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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, and he won't add me as a friend on Facebook. He's told me that he doesn't log on to Facebook very often and pretty much all the people who are on his friends list added him first and he doesn't talk to them. He has a private profile, however, so I can't see who his friends are or how often he uses the site. I have jokingly complained to him about not adding me because I didn't want to make a big deal about it, but it really hurts my feelings because it makes me think that he either doesn't think very much of me or doesn't want to publicly acknowledge our relationship to his friends. I've never sent him a friend request because I don't want to be rejected by MY OWN BOYFRIEND, but he knows that I would gladly accept if he sent one to me. I understand that social networking sites have the potential to cause drama in relationships, so that's why I haven't really pushed the issue, but am I wrong to feel even somewhat slighted by this??
Yes, you are wrong to feel slighted by this, if you haven't taken any steps to add him first.
Many people feel embarassed by social networking, or the general idea of allowing a computer to have any influence on one's social life. I believe these people feel that they are 'above it', or possibly harbor some fear that their peers will look at them in a negative light. I'd say it was a negative trait, but some of my favorite people think this way.
Well, my boyfriend has a Facebook and I have a Myspace. Neither of us are online that much so it's never really been a huge deal. I do have pics of him on my page and vice versa but I only have friends on my page so they all know him anyway. I'm wondering why you even have a FB if the people on it aren't really your friends.
In regards to your situation, if it bothers you that much tell him it bothers you. There's no point in walking around with hurt feelings if you're not going to address the issue. If you have no concerns with him cheating - I don't see why this bothers you. If you do have concerns with him cheating, then I think FB is the least of your worries, unless you're just looking for proof.
On a side note, it annoys me to no end when girlfriends post pics of themselves in their bf's comments or leave little graphic "I love you messages" I guess they're trying to mark their territory.
Oh yes, I've seen those before as well! Nothing more annoying than witnessing the girlfriend (or boyfriend) "parading" their relationship on there. ONCE is sweet -- just once. Beyond that, it's marking the territory.
whats funny about myspace is
when i first joined it was a free website to promote bands
so i enjoyed it cause all the bands on there would post info
(tour dates, new releases and so on)
it was like getting all your favorite bands mailing list in one email
and next thing you know more and more people start showing up on there
and BAMM
now its pop culture
i dont mind chit-chating with old h.school buds and so on
but does any one really care what mood im in or what my status is
and now people post every damm thing they are doing on myspace f.b. and twitter
who cares what others are doing
i think ill blog that "im going to take a dump and read the paper"
and see "how many people like this"
and then of course the spammers, porn bot's and junk mailers
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, and he won't add me as a friend on Facebook. He's told me that he doesn't log on to Facebook very often and pretty much all the people who are on his friends list added him first and he doesn't talk to them. He has a private profile, however, so I can't see who his friends are or how often he uses the site. I have jokingly complained to him about not adding me because I didn't want to make a big deal about it, but it really hurts my feelings because it makes me think that he either doesn't think very much of me or doesn't want to publicly acknowledge our relationship to his friends. I've never sent him a friend request because I don't want to be rejected by MY OWN BOYFRIEND, but he knows that I would gladly accept if he sent one to me. I understand that social networking sites have the potential to cause drama in relationships, so that's why I haven't really pushed the issue, but am I wrong to feel even somewhat slighted by this??
IF you dont trust him you shouldnt be with him...and if you trusted him it wouldnt matter
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, and he won't add me as a friend on Facebook. He's told me that he doesn't log on to Facebook very often and pretty much all the people who are on his friends list added him first and he doesn't talk to them. He has a private profile, however, so I can't see who his friends are or how often he uses the site. I have jokingly complained to him about not adding me because I didn't want to make a big deal about it, but it really hurts my feelings because it makes me think that he either doesn't think very much of me or doesn't want to publicly acknowledge our relationship to his friends. I've never sent him a friend request because I don't want to be rejected by MY OWN BOYFRIEND, but he knows that I would gladly accept if he sent one to me. I understand that social networking sites have the potential to cause drama in relationships, so that's why I haven't really pushed the issue, but am I wrong to feel even somewhat slighted by this??
Do you think that perhaps he has things on his Facebook page he doesn't want you to see? I would think that this would be the reason he doesn't want you on his friends list. I had a relative on my facebook page and the pictures she was putting on there irked me so badly that I had to delete her. She is a grown woman but the drinking, hanging all over guys and the low cut shirts with her boobs hanging out got to me. It was just too much so in order to keep me from speaking my mind about these photos, I deleted her. Some things are best left unsaid and best left unposted.
Yes, sometimes these social websites can create issues so you have to be careful who you talk to, what you say, what you post for photos and who you put on your friends list. I go on there to speak to a lot of my friends in Maine and I absolutely am addicted to Farm Town..fun game...I am also 61 years old and there isn't much I can say, do or post that will get me into trouble.
Confront your boyfriend and ask him if he has someone or something on his facebook page that he doesn't want you to see....I would ask in a heart beat.
and now people post every damm thing they are doing on myspace f.b. and twitter
who cares what others are doing
i think ill blog that "im going to take a dump and read the paper"
and see "how many people like this"
HILARIOUS.
I agree though. I think it's okay to "check in" a few times a day, but I have friends who post every little thing that they're doing throughout the day. Why do I need to know that your just changed your underwear?
I think this just adds to the "I need to have access to you every single moment of the day" mentality that people have at times.
I hate to be so blunt but it's just the internet and I think you're taking it too seriously. It's reasons like this that I'm glad that my SO doesn't have a facebook or myspace account.
Just because he has an account and just because you're dating doesn't mean that he HAS to add you to his friends list. If my mother sent me a friend request I don't have to accept it, do I? No.
If you spend a lot of time together in person then maybe he just wants some privacy, some part of his life that is his that you're not part of. While that does sort of suck in some aspects, and it could seem a little suspicious, he does have the right.
How about I take a dump while eating Pringles fat-free chips and reading the newspaper
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