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Originally Posted by rainx86
Ok i understand men like porn ok but i told my husband that i would rather know about even watch it with him try things he likes on it and i was very seriuos i even popped it in one night he took it out and said he didnt need then hides it again i dont understand im trying to make this work for me.. i might enjoy it as a coupl thin but he ants to keep it to himself.. and i know i said up top that it makes me feel ugly but id rather watch porn than have sectrets..
It sounds like you're doing all you can, you've tried what I was going to suggest and more. You're far more patient than I would have been. I'd be far more patient with the porn than the lying, sneaking and hiding like some psycho perv. I have no answer and I hope most will be more patient with you here than a few have been but I mostly hope you stop feeling down on yourself for your husband's bs. Please don't allow people to make you feel that way about yourself.
well in my case lion king im not bi as far as i know : ) but i can appreciate a good looking woman but would any guy get selfconcious if his woman likes another mans stuff if he himself is cheking out other woman and say they think its nothing
Not a real confident man. My wife and I both look at porno but the difference is we share our sexual fantasies with each other. Honey, I could care less who my wife looks at because she always come home with me.
I wouldn't care if my woman checked out guys on her alone time. But if I am sitting there and she is saying "gosh look at his dark eyes and olive skin, I have always been a sucker for that" and her saying "gosh look at that 10 incher, I always wanted to try riding one of those". And I am fair with blue eyes and ugh..not 10 inches than yeah, hearing that will go to my mind. Even if my blue eyes and fair skin turn her on, I knowing that will make me question myself.
The thing is when we say alone time, is the amount of alone time, at least when it come to that. If you are hardly getting any because your SO is always doing alone time, well then yes there is a problem.
I think you & I are talking about something completely different. I would never talk like that. I would never say or do anything that would disrespect my husband or make him feel any less of a man. He's all the man I need and want and he knows it.
He would also never say to me "I wish you had a set as big as hers". He never makes me feel that I am not woman enough for him.
But I know what turns him on, and after almost 18 years together, I'd be burying my head in the sand pretending that sometimes what turns him on, is something that looks a lot different than me.
lionking i .....ok so you like big boobs and big butts but if that were all that turned you on then how do you get up to woman that doesnt have them can you answer that without saying look at people who do
I have had girlfriends who body wise they weren't my ideal, hell my ideal is like 5% of society. But she came close to one attribute, and had a something besides that just made me turned on. Personality and looks wise.
I have had girlfriend with with huge boobs, but a flat butt, I have had girlfriend with a nice butt but no boobs. I loved what she had, but it didn't stop me from admiring what others have. Although I wasn't in her face about it, the last thing I would want to do to her is make her feel less than. Although we weren't married therefore there was no sharing of my computer. I read these other threads about a woman finding this and that on her guy's computer and getting all bent out of shape and I think yep, there won't be any sharing of computers in my future. I don't want the drama of having to explain why Bangbros a**parade .com, or milenavelba .com is on my favorites bookmark..
I recently was seeing a girl who had everything body wise I love, but a crappy personality in the end, so bye bye. I had one girlfriend years ago who was like a E cup but she hated them, and gave me grief for loving them. So a girl who might not be some dream woman body wise who still does it attitude wise will win me over in the end yet, there will always be that lust in the back of my mind, and it can be filled by alone time sometimes.
I think you & I are talking about something completely different. I would never talk like that. I would never say or do anything that would disrespect my husband or make him feel any less of a man. He's all the man I need and want and he knows it.
He would also never say to me "I wish you had a set as big as hers". He never makes me feel that I am not woman enough for him.
But I know what turns him on, and after almost 18 years together, I'd be burying my head in the sand pretending that sometimes what turns him on, is something that looks a lot different than me.
I will read and learn then. My experience with past girlfriends, almost none of them liked porn, almost all of them didn't like a guy looking at it.
Now making homemade , that is another story. I have had past girlfriends really turned on by doing that. But they obviously were the center of attention.
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I will read and learn then. My experience with past girlfriends, almost none of them liked porn, almost all of them didn't like a guy looking at it.
Now making homemade , that is another story. I have see past girlfriend really turned on by doing that. But they obviously were the center of attention.
I'm not a big fan of homemade, probably because I am my own worst critic
I'm not a big fan of homemade, probably because I am my own worst critic
Oh I had one girlfriend, who was nervous and all that, saying things like my tummy is poochy and stuff. Just about any girlfriend I have had that was ok with doing it was like that at first, "but my __ isn't perfect" .
But once we got started, I saw her wildness come out, the " I always wanted to do that but was afraid but this is fun". Having my girl pose , while telling her how hot she looks doing it, her seeing them after and saying "wow, I DO look good, oh that is hot". Having her pose in very naughty ways....with me, seeing her get into really getting being bad, of yeah it can be awesome.
I have also noticed that when I started directing her, kind of telling her what to do using ugh very direct dirty instructions, I think maybe the fact that her guy was taking charge like that, was another turn on for her.
It is my belief that in many women there is a porno star inside her just wanting to come out. Not all, but a few. At least for her man anyway. There are women that think it is disgusting, I have read comments like that before, but overall I think there are women too self conscience compared to thinking it is disgusting to do.
I mostly ignored my husbands porn habit for our entire marriage and I had no interest in partaking of it with him. He hid it but I knew about it. Then we got computers...and things got worse. It's just a small part of what broke our marriage down.
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