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The way to solve an issue is not by slinging insults back and forth.... that's the grade school approach.
Obviously I didn't ask him because I was trying to insult him, but I don't feel bad asking him a question I'm genuinely curious about now because of the things he has said to me previously.
I bet it has nothing to do with fat. He has just lost sexual interest in you, or in himself. The honeymoon is over.
The honeymoon stage ends after the first year. We're in year 5.
This is the first time he's actually not put the blame all on me:
It really not all because of you obviously, there are some things wrong with me on why I don’t want to, maybe it’s because I don’t feel sexy enough or feel like I am not good enough or confident or something. I really feel bad for you, I mean it’s not fair to you, you like sex and want it. I especially feel bad when Ciara is always talking to you about it and every night they have something going on, I know you want that to and it’s not fair. I value who you are as a person and love how fun and smart and skilled you are and love hanging out with you and I don’t understand what happened to my mojo´ lol… (guess the reference)
So he starts it off by calling me fat and saying that I need to look like I did when I was 16, and now he's admitting that I might not be the entire problem. (imagine that!)
The honeymoon stage ends after the first year. We're in year 5.
This is the first time he's actually not put the blame all on me:
It really not all because of you obviously, there are some things wrong with me on why I don’t want to, maybe it’s because I don’t feel sexy enough or feel like I am not good enough or confident or something. I really feel bad for you, I mean it’s not fair to you, you like sex and want it. I especially feel bad when Ciara is always talking to you about it and every night they have something going on, I know you want that to and it’s not fair. I value who you are as a person and love how fun and smart and skilled you are and love hanging out with you and I don’t understand what happened to my mojo´ lol… (guess the reference)
So he starts it off by calling me fat and saying that I need to look like I did when I was 16, and now he's admitting that I might not be the entire problem. (imagine that!)
Anyone been in his shoes?
Well then consider that a small break-thru. I mean at least you have started the dialogue that may get to the root of the problem. Just keep asking questions (not mean ones) and hopefully he will reveal more.
It really not all because of you obviously, there are some things wrong with me on why I don’t want to, maybe it’s because I don’t feel sexy enough or feel like I am not good enough or confident or something. I really feel bad for you, I mean it’s not fair to you, you like sex and want it. I especially feel bad when Ciara is always talking to you about it and every night they have something going on, I know you want that to and it’s not fair. I value who you are as a person and love how fun and smart and skilled you are and love hanging out with you and I don’t understand what happened to my mojo´ lol… (guess the reference)
Bolded where I audibly laughed.
I've never heard a straight man utter such a thing in my life.
Oy Vey. What to say here, what to say...
Ma'am, I don't have any idea what started this relationship, or how it works, or whatever. But I feel confident in suggesting you move on.
Why is it rude, nasty, or disrespectful to ask if he's gay? She's trying to figure out why he's not into her. That could be a reason.
If a woman who had been with me for several years asked me that, I would very offended. It IS rude.
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I mean at least you have started the dialogue that may get to the root of the problem. Just keep asking questions (not mean ones) and hopefully he will reveal more.
