Free to a good home.... (date, therapy, cheat, call)
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One loving, caring, gentle giant free to a good home. I am a good earner, father, and lover. I am house broken and trained to do domestic duties. I love kids and work with a group that tries to get kids off the streets and out of gangs.(having been a gang member in my youth) I don't drink very much. I do smoke but have set 3-31 as the day I quit. I drive fast cars and push them to the limit. I am forgiving up to the point of a problem being repetitive. I listen, even when I don't like what I am hearing. I don't travel with my business. My office can be anywhere the internet is available. I have two beautiful boys that drive me to be the best man I can be. I work hard and play hard. I don't ask for much. Just rub my belly to let me know you care. Oh and if something were to come up during said belly rubbing.... rub that too......
After having a huge fight with my soon to be ex, I sat down and asked myself... Self are you really that bad?
You poor thing!
I'm female and will not take her side, as I have been her. That was before I realized the mistakes I was making in dealing with a man.
I made the extremely wrong decision to complain to my mom about him, which set her off to hate his guts. She did till the day she died. What goes on between a couple is no one's business, unless done as you have, in an anyomous thread.
Our miscommunication got worse over the years...I lost respect for him, he got angry, I slept on the sofa, he got depressed, frustrated and abusive. We split up (another story).
I have learned my lesson. My man gets all the attention he needs, I listen to him, cooperate with his plans (as they will benefit both of us), I cook for him, do the laundry (he mixes colors!), keep house (he helps), be the secretary for our small business and I work, too. In return, I have a man that is happy, satisfied, knows he is loved and faithful. He is the ultimate provider, can fix or build anything and reeks masculinity.
Too bad you two can't at least tolerate each other until the kids are up and out. A split will hurt them for life. Between the two of you, it should really be about the kids, not yourselves. But what can you do?
Ahhhh...you are one smart lady Good for you for figuring this stuff out and finding the key to a happy marriage for you!
Well, I know you feel pretty beat up - a bad marriage, ESPECIALLY when there are kids involved, will do that to you.
You've tried fitting round pegs into square holes too long - while marriage is work, it's not supposed to be a sentence to hard labor for the rest of your life!!
Keeping it real. Loves I did my share of stupid, unthoughtful, mean, inconsiderate crap. Just not so much in the last say 8 years. Not long after my first son was born I started going to counseling and really getting my crap together. I think my wife has the need to fix screwed up people. Once (i am not saying I am perfect) I pretty much had it together, the light started shining more and more on her. She has refused to grow. She wants to go back and fight over things that are 10 years old or more. I never was abusive or the yelling type. I would just flake out and take off for a few days, usually chasing work, sometimes just chasing the white line on the road. I never really listened when I got home and she was yelling about if you ever and this and that. I would ignore it and usually go to sleep during the but chewing. Our first year married I took off to Cali for new years and went to the most western point on the west coast. Hahaha running from the new year. I had a really jacked childhood and saw myself becoming like my father.
It opened my eyes and I went to see a pro. Anyway here we are roughly 9 years later and I am a different man. Still got a few things to work on. Hopefully I can get it right next time.
: "My co workers say I am right.", "The girls at work tell me I don't have to deal with you.", "Why can't you just deal with it".(These co workers have never been around me. They have never seen US together and are simply making a judgment based on how she presents the problem.).
No doubt these co-workers are all divorced or in miserable marriages. So many happy relationships are ruined by outside instigators who want everyone to be as hateful and miserable as they are.
Your soon-to-be-ex is mad at you because she wants everything to be story-book perfect and its YOUR fault that it isn't. Until she grows up and realizes that the universe does not revolve around her and what she wants and what she thinks, she is not going to be happy. You cannot fix her. You can only make the best life for yourself and try to make it as painless as possible for your children.
Women like that give all of us females a bad name.
And really, who gives a flying f*** what her co-workers say? That's a lame argument on her part!
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