how do I get over my husband hiding porn.... (wife, woman, love)
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Here we go when we first got married we were 17 and 18 years one day i come across a porn video inside a game case under the game when i confronted him to know why he needed it he denied it being his and for our marriage i let it go.... few years down the road it turns to girls on his phone just in bikinis i let it go to me it wasnt as bad as the porn but i still let him know that this really hurts me feeling exspecially when he says (OH IT WAS A SLIP OF MY FINGER I DIDNT MEAN TO DOWNLOAD IT) YEAH RIGHT i wasnt born yesturday. He promises not to look at what makes me uncomfortable and like i dummy i believe him with everything i have....Our marraige seemed ok but then here recently i found a movie not porn ok just a random movie that he obviuosly picked for the pic of two half dressed nurses becuase my husband is to lazy to read... after talking to him he finally comes clean now keep in mind we are going back 7 years of our marraige and he tell me the porn the pic on his phone he did do and then when i thoughwe were ok he had nudie magazines tucked away at work.. when i asked him why he said it a guy thing no one woman is ever enough visually for any man. to hear this come out of his mouth hurt me more than anything. I understand that this will never end i wont end my marraige over something so stupid like a bunch of whores on tv or in pics so how do i get over iti f it makes me feel ugly and worthless. oh in case your wondering its not beacuase i have al lack of a sex drive i want sex more than him and i will try what ever he wants so i dont understand?what do you think..
I need to put your husband through the Antlered Chamataka porn management bootcamp
I'm a philanthropist. The service is aimed at married men who want to watch porn and still save their marriage by hiding it from the wife, on a facade of innocence LMAO. There's tons of technology out there to achieve this. And the cost of the bootcamp - FREE
Otherwise, rain, I feel for you. Your husband is dumb that he doesn't even bother to hide it from you successfully. A guy should hide it at least out of respect for the wife, for I can understand how there can be times when the penis stunts nerve impulses to the brains
Ok i understand men like porn ok but i told my husband that i would rather know about even watch it with him try things he likes on it and i was very seriuos i even popped it in one night he took it out and said he didnt need then hides it again i dont understand im trying to make this work for me.. i might enjoy it as a coupl thin but he ants to keep it to himself.. and i know i said up top that it makes me feel ugly but id rather watch porn than have sectrets..
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Originally Posted by Antlered Chamataka
I need to put your husband through the Antlered Chamataka porn management bootcamp
I'm a philanthropist. The service is aimed at married men who want to watch porn and still save their marriage by hiding it from the wife, on a facade of innocence LMAO. There's tons of technology out there to achieve this. And the cost of the bootcamp - FREE
Otherwise, rain, I feel for you. Your husband is dumb that he doesn't even bother to hide it from you successfully. A guy should hide it at least out of respect for the wife, for I can understand how there can be times when the penis stunts nerve impulses to the brains
I think I'm about to agree with you
Optimally, you would have never found "his secret stash" and as long as all was well in the relationship, you wouldn't feel insecure.
OP, I think it would be unreasonable for you to expect him to promise not to view porn anymore. That's a promise that he is doomed to break, which would only cause more problems in your relationship. As long as you don't feel neglected in the relationship, then it's harmless.
Since you did find out about it, tell him that you don't care as long as once in a while he can share it with you and that you are getting your needs met. Let it go and don't let your insecurities eat away at you and ruin your relationship, if it is otherwise good.
Optimally, you would have never found "his secret stash" and as long as all was well in the relationship, you wouldn't feel insecure.
OP, I think it would be unreasonable for you to expect him to promise not to view porn anymore. That's a promise that he is doomed to break, which would only cause more problems in your relationship. As long as you don't feel neglected in the relationship, then it's harmless.
Since you did find out about it, tell him that you don't care as long as once in a while he can share it with you and that you are getting your needs met. Let it go and don't let your insecurities eat away at you and ruin your relationship, if it is otherwise good.
Yeah, even the Bishop can potentially have a secret porn stash
A man needs to just be vigilant and do a good job about hiding it well, so he presents a good lie before his wife. At least, she thinks he is a good guy. I can tell the dishonesty police is licking their lips. But I'm looking at managing a marriage through these stupid issues.
Many men know porn is not real. They adore their wives at the end of the day. They also know those porn chicks are plastic and they look great as long as the masturbation lasts, which is about 30 seconds?
Women better empathize with the male population. It's not their fault. If you really wanna fix it, take a leaf out of the million moms who m arch every year against gun violence. March against the pornographers
Many men know porn is not real. They adore their wives at the end of the day. They also know those porn chicks are plastic...
What planet do you live on? A helluva lot of porn today is amateur stuff of REAL people having REAL sex. These are not "plastic" people; it's friends, neighbors, and coworkers posting videos of themselves at youpornDOTcom, etc.
Lying about the porn is 10 times worse than watching it in the first place. Ask him why he needs to lie to you? I deplore sneaky behavior, so I feel for you.
1. Don't you think its a wee bit embarrassing to get caught watching porn?
Don't you think you should have been a wee bit more open to your partners desires? The reason he started lying later, is because the first time you came down on him like he was watching porn in church.
2. Porn is normal
Porn has been around since men and women first learned how to draw. This isn't like its something new, and something only he is doing.
3. Would you like to eat the same meal, day in, day out, for years?
At least he isn't cheating on you, and is doing a little harmless porn watching. Maybe you should ask him whats missing from the relationship, and ask what you can do to meet his desires. Instead, you act like a wounded animal, striking out against him.
Remember, you started the whole lying and hiding behavior with your first gut reaction to it. Maybe its time to take a step back, start over and, God forbid.....
Talk about it.
He is likely getting tired of hearing you constantly judge him, and treating him as if he is a child, so he is going to start getting better at hiding it, getting angrier when you call him on it, and it could push him to have an affair.
He should be more open with you too, but you slammed the door in his face before he had a chance.
What planet do you live on? A helluva lot of porn today is amateur stuff of REAL people having REAL sex. These are not "plastic" people; it's friends, neighbors, and coworkers posting videos of themselves at youpornDOTcom, etc.
Professor, I don't have diverse experience in porn watching to this day. The porn I used to watch 5 or 6 years ago was from vivid and other mainstream porno studios. They sure were plastic. I mean the piston can't pump up and down the stirrup for 20 straight minutes
I reached my pinnacle of porn watching in my mid 20s and then hit nadir from there. I have other forms of addiction now - job, gym, stock market
I hardly have free time to see it. That is key. When I'm free, I post C-D. So I have been successful at cutting porn out of my life. I don't need that gutter. But I see many men fail to get over the addiction. Whatever floats their boat. So, cut me some room. I have no clue of the porn goings-on of the 2010s. My thought process with porn is about 5.5 years retrograde
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?what do you think..
