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Oh I had one girlfriend, who was nervous and all that, saying things like my tummy is poochy and stuff. Just about any girlfriend I have had that was ok with doing it was like that at first, "but my __ isn't perfect" .
But once we got started, I saw her wildness come out, the " I always wanted to do that but was afraid but this is fun". Having my girl pose , while telling her how hot she looks doing it, her seeing them after and saying "wow, I DO look good, oh that is hot". Having her pose in very naughty ways....with me, seeing her get into really getting being bad, of yeah it can be awesome.
I have also noticed that when I started directing her, kind of telling her what to do using ugh very direct dirty instructions, I think maybe the fact that her guy was taking charge like that, was another turn on for her.
It is my belief that in many women there is a porno star inside her just wanting to come out. Not all, but a few. At least for her man anyway. There are women that think it is disgusting, I have read comments like that before, but overall I think there are women too self conscience compared to thinking it is disgusting to do.
I totally get the "directing" thing, but did they enjoy watching it after too?
I could see myself liking the "taping" part, but not the replay. Maybe I should get one of those Fisher-Price video cameras?
I don't know why women get so upset over porn?? I see on one level, but to me, its not real. I'd be more upset if the SO was lusting after the next door neighbor then some guy in a movie or pic.
Oh I had one girlfriend, who was nervous and all that, saying things like my tummy is poochy and stuff. Just about any girlfriend I have had that was ok with doing it was like that at first, "but my __ isn't perfect" .
But once we got started, I saw her wildness come out, the " I always wanted to do that but was afraid but this is fun". Having my girl pose , while telling her how hot she looks doing it, her seeing them after and saying "wow, I DO look good, oh that is hot". Having her pose in very naughty ways....with me, seeing her get into really getting being bad, of yeah it can be awesome.
I have also noticed that when I started directing her, kind of telling her what to do using ugh very direct dirty instructions, I think maybe the fact that her guy was taking charge like that, was another turn on for her.
It is my belief that in many women there is a porno star inside her just wanting to come out. Not all, but a few. At least for her man anyway. There are women that think it is disgusting, I have read comments like that before, but overall I think there are women too self conscience compared to thinking it is disgusting to do.
I totally get the "directing" thing, but did they enjoy watching it after too?
I could see myself liking the "taping" part, but not the replay. Maybe I should get one of those Fisher-Price video cameras?
Depended. Usually it was cuddling while watching it after, sometimes there were giggles, sometimes a "oh wow". The thing is though, I was telling her how hot she is while and after. Maybe she did have a pooch tummy, or a scar, to me it didn't matter, there are good points and bad points to almost everybody physically, defining the good points above the bad points is the goal.
No usually after the first watch back, there was no real interest on her part to see it again as far as I know, although she had a copy, more interest on my part to do so later on....alone.
Here we go when we first got married we were 17 and 18 years one day i come across a porn video inside a game case under the game when i confronted him to know why he needed it he denied it being his and for our marriage i let it go.... few years down the road it turns to girls on his phone just in bikinis i let it go to me it wasnt as bad as the porn but i still let him know that this really hurts me feeling exspecially when he says (OH IT WAS A SLIP OF MY FINGER I DIDNT MEAN TO DOWNLOAD IT) YEAH RIGHT i wasnt born yesturday. He promises not to look at what makes me uncomfortable and like i dummy i believe him with everything i have....Our marraige seemed ok but then here recently i found a movie not porn ok just a random movie that he obviuosly picked for the pic of two half dressed nurses becuase my husband is to lazy to read... after talking to him he finally comes clean now keep in mind we are going back 7 years of our marraige and he tell me the porn the pic on his phone he did do and then when i thoughwe were ok he had nudie magazines tucked away at work.. when i asked him why he said it a guy thing no one woman is ever enough visually for any man. to hear this come out of his mouth hurt me more than anything. I understand that this will never end i wont end my marraige over something so stupid like a bunch of whores on tv or in pics so how do i get over iti f it makes me feel ugly and worthless. oh in case your wondering its not beacuase i have al lack of a sex drive i want sex more than him and i will try what ever he wants so i dont understand?what do you think..
It is very hurtful though, when we find this out! I`m sorry, and hope that you both can rise above the BS, and be happy!
Okay, I’m a man (a MOMAZBOI but a man nevertheless) and I’ll admit that I'm no stranger to porn. I think the difference between my porn usage and what I’m reading here is that I only “use” porn when I have no “action” taking place on the home front if you catch my meaning. I’ve never deemed it necessary to view porn when I’m already with someone; sort of defeats the purpose, right?
That is where the disconnection lies. I would probably feel jealous/inadequate if the tables were turned but that’s just me. I do however know plenty of porn enthusiasts that still feel compelled to view it no matter what their personal circumstances may be, but that's not my reality.
I don't know why women get so upset over porn?? I see on one level, but to me, its not real. I'd be more upset if the SO was lusting after the next door neighbor then some guy in a movie or pic.
IDK, maybe its just me.
BTW, I'm not a big porn guy.
We get upset because you (men in general) are telling us we are not good enough for you. Ultimately, that spells the end of the relationship and we know it. If we weren't what they wanted, why marry us in the first place? If you want something else, go get it and leave us to find someone who actually loves us for who we are. I'll marry you but I still want something on the side smacks of settling. Honestly, no woman wants to find out her man settled for her because he couldn't have what he really wanted. Unfortunately, we often don't know you settled for us until after the fact and, yes, that makes us angry. It would be better if you never showed up at the alter.
To the op, he isn't going to stop. He's made his choice. Now you have to make yours. If you choose to stay, you are choosing to live with porn because he's made it clear he will choose porn over you in that he lies to you about the porn. Can you live with a dishonest spouse?
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We get upset because you (men in general) are telling us we are not good enough for you. Ultimately, that spells the end of the relationship and we know it. If we weren't what they wanted, why marry us in the first place? If you want something else, go get it and leave us to find someone who actually loves us for who we are. I'll marry you but I still want something on the side smacks of settling. Honestly, no woman wants to find out her man settled for her because he couldn't have what he really wanted. Unfortunately, we often don't know you settled for us until after the fact and, yes, that makes us angry. It would be better if you never showed up at the alter.
To the op, he isn't going to stop. He's made his choice. Now you have to make yours. If you choose to stay, you are choosing to live with porn because he's made it clear he will choose porn over you in that he lies to you about the porn. Can you live with a dishonest spouse?
I agree that lying about something is bad.
It is my understanding that porn can be an addiction for some. I am not addicted to it, though I do think that some men are. It is possible that this guy is addicted? And needs counseling?
As to the rest of your post, 'why marry in the first place', 'settling', I just don't see that. With the possible exception of addiction, I think that if a guy were being fed a regular diet, there would be no further hunger for anything else.
Most men, IMHO, can look at porn or not, and will only look at it when they have been refused in the bed for a period of time. With the exception as I stated of that minority of people who suffer with addictions.
well thats the thing i offer sex everyday at some point in different ways some more subtle than others if i couldreally have it my way id have sex with twice a day it is him who turns me down.... so what to do about that..A woman can only be turned down so much before she gives up on him keep in mind were not too old were only 24
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?what do you think..
