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Just venting about life & love. I can’t help but think I pretty much screwed myself out of a love life. Never had a girlfriend. Never was too good with girls at all (lack of social skills – I have an Asperger’s diagnosis). But then again, I hardly looked for one in the past when I should have. Now at my age it’s just too weird never to have had a girlfriend. That’s not insurmountable, but what may be in my case is I had a boyfriend. Lasted a few months. That was a few years back. Kind of makes me sick to think about it these days, to be honest.
Not a great thing to talk about with a prospective girlfriend. It’d be wrong to lie about this, but I’m a terrible liar so I doubt I could even do that if I wanted to. I still can’t figure out why the **** I can’t stop picturing my ideal partner as a guy, even when I find girls more attractive on average.
Really a shame because if not for some bad choices and my lack of social skills I may have had it relatively easy. I’m pretty cute (if I may say so myself) & a nice guy.
Just venting about life & love. I can’t help but think I pretty much screwed myself out of a love life. Never had a girlfriend. Never was too good with girls at all (lack of social skills – I have an Asperger’s diagnosis). But then again, I hardly looked for one in the past when I should have. Now at my age it’s just too weird never to have had a girlfriend. That’s not insurmountable, but what may be in my case is I had a boyfriend. Lasted a few months. That was a few years back. Kind of makes me sick to think about it these days, to be honest.
Not a great thing to talk about with a prospective girlfriend. It’d be wrong to lie about this, but I’m a terrible liar so I doubt I could even do that if I wanted to. I still can’t figure out why the **** I can’t stop picturing my ideal partner as a guy, even when I find girls more attractive on average.
Really a shame because if not for some bad choices and my lack of social skills I may have had it relatively easy. I’m pretty cute (if I may say so myself) & a nice guy.
A male who lacks social skills is the lowest of subhuman lifeforms in American culture. Don't know why I spend even 30 seconds on my appearance because it means NOTHING.
A male who lacks social skills is the lowest of subhuman lifeforms in American culture. Don't know why I spend even 30 seconds on my appearance because it means NOTHING.
It's a lot easier to date guys if you have poor social skills. My biggest problem had always been the lack of attraction I have to most of them. Looks are far more important in finding dates.
In the straight dating world, just replace one superficial quality with another. Funny to think of social skills as a superficial quality, but it's kind of true. It's all about playing the game, making the right moves, etc., and not how good of a partner you may be. In fact, sometimes those with the worst kind of personality are the best at playing the dating game.
It's a lot easier to date guys if you have poor social skills. My biggest problem had always been the lack of attraction I have to most of them. Looks are far more important in finding dates.
In the straight dating world, just replace one superficial quality with another. Funny to think of social skills as a superficial quality, but it's kind of true. It's all about playing the game, making the right moves, etc., and not how good of a partner you may be. In fact, sometimes those with the worst kind of personality are the best at playing the dating game.
If a woman wants a man who is charismatic and makes all the moves, it's normal and often there are even multiple options to choose from. If I want a woman who is charismatic and makes moves, I am ridiculed for not being a real man, and end up 21 years old and never had a date.
Just venting about life & love. I can’t help but think I pretty much screwed myself out of a love life. Never had a girlfriend. Never was too good with girls at all (lack of social skills – I have an Asperger’s diagnosis). But then again, I hardly looked for one in the past when I should have. Now at my age it’s just too weird never to have had a girlfriend. That’s not insurmountable, but what may be in my case is I had a boyfriend. Lasted a few months. That was a few years back. Kind of makes me sick to think about it these days, to be honest.
Not a great thing to talk about with a prospective girlfriend. It’d be wrong to lie about this, but I’m a terrible liar so I doubt I could even do that if I wanted to. I still can’t figure out why the **** I can’t stop picturing my ideal partner as a guy, even when I find girls more attractive on average.
Really a shame because if not for some bad choices and my lack of social skills I may have had it relatively easy. I’m pretty cute (if I may say so myself) & a nice guy.
If you lack so-called "social skills" - then having a boyfriend is definitely the way to go.
I thank my lucky stars that I turned out gay, as I'd *never ever* made it with a female. No way, no how...lol. To be with a girl in modern-day America, not only do you have to be perfect-looking, you have to have a great job and/or a TON of money, and even with that in your favor, if you don't have the skillz, you're out of luck. Women are just mean...lol.
If you can muster an attraction to a guy, I strongly recommend going this route.
Just venting about life & love. I can’t help but think I pretty much screwed myself out of a love life. Never had a girlfriend. Never was too good with girls at all (lack of social skills – I have an Asperger’s diagnosis). But then again, I hardly looked for one in the past when I should have. Now at my age it’s just too weird never to have had a girlfriend. That’s not insurmountable, but what may be in my case is I had a boyfriend. Lasted a few months. That was a few years back. Kind of makes me sick to think about it these days, to be honest.
Not a great thing to talk about with a prospective girlfriend. It’d be wrong to lie about this, but I’m a terrible liar so I doubt I could even do that if I wanted to. I still can’t figure out why the **** I can’t stop picturing my ideal partner as a guy, even when I find girls more attractive on average.
Really a shame because if not for some bad choices and my lack of social skills I may have had it relatively easy. I’m pretty cute (if I may say so myself) & a nice guy.
No reason to be ashamed. Unfortunately we live in a very social, extroverted society.
If you lack so-called "social skills" - then having a boyfriend is definitely the way to go.
I thank my lucky stars that I turned out gay, as I'd *never ever* made it with a female. No way, no how...lol. To be with a girl in modern-day America, not only do you have to be perfect-looking, you have to have a great job and/or a TON of money, and even with that in your favor, if you don't have the skillz, you're out of luck. Women are just mean...lol.
If you can muster an attraction to a guy, I strongly recommend going this route.
I told myself the same thing many times. Then I realized, if most guys can get a girlfriend, I can too. And maybe women aren't that horrible. (Still not sure about that part, but it just may be that more women are resisting this modern thinking that they're brought up with and just want a man for what a man is supposed to be.) Not only that, my priorities have shifted from when I was younger. When I was younger, I was dead set against the idea of going the traditional route: i.e., find a wife, get married, have children. I'm still not sure if that's what I really want, but suffice it to say I'm a lot more open to it and it seems like the best thing to do in life.
But frankly, it all depends. Many men naturally base their self-worth on being the providers for their families, and I think that just comes from basic psychology. Just our modern society is so anti-family is the fact that it's so hard for a man to do this. And women have more pressure and expectations these days than ever before. I think it's totally wrong. The man should be the provider, and it shouldn't be so hard for a man to find a life being one.
But I wouldn't blame a woman for not wanting to date me now. Most probably wouldn't, so that's just an added disadvantage for me and a pretty big one. Dating another guy would be like digging an even deeper hole. If just the right guy came along, the proverbial guy of my dreams, I know I'd be unable to resist. However, the chances of that happening are extremely small to practically nonexistent.
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Originally Posted by ilovemycomputer90
No reason to be ashamed. Unfortunately we live in a very social, extroverted society.
I'm not sure if you're referring to sexuality or lack of social skills. I'm not ashamed of my lack of social skills. Just not comfortable with the sexuality. So many men are sex-driven and it's just bizarre. I'm more driven by romantic attraction (which is tied to looks, yes). I also dislike being out, as it were. At first, when I first started dating my ex, I didn't mind it at all. Wasn't shy of PDAs, etc. But then I got more wary of it.
I'm not sure if you're referring to sexuality or lack of social skills. I'm not ashamed of my lack of social skills. Just not comfortable with the sexuality. So many men are sex-driven and it's just bizarre. I'm more driven by romantic attraction (which is tied to looks, yes). I also dislike being out, as it were. At first, when I first started dating my ex, I didn't mind it at all. Wasn't shy of PDAs, etc. But then I got more wary of it.
I was referring to social skills, but there's definitely no reason to be ashamed of your sexuality.
I was referring to social skills, but there's definitely no reason to be ashamed of your sexuality.
A lot easier said than done. Actually, my shame is rather mild. For some, it quite profound.
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