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Ok so its going to be my 35th bday tomorrow. My best friend and her husband and I are going to go to a swingers club on Friday night. They have been once and I've never been and just to clarify, the three of us are not getting together It's something I've always been curious about and just wanted to try something new. I'm very openminded but honestly I'm nervous but excited at the same time. I honestly do not see myself dive bombing into a gigantic orgy going on, LOL but would I stand there and watch?? Sure, why not? I mean you can totally go and not participate. Anyone else been and what was your expierence like??? You can DM me if you choose not to post in thread. It should be interesting, LOL
Well I've only been to two swingers clubs, and they were both very different. To be fair, they were in completely different cities too, so.
One was in New Orleans, and it was more of orgy going on, feel free to join in type.
The other was in Nashville, and that was a different animal all together. It wasn't an orgy, and while there were people making out, there wasn't any sex that I could see. It was more of a place for couples to go, to meet other couples and singles who are interested in a threesome. Then, after the club closed, you went home with whomever you decided to spend the night with.
The Nashville experience was much better. When you go single though, if you think you've felt like a piece of meat before, you're going to feel like a gazelle walking through a lion pride. Be ready for it, be confident, and sure of yourself. Otherwise, you won't have a good time.
Ok so its going to be my 35th bday tomorrow. My best friend and her husband and I are going to go to a swingers club on Friday night. They have been once and I've never been and just to clarify, the three of us are not getting together It's something I've always been curious about and just wanted to try something new. I'm very openminded but honestly I'm nervous but excited at the same time. I honestly do not see myself dive bombing into a gigantic orgy going on, LOL but would I stand there and watch?? Sure, why not? I mean you can totally go and not participate. Anyone else been and what was your expierence like??? You can DM me if you choose not to post in thread. It should be interesting, LOL
There's so much info you need:
Of Primary Importance: No pressure to participate. When you're ready, you decide and you make the first move. Your "no" WILL be respected. A "not yet" means come back and ask me later. It is not an invitation to try to sway you.
First, there are 2 types of swingers clubs/parties: on-site and off.
On-Site means it's more than a meet-n-greet. Sex will be happening. Often these clubs are members only, and pre-approval required. Some require an in-person interview and at least one member recommendation. Others are a bit less restrictive. Keep in mind, this is for your protection as well as protection of the existing members.
Off-site means it's basically a big meet-n-greet. You will find some dancing, lots of sexual flirting, but generally (not always) not public sex.
Next there are swingers clubs vs house parties - depends on the state. Florida has/had at least 2 swingers clubs I used to know about, NYC had 1 onsite and a couple off-site. However, the off-site frequently had people having full sex right on the dance floor. Generally the clubs are more "formal" - whereas the house parties are more casual and the people often are locals who become regulars.
Some clubs allow NO single males, ever. Some only claim not to allow single males but actually have a list of accepted males who pay at least double the membership and/or entry fee. Almost ALL allow/encourage single females. A woman who brings along a single male with whom she is not in a regular relationship with (even as a friend) is called a ticket. This is frowned on in many areas and is a way to get herself barred in the future.
There is one absolute rule: No means no. Period and always. I have seen (mostly single) males literally picked up and tossed out of the home by other patrons for ignoring a clear no. Oh, and it's not just for males - no applies to other women as well.
You are responsible for your own protection. I recommend you get some femidoms and keep them handy - you might want to practice ahead of time. Don't forget lube and spermicide as well.
Some clubs are mostly partner exchange, some are more open. There may be open rooms (where you are mostly free to join and/or watch), semi-private rooms where you are advised to ask if it's ok to join or watch, and private rooms - don't go in unless you've discussed it ahead of time.
The best "swingers etiquette" I've seen it as alliekat.com. There is a list of swingers' etiquette found at NASCA dot com (Natl Swing Clubs America) and is also the place to find clubs in your area.
Go, relax, enjoy. Do as much or as little as you want.
PS Be prepared for every body shape under the sun.
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It's something I've always been curious about and just wanted to try something new. I'm very openminded but honestly I'm nervous but excited at the same time. I honestly do not see myself dive bombing into a gigantic orgy going on, LOL but would I stand there and watch?? Sure, why not? I mean you can totally go and not participate. Anyone else been and what was your expierence like??? You can DM me if you choose not to post in thread. It should be interesting, LOL
