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Originally Posted by TKramar
I think that it is typical for intelligent, rational men to be somewhat aloof. Just my thoughts.
I don't know why an intelligent man would abuse alcohol though.
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Because humans, whatever their IQ, are not particularly rational beings.
Addictions rule and ruin many a life, genius or dolt.
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Originally Posted by LaoTzuMindFu
I didnt read any of the responses yet but here's my thoughts:
First of all, people will probably respond with two different schools of thought:
1. Dont change anything about who you are, you shouldnt have to change yourself to find someone. Or......
2. You need to change who you are if you keep attracting certain types of people that you seem to be unhappy about attracting.
I say you need to look at yourself and find out WHY you seem to attract guys who are losers/not what you want. If that means changing who you are I say by all means do it. I feel sorry for anyone who is the same person today, that they were 2-5-10 years ago. People should always strive to learn and better themselves and this involves evolving and becoming a different/better person each day. In all these relationships YOU are the common denominator so you need to take a look in the mirror to find out what you must change about you and what you must change about what you want in a mate then go from there.
Me personally, I can honestly say that I am NOT the same person I was a year ago. I am NOT the same person I was 5 years ago. Why? Because I am ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS working on myself to become better and better and I think this is something that ALL humans should be doing.
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The line that caught my eye is "the way I'm marketing myself."
During my single years, I got to know a few women. Some were absolutely wonderful, one in particular had enough pathologies for 10 people.
It's a difficult process, but I learned a lot. As Lao Tzu ^^ says, working on your own issues is the way to change your life.
I spent years working on my spiritual and other aspects of my life. Eventually the planets lined up, I met my wife, the rest is history.
If you want real people who have genuine qualities, quit "marketing" yourself and just be you.
And remember there are various types of intelligence. Some "intelligent" folks don't know how to check oil or change a flat. Some "less intelligent" people can make stuff out of nothing, do more with less, create devices that do cool things, like McGuyver.
I grew up in what would be called an intellectual home. In the army, I was exposed to what you would probably call a bunch of crazy hillbillies. Yet they had devised an ingenius device that went on the back of a truck and laid cable eight reels at a time.
These guys could solve just about any problem, and work fast and hard rather than just hard. They were also very funny, and had loads of common sense.
Would they pass muster at a snobby cocktail party? NO. But who cares?
So...if you want change,
you should change.
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