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Also, I agree with everyone who says there is a problem. The problem though..? Sorry OP he is no longer attracted to you. All men look at porn. When men deny a chance for real sex but still actively watch porn, it's not that they aren't interested in sex, it's that they aren't interested in sex with you.
Pardon me, but what point is that?
I don`t know whether to appreciate you for your "bluntness of being honest" or say, "Shame on you!"
Well you must not have read some of the erotic novels I have They are no soap opera, believe me. (If you want some names, i'd be happy to recommend some to you)
I respect your feelings and if you and your husband have an understanding, then more power to you I don't judge.
However, IMO, porn is acceptable provided it does not replace or affect your spouse. I don't know if my husband watches it without me and if he does how often, but I wouldn't flip out if I were to find out (unless I found it obsessive or beyond deviant). We have also watched some together on occasion and it only served as a means to spice things up. My husband never lets me feels that I am lacking and actually, I think my "freak" makes him happy because he knows it is reserved soley for him.
Well, I'm not into them and I only know one person who is (and her husband has a problem with them. He complains she compares him to the men in the books. ). I just don't get into romance story lines. Not my taste in movies either. However if I did read them, they'd just be books like my science fiction books are. That people fall in love and have sex or just have sex as the case may be isn't what the books are about.
The romance novels I read don't read like the letters to the editor in Penthouse. I suppose there are some that do and that would be an issue.
My husband used to watch porn before we were married and tried it after we were married. I told him if it ever happened again, he'd be minus a wife and I mean it. I'm nobody's settle for estate. If what he really wants is someone else, he needs to go find her.
Well, I'm not into them and I only know one person who is (and her husband has a problem with them. He complains she compares him to the men in the books. ). I just don't get into romance story lines. Not my taste in movies either. However if I did read them, they'd just be books like my science fiction books are. That people fall in love and have sex or just have sex as the case may be isn't what the books are about.
The romance novels I read don't read like the letters to the editor in Penthouse. I suppose there are some that do and that would be an issue.
My husband used to watch porn before we were married and tried it after we were married. I told him if it ever happened again, he'd be minus a wife and I mean it. I'm nobody's settle for estate. If what he really wants is someone else, he needs to go find her.
I take no issue with your personal feelings on the subect. If you and your husband are in agreement on the issue, that's great.
I just disagree in your assumption, that viewing porn, while in a committed relationship, is indicative of wanting someone other than your partner. I think though anything, whether porn, video games, etc,, that are used obsessively as a constant escape from reality and from your spouse are very dangerous to a marriage. If I felt that there was anything my husband was doing excessively that was hurting our marriage, I would be hurt and furious. It did happen to us, but he used his work to run away from our problems.
wow how this conversation turned well no im not being replaced by porn we have sex not as much as id like but we do and great sex at that.. my remark about not getting enough was because some one told me to give him and his penis a break..and i simply made a comment back that if he can play with himself daily(of course im not relly sure how often he watches it) then he can give me more sex... but besides that the reall problem is the lying and hiding it.. as far a settling with me i disagree because he has always chased me not the other way around so i dont know about that maybe im not fully getting that remark... The thing is i cant stand to be lied to and about something soo stupid
the truth adout it is that its cheating of the heart and ask him why he cant be happy with your relationship. ask him what drives him to look at or view porn. ask what would help him to stop. does he ever say he wishs you looked like this or that each week that would show hes showing signs of addiction to porn
I take no issue with your personal feelings on the subect. If you and your husband are in agreement on the issue, that's great.
I just disagree in your assumption, that viewing porn, while in a committed relationship, is indicative of wanting someone other than your partner. I think though anything, whether porn, video games, etc,, that are used obsessively as a constant escape from reality and from your spouse are very dangerous to a marriage. If I felt that there was anything my husband was doing excessively that was hurting our marriage, I would be hurt and furious. It did happen to us, but he used his work to run away from our problems.
Um, if he wanted me he wouldn't be looking at porn! It is an, obvious, statement that your partner isn't enough for you. Personally, I would not stay in a relationship where my man needed to look at other women. If he needs other women, he needs to go find them and leave me to find a man who wants me. The problem with porn is it invades the most intimate part of marriage. THE part of marriage that you don't share with others. The personal part. It wouldn't have to be excessive. If it were there at all, I'd be gone.
I remember the first time my father caught my brother with porn. He sat him down and talked to him about respecting women and valuing the women in his life. My husband looking at porn would show he does not respect women and does not value me. He might as well cheat. You don't window shop if you don't intend to buy.
wow how this conversation turned well no im not being replaced by porn we have sex not as much as id like but we do and great sex at that.. my remark about not getting enough was because some one told me to give him and his penis a break..and i simply made a comment back that if he can play with himself daily(of course im not relly sure how often he watches it) then he can give me more sex... but besides that the reall problem is the lying and hiding it.. as far a settling with me i disagree because he has always chased me not the other way around so i dont know about that maybe im not fully getting that remark... The thing is i cant stand to be lied to and about something soo stupid
Yup, he'll lie to you about porn. Where do you think you rank? Porn is more important to him than honesty between you and him.
Personally, I think porn use indicates he settled. He's still looking in spite of having chosen the women he, supposedly, wants to spend the rest of his life with. Why is he still looking if you're the one?
Here we go when we first got married we were 17 and 18 years one day i come across a porn video inside a game case under the game when i confronted him to know why he needed it he denied it being his and for our marriage i let it go.... few years down the road it turns to girls on his phone just in bikinis i let it go to me it wasnt as bad as the porn but i still let him know that this really hurts me feeling exspecially when he says (OH IT WAS A SLIP OF MY FINGER I DIDNT MEAN TO DOWNLOAD IT) YEAH RIGHT i wasnt born yesturday. He promises not to look at what makes me uncomfortable and like i dummy i believe him with everything i have....Our marraige seemed ok but then here recently i found a movie not porn ok just a random movie that he obviuosly picked for the pic of two half dressed nurses becuase my husband is to lazy to read... after talking to him he finally comes clean now keep in mind we are going back 7 years of our marraige and he tell me the porn the pic on his phone he did do and then when i thoughwe were ok he had nudie magazines tucked away at work.. when i asked him why he said it a guy thing no one woman is ever enough visually for any man. to hear this come out of his mouth hurt me more than anything. I understand that this will never end i wont end my marraige over something so stupid like a bunch of whores on tv or in pics so how do i get over iti f it makes me feel ugly and worthless. oh in case your wondering its not beacuase i have al lack of a sex drive i want sex more than him and i will try what ever he wants so i dont understand?what do you think..
What are you,OP, a control freak?
Unless your husband is looking at illegal or bizarre pornography and if you have a healthy sex life, why do you care what he does in his own private time?
Unless you don't think that he HAS any private time.
In which case,your relationship is already in trouble.
If your husband feels that he needs to "hide" things from you,doesn't that indicate a lack of trust in your relationship? And isn't that a bigger issue for you than the pornography?
if it isn't...then you really have serious issues that need to be addressed immediately.
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They are no soap opera, believe me. (If you want some names, i'd be happy to recommend some to you) 
I don't judge.
). I just don't get into romance story lines. Not my taste in movies either. However if I did read them, they'd just be books like my science fiction books are. That people fall in love and have sex or just have sex 
as the case may be isn't what the books are about. 
