your worth,” yet somehow you manage to link up and have kids with a string of losers, yet you don’t need help, don’t need to change and do everything the right way.
No legitimate therapist, even in your backwater town, would listen to your history and say, “Baby girl, you’re fine. Go on home and let me set him straight.”
Well I can believe that one therapist might have said something similar but if anyone told you you don’t need to come you need a new therapist.
I have gone to three different therapists. Not including my children’s therapists over the years that we have done family sessions. So yes been there and done that.
It would work fine. He pays for a life insurance policy which benefits me, and I am not without financial resources.
Edit: that sounds cold. It would be fine financially. Emotionally, I would be grief-stricken.
And that is good for you, as it should be (Im sure the OP hasnt done that). But be that as it may, you would still have to move out of the home that you consider yours, unless it is willed to you. Is it?
And that is good for you, as it should be (Im sure the OP hasnt done that). But be that as it may, you would still have to move out of the home that you consider yours, unless it is willed to you. Is it?
What is wrong with me specifically that I only attract damaged men? Maybe I can just google it and resolve it my self.
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