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So short story I go out with this dude 7 times. He was clearly more interested. He texted, double texted, was very nice etc. Not pushing anything out of the norm. Paid for every date and insisted he pays. And then nothing. After that, he just vanished.
Now I disclosed I am moving out of state at date 3 so that should not be a surprise or whatever. I was looking for something casual but not just hooking up at his place. And just as I was finally ready to have sex he decided to ghost me. Maybe he was looking for sex and ended up with someone who decided to go for it so there is no incentive? Still, have 7 dates and give up? I suppose he maybe didn't get the hint I was ready.
I go online to see is this a thing and apparently, it is. Ghosting is not just after 1 or 2 dates. It can happen anytime. Some say even after a whole year. Online stories might be the worst of the worst but this is so disheartening. Is it really that hard to break it off with someone? If you invested time and money in that person why can't you have the courtesy to at least make up some excuses to end things?
I feel like dating is a contest who can care less and we should assume they will vanish and plan accordingly. I literally have to date more than one person since at least one will do this stuff.
Is this really a current state of dating? Am I exaggerating? Where you ghosted after more than 5 dates?
This is nothing new. Should how a few (or many) people act affect the way you act? No. Keep your core values and beliefs. One key thing to remember is that you are not going to be the right fit for everyone you date nor is everyone you date the right fit for you. Move on to the next. Don't become jaded. And good luck.
The problem is that he said he would like to see me, he even said what day works.
I did mention my possible trip to another state I am moving so maybe he finally realized I really am moving. From my past experiences when men check out after date 2 or 3 if sex is what they are after and it's not happening. Guys who invested 7 dates generally wanted to get something out of it.
I mean I know it is probably not the best to assume the worst but if we keep our hopes up and believe in people but if they keep disappointing me that would get old fast. I don't want to be one of those jaded women.
Hmm I still don’t see the problem. He paid good money and put in effort to give you a good time; which you should be thankful for. You defined the parameters of the relationship from the start and those parameters were met.
Maybe just send him a thank you note and wish him well upon life and you can handle your move?
I haven't been ghosted after more than 5 dates, but society does have a disposable mentality these days. I cannot stand it. I did date a woman about 5-6 dates who introduced me to her kids and then ended it. That was so weird because I took them to the zoo and they seemed to like me. I'm pretty good with kids. Anyway, I have been ghosted lots, but usually after 1-2 dates.
Men and women are ghosted on which is all part of the online/dating game
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