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God, I hope you aren't a real person - please be a troll. Real men like this give all men a bad name.
Here's the best thing I can say to you at this point - grow up. And learn to tell the truth - unless you WANT to be a man of no character for the rest of your life.
Oh, and please do the world a favor and don't procreate until you do grow up and find your conscience.
I THIRD that!!! It has been said that where a man is by the age of 34 i.e. emotionally.... is indicative of his character the rest of his life.
Sorry to think, this one is a lost cause with no chance for rehabilitation unless he takes a looooooong hard look at himself, that is IF he even wants to change. He probably doesn't even think there's something wrong with this picture.
Once again, ego driven wants and needs for instant gratification with no regard for anyone else's feelings. It's an epidemic!
God, I hope you aren't a real person - please be a troll. Real men like this give all men a bad name.
Here's the best thing I can say to you at this point - grow up. And learn to tell the truth - unless you WANT to be a man of no character for the rest of your life.
Oh, and please do the world a favor and don't procreate until you do grow up and find your conscience.
I will second that !!!! I am just glad I am not dating you! HA.. (maybe I am LOL) GEEEZZZZZZ. hahahahahahah what a crazy thread this is.
Well, regarding maturity levels, it is hard to convey a lot of things on message boards, and it is not possible to present the entire picture here, so I can understand where it would appear that I am immature. But, on message boards, you lose a lot of nuance that normally would be conveyed with face-to-face conversation.
Regarding her behavior, I dont really know how to describe it other than "stalker". I guess she doesnt really stalk me, but more like, "pestered" me with the non-stop phone calls when I wouldnt answer the phone, buzzing, text message terrorism, etc. But the reason I let her do this to me, is I am a very compassionate person and this has been my weak spot with relationships. I am always trying to better people's lives when they come in contact with me and maybe I have paid a price for that.
But I would not say that just because I want to be attracted to the person that I am attracted to, makes me immature or shallow; for example, I am not really attracted to women who are too overweight, or too "flat chested" (they look like little boys without a shirt on and it is disturbing to me). Just like, some women prefer to date "only tall guys", etc. They are not shallow, they are entitled to date/marry guys who they are attracted to, why cant men do the same as well?
I agree...
I happen to be that kind of woman more easily attracted to tall guys...
But, I am not shallow in any means.....
I also agree that marriage is like a pair of shoes that you have to wear everyday. If you find any discomfort, most likely it or she or he doesn't fit you!
Where to find the perfect shoes? No magic really! A long and lonely journey, a lot of pain as price to pay......
Sorry, it sounds harsh. But it is all worthy it if you find the perfect one.
I really dont understand why people have a problem with me being choosy.
Are all women who want "only tall guys" pigs too? If you ever read Match.com, all you will see are women who claim that they are "ONLY attracted" to guys who are 6'0" or taller. No other guy will do it for them. Are they pigs, for wanting what they want? There really are women, who are obsessed with height. They would rather be single, and herd cats the rest of their life, then "settle" for guys who are not that tall. Are they pigs? Or shallow? Just a rhetorical question...maybe they are shallow. But that is the environment that we live in in this country.
So you're trying to justify yourself for being a bit superficial by complaining that women want tall men?
It's called "nature" for a woman to want a tall man. She feels like "looking up" is a sign of masculinity and strength. But to think that only women in the U.S. want tall guys....dude, you're stuck in a box.
Go out there and find someone with less complication, less drama, better sex, bigger boobs, all the etc that you need to be happy - and want to stay around for. Don't force the relationship because others feel she is great. They do not see her behind closed doors. After all, YOU didn't get to choose THEIR spouse, did you?? The day that you get to select other peoples mate(s) is the day that they have a say in yours.
Thanks for everyone's opinions, I really appreciate them.
Regarding the issue, I know the right thing to do is break up with her, I just figured I would get some anonymous opinions from people I dont know, as opposed to getting opinions from my family (they have tried pushing me into marriage for many years, and just never felt it was for me). After her stalking behavior, i did establish boundaries with her and advised her that if she ever tried this again, I would break up, and she has been respectful since then. She means well and although I think she would be a good mother, i think that the whole situation with her is not for me and I am going to go back to being single again.
Which now leads me to my second question: Aside from this relationship, I have to confess, I also have a "secret girlfriend" on the side, I sometimes tell my existing GF that I need some space and time alone, and even though she fights this, she respects it, and in those nights where I "need my space", I hve this other girl come over. Yes, I am cheating on my existing GF with this other girl. If I move to Dallas, I am going to have to break up with BOTH of them. What is the best way to end it with the other girl?
Also, one night I left my email logged in by accident, and my existing "stalker" GF looked at my mail when i was asleep, and she saw the back and forth emails from the other girl. She confronted me about it, and I had to lie about it. I told her that it was an ex who still keeps in touch with me, but that there is nothing going on. What is the best way to end this type of relationship? Is there a good way?
I do not think you are a pig, as some have deemed. You just need to work on being assertive and get your principles in order. Stand up for yourself - but stand for something. Remember - the worst truth IS better than the best lie. Good luck!
Whoa, whoa...you're CHEATING on her? I didn't see that until I did!
Now you've made it worse. "Two wrongs don't make a right." You got a chick on da side? Do you really need a woman to validate you? You really need some help.
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