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Originally Posted by andreaspercheron
You're definitely not old fashioned for thinking this. I think when you make a decision to have sex that early on, you are really showing how little respect you have for yourself and your values.
Of course the guy is letting her spend the night at his house, she's giving it up! LOL
I'm 21 yrs old & I totally agree w/ everything you just said.
No, hon you are not too old fashioned if you do not want to have sex on the first date. My suggestion would be if you want to see him again, make him wait!
I don't know. I gave it up to my husband on the first date and I think he was hooked.
I'm not sure that's the norm though! I have a male friend who always says he'll ''marry the woman who doesn't sleep with [me] on the first night out.'' Now I think that's great that it worked out for you but I would NEVER give my daughter that advice!
And yes of course there is a double standard and not one that I can explain, but it's there for some reason!
I'm the same way. I don't think sex is good until you have established mutual appreciation and common ground first which might take more than just a few dates.
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Originally Posted by lilred0005
I have a friend who met a girl a week ago, they had sex after their first date, and she's already spent the nite twice at his house. Am I just old fashioned for thinking this is really not a good thing? They've only known each other for a wk and are already hooking up. What do you guys really think about a woman who will have sex with you after only one date? Do you think it's fine and you would persue a relationship? I'm starting to feel really out of it because I see this a lot but I just don't agree with it. I'm not saying one has to wait for marriage, but sex with someone I just met is not an option for me. What do you all think?
Actually, my advice is find a guy that is like you. Somebody who doesn't require sex like a pig and somebody you can have mutual appreciation with.
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Originally Posted by yankeegirl313
No, hon you are not too old fashioned if you do not want to have sex on the first date. My suggestion would be if you want to see him again, make him wait!
I'm not big on immediate sex either, although I can definitely understand if the chemistry is sparking everywhere and it just comes naturally.
However, I think when someone has sex so quickly and easily, it makes the other person (and vice versa) wonder if they always have sex so soon and with a bunch of other people.
I like to wait a little... let the anticipation grow.
Hey everyone, thanks for all the great replies. As far as those who said their sex on the first date led to marriage or a LTR, that's great and if it works(worked) for you then it must of been the right thing for you. I just don't think it's the right thing for me and I can't see ever taking that route. I'm sorry if this came off as judgemental, different strokes for different folks, right?!
I have a friend who met a girl a week ago, they had sex after their first date, and she's already spent the nite twice at his house. Am I just old fashioned for thinking this is really not a good thing? They've only known each other for a wk and are already hooking up. What do you guys really think about a woman who will have sex with you after only one date? Do you think it's fine and you would persue a relationship? I'm starting to feel really out of it because I see this a lot but I just don't agree with it. I'm not saying one has to wait for marriage, but sex with someone I just met is not an option for me. What do you all think?
Well if you are old fashioned, I am really old fashioned. Marriage vows should come before sex. I don't understand why women allow themselves to be so cheap.
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I gave it up to my husband on the first date and I think he was hooked. 
