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...if he is not generous, its gonna be a dealbreaker. Not that its any ofyourbis, but I am saving money to start my own business. That makes things tight sometimes.
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Originally Posted by temptation001
if he fails to show his generosity, what good is he to me?
If he would rather spend $1000 on himself and his friends every month or so, without considering that I am the person he claims to love the most, how in hell am I supposed to beleive him? He can keep his money, I just won't be his girlfriend.
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Originally Posted by temptation001
Well that's not even close to what I said. Please reread my posts if you are refering to me.
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Again, if I am wrong, please correct me, but I believe you are presenting your definition of "generosity" in this thread as a guy who is offering to pay your bills.
So, from your above statements, if a guy is not generous (ie not willing to pay your bill) you will not be his girlfriend and he is no good to you.
We have a girl friend that is an absolute knockout and a real joy to be around. In her recent single life she had probably 4 guys she dated or were very close friends with who enjoyed taking her to the very high end stores to help her shop for things of luxury. The men enjoyed spending the money on her and she never asked or expected the gifts. She was just very appreciative in many ways but did nothing more than any couple who dates.
She was a pretty down to earth girl who didn't need all the expensive gifts, she told us later that after a few days she would return the gifts for cash.
The guys did it cause they wanted to, who was she to disappoint them?
We have a girl friend that is an absolute knockout and a real joy to be around. In her recent single life she had probably 4 guys she dated or were very close friends with who enjoyed taking her to the very high end stores to help her shop for things of luxury. The men enjoyed spending the money on her and she never asked or expected the gifts. She was just very appreciative in many ways but did nothing more than any couple who dates.
She was a pretty down to earth girl who didn't need all the expensive gifts, she told us later that after a few days she would return the gifts for cash.
The guys did it cause they wanted to, who was she to disappoint them?
That's horrible. Women like this give other women a bad name and make cranky guys like Ron start horrible threads. lol
If she didn't want the gifts, she should have never accepted them. A decent person would say "I'm flattered, but no thank you." Or "I'm just going to return the gifts for cash anyways, so why not just hand me your wallet."
Again, if I am wrong, please correct me, but I believe you are presenting your definition of "generosity" in this thread as a guy who is offering to pay your bills.
So, from your above statements, if a guy is not generous (ie not willing to pay your bill) you will not be his girlfriend and he is no good to you.
You said " Sounds like some women here are willing to dump a guy for not paying their bills." First of all, I would not even be a guy's girlfriend if he wasn't generous. So there would be no dumping involved.
Second of all, I never said he had to pay my bill. What bill? Is my electricity going to get cut off? Am I charging him for spending time with me? What bill? A phone bill? Please, some men will give a woman money freely that is more than all the bills combined. And nope, I wasn't making him do it, he would do it cause he can. Cause he wants to. Not because, I want a phone bill paid. LOL. That is really funny though, that someone would think that a woman like me is going to be with a man just because he paid my phone bill.
That's horrible. Women like this give other women a bad name and make cranky guys like Ron start horrible threads. lol
If she didn't want the gifts, she should have never accepted them. A decent person would say "I'm flattered, but no thank you." Or "I'm just going to return the gifts for cash anyways, so why not just hand me your wallet."
Decency, huh? Who says its indecent to be spoiled by men who want to spoil a woman they enjoy time with. Another woman cannot make you look bad. You make yourself look bad with your puritanical point of view.
You said " Sounds like some women here are willing to dump a guy for not paying their bills." First of all, I would not even be a guy's girlfriend if he wasn't generous. So there would be no dumping involved.
Second of all, I never said he had to pay my bill. What bill? Is my electricity going to get cut off? Am I charging him for spending time with me? What bill? A phone bill? Please, some men will give a woman money freely that is more than all the bills combined. And nope, I wasn't making him do it, he would do it cause he can. Cause he wants to. Not because, I want a phone bill paid. LOL. That is really funny though, that someone would think that a woman like me is going to be with a man just because he paid my phone bill.
That's what this thread is based on so that's what I was going with, the bill situation. I picked it up and ran with it! lol
Getting cold hard cash would be worse! At least if he were paying a bill he'd be doing something solid - not just tossing cash at a woman like she were on stage. Ew.
As I mentioned earlier, mature men know when women appreciate gestures and when women expect or require. It's got to be the mans choice if he sticks with a woman who requires or expects, he knows what he's buying.
If I do anything for a woman it is because I wanted not because she expected.
Just as some women are gold diggers, some men only know how to be sugar daddies to keep their women around. Mutually agreeable relationship for both parties to fulfill each others needs.
Decency, huh? Who says its indecent to be spoiled by men who want to spoil a woman they enjoy time with. Another woman cannot make you look bad. You make yourself look bad with your puritanical point of view.
The person Rakin was talking about is a woman who was taking advantage of men. If she wanted to take the gifts - great, she should take them - but to accept the gifts, then turn around and return them for cash is just classless.
My "puritanical view" is something call morals and conscience. I don't take money from men just because there are men out there who are willing to give it.
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