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Old 02-16-2018, 12:49 PM
 
Location: VT; previously MD & NJ
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Almost every day or multiple times per week.

Without dwelling on death too much, thinking about time left can make one savor more and enjoy each day, each week, and moments more.

And when thinking of purchasing anything I think about whether I really need it, considering my age and time left.

I'm also stunned by hearing the denial at times surrounding it.
That is something I refuse to do. If I see something I like and want, and if I can afford it, I will buy it. I remember my mom avoiding buying things as she got older. Couldn't even get her interested in going clothes shopping (which she previously enjoyed). She had that attitude of not needing anything new anymore. I am different. I like new. But I do try to only get things I will use. Don't want to add to useless clutter. I spend a lot of my time window shopping.
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Old 02-16-2018, 12:50 PM
 
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I like reading the Obituaries in the New York Times because they focus on people who have had a life of achievement and accomplishment and often an interesting life in various ways. They are often very good stories.

I always note the age of the person - while there are a good number around 85 and 90 or 92, it's a bit stunning to see so many in their 70's. I also always look for and note the cause of death.
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Old 02-16-2018, 12:50 PM
 
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Don't worry about old age, it doesn't last !
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Old 02-16-2018, 12:51 PM
 
Location: Dark Side of the Moon
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Iím 68. Ten more years would be fine. What I donít want is to live too long. I donít want to outlive my friends and family. I saw too much of that with my former job. I trust that God will give me the right number of years.

So yes, I have thought about it and I want to make the most of this part of my life
Exactly. I must say this scares me more than almost anything else. In the past year, I lost both of my parents, one of my nieces, and a close family friend. At age 61, I already feel as if I can't handle more losses of people I love.

I want to be around for my husband, sons and future grandchildren, but not so long that I'm the last of my generation. Not so long that I become a burden to others and even myself. I value quality over quantity.

I don't think about death on a daily basis, but if and when I do think about it, I hope and pray for a reasonable lifespan that doesn't involve years of widowhood, losses, illness, infirmity, dementia, etc.
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Old 02-16-2018, 12:54 PM
 
Location: Central NY
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Sure I think about it at times. I'm the last of the family and will be 76 in April.

I have let that affect my dream of relocation, along with the fact I don't believe I can afford to move. I don't play the lottery and I don't gamble. Not much chance of a sudden increase in money.

Just take each day as it comes along. This morning was the first time I thanked God that I woke up.
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Old 02-16-2018, 01:02 PM
 
Location: Coastal Georgia
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I am about to turn 70. This past year, Iíve lost my sister and my sister in law. This makes me give more thought to the fact that I could die this year, or in 20 years. I donít dwell on it, but I try to just make the most of every day. No matter how old we are, we are still only guaranteed today.
I have a new grandchild and I fondly hope to see her grow, but otherwise I hardly think about dying.
My only living relative of my parents generation is my 90 year old aunt. She is lovely and still has her marbles, so I hope I take after her.
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Old 02-16-2018, 01:04 PM
 
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That is something I refuse to do. If I see something I like and want, and if I can afford it, I will buy it. I remember my mom avoiding buying things as she got older. Couldn't even get her interested in going clothes shopping (which she previously enjoyed). She had that attitude of not needing anything new anymore. I am different. I like new. But I do try to only get things I will use. Don't want to add to useless clutter. I spend a lot of my time window shopping.
heck I used to love to go clothes shopping, now it gives me a headache. Shopping online is good though

Maybe your mom just didn't want to go anymore - gave her a headache.

I like new things but make sure I get rid of the old.
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Old 02-16-2018, 01:04 PM
 
Location: Western Colorado
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I don't worry about it at all. When your numbers up it's up.
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Old 02-16-2018, 01:07 PM
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Location: USA
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The only time I think about dying is when someone relatively famous, who is my age or younger, passes away. Itís a fleeting, ďthereís another one that I outlivedĒ but itís not a countdown.
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Old 02-16-2018, 01:23 PM
 
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I do from time to time. I hope to have everything organized and have fulfilled my goals.

Of course those goals change as I get older - no longer want to make it to Antarctica for example - but then you never know.
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