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I am happy those big family holiday`s with all the work and bickering are over.
My wife watched a Resiliency Video last week at work and the follow-up was for all the viewers take a 10 question test to identify the level of childhood trauma they had endured. Each affirmative answer to a question counts as one point, 3 points or more indicates a level of emotional trauma that has the potential to negatively impact and shorten their lives as adults. The overall goal was to illustrate the impact family trauma can have on the social actions and academic performance of elementary and secondary students.
My wife scored an 8.
So the Norman Rockwell Happy Holiday Family is indeed a myth for many, many, people. Her high score is replicated in the lives of her siblings, many of the issues originating with their mother, so the lack of enthusiasm for a Family Thanksgiving Dinner should probably be expected.
No, not really. Someone upthread mentioned Brazilian steak and it turned out that was something both of us had wanted to do for some time, only we'd never discussed it.
There are Brazilian steakhouses popping up all over here. I had a full roast turkey dinner at Harris Ranch yesterday so that'll do me, gobbler-wise. Brazilians fire-roast their meat and seafood. I've heard it's quite special.
We chose Fogo de Chão in Santana Row, an upscale mixed use development in San Jose. Fun place to walk around and window-shop.
New year is when there’s just the two of us, no celebrations with any family member, and that’s when we do Brazilian BBQ.
I am invited to the home of "extended family" here and did go the first year but I didn't feel "at home" there so I have declined every year since then.
The holidays used to be a big deal and a great joy for me to host and do the cooking but with the grown kids not being here and no grandchildren well the joy is no longer there in that regard.
So I cook for myself and watch movies, it's all good with just me.
ETA: I hope everyone has a wonderful Thanksgiving however and with whoever you spend the time with!
Hate those feel good holiday commercial`s where everyone is sitting around the table, and everything is perfect. It makes you feel bad, because your holiday will not be perfect.
I am happy those big family holiday`s with all the work and bickering are over.
Just remember, those are commercials you are watching and the people you see are just actors.
My wife and I most of the time get those restaurant turkey meals. Sometimes we go see family other times we stay home by ourselves. Either way we’re happy and thankful for each other and what we have. As far as the meal I’m not such a traditionalist where I want my wife slaving over a stove. Well maybe if she was barefoot and pregnant. I much rather spend time with her s we do these restaurant meals.
I think of it this way: I have eaten and, for the most part, cooked the same meal once or twice a year for nearly 70 years. I'm over it.
In this age of having whatever we want to eat whenever we want it, holiday meals have lost their appeal to me. I enjoy my memories but I am happy to be out of the fray.
But I like to hear about other people's plans
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