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Old 04-02-2014, 10:15 AM
 
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Like I said I think the environment plays a huge role. Places that are warmer, kinder and less rushed will have fewer daily frustrations; and people's attitudes(including humor) adapt accordingly. I even noticed it in myself when living in TN, that everyday I was becoming less and less of an a-hole. I should have stayed. I certainly did notice how sarcism/ball busting was much less understood there, and a tough adjustment to make.
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Old 04-02-2014, 10:29 AM
 
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Like I said I think the environment plays a huge role. Places that are warmer, kinder and less rushed will have fewer daily frustrations; and people's attitudes(including humor) adapt accordingly. I even noticed it in myself when living in TN, that everyday I was becoming less and less of an a-hole. I should have stayed. I certainly did notice how sarcism/ball busting was much less understood there, and a tough adjustment to make.
Believe or not, I doubt I could adjust to slower paced lifestyle. My company used to send me out to the SF office (actually Alameda) a couple times a year, and the office environment was so laid back, it actually stressed me out. The people were super nice, but they were always more concerned with BBQing at lunch or planning the next in-office casino day. And silly me, I'm trying to get work done.
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Old 04-02-2014, 10:48 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Believe or not, I doubt I could adjust to slower paced lifestyle. My company used to send me out to the SF office (actually Alameda) a couple times a year, and the office environment was so laid back, it actually stressed me out. The people were super nice, but they were always more concerned with BBQing at lunch or planning the next in-office casino day. And silly me, I'm trying to get work done.

Yeah, I didn't like living in SF. My experience mirrors yours. The lets be mellow, laid back, not make plans, etc etc etc stressed the living hell out of me. I didn't like myself slowing down, I want to get stuff done. Life is too short to nap the day away.

I adapted to a slower pace when I lived in Wisconsin, but it took years. That was a bit difference than CA though.

KY was a living hell. I would have fired every one of them at my place of work. Talk about lazy.
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Old 04-02-2014, 11:20 AM
 
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True, I temper it when living elsewhere... but in California there was very little humor at all... No real mirth. It was bizarre.
I moved to SoCal after 31 years in Mass and this could not be further from my experience.

That said...I don't really like San Fran too much myself compared to all the other parts of California I've been/lived in.
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Old 04-02-2014, 11:22 AM
 
Location: Portland Or
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East Bosotn, unfortunately it not working out for us. There are many factors...There are great things about Boston, history being one of them, but just not the city for us. Its just very different vibe, and I'm a east coaster but was in the PNW for 10 yrs....didn't leave because I didn't love it left to try and be closer to family in NY ( upstate). I have no regrets have met some great people.
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Old 04-02-2014, 11:25 AM
 
Location: Massachusetts
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Yeah, I didn't like living in SF. My experience mirrors yours. The lets be mellow, laid back, not make plans, etc etc etc stressed the living hell out of me. I didn't like myself slowing down, I want to get stuff done. Life is too short to nap the day away.

I adapted to a slower pace when I lived in Wisconsin, but it took years. That was a bit difference than CA though.

KY was a living hell. I would have fired every one of them at my place of work. Talk about lazy.

The Midwest is slower paced than the East Coast. There is a deliberate planned quality to it. Do it right the first time.

The East Coast is people doing things quickly with no foresight in panic mode and then tearing it up to redo it over and over and over again. Lots of cutting corners and operating in crisis mode, all the time.
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Old 04-02-2014, 11:27 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I found SF to be the ultimate visiting city. I'd like to go back there to visit. Just not live. I didn't really experience Southern California other than the National Parks and that's different... not sure if Mojave, etc are considered SoCal, I doubt it.
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Old 04-02-2014, 11:30 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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The East Coast is people doing things quickly with no foresight in panic mode and then tearing it up to redo it over and over and over again. Lots of cutting corners and operating in crisis mode, all the time.

I'm like that at my core. I just want to work fast, can't work slow, type slow, read slow, hike slow, exercise slow, eat slow... I go insane trying to slow down and get either disengaged or annoyed to an extreme. It's in my fiber. Its why I can't really travel with people well. I've tried. In Costa Rica my companion wanted to sleep in, sit down and eat long meals, mosey along... drove me nuts. I came all that way and you want to take two hours for dinner? There is too much to see and do!

It's served me well. It was great when I was running my own business. My output was fantastic. I sold a lot, shipped a lot, etc. Were there occasionally quality control issues? Sure, minor ones, but the volume more than made up for it. When I lived in Wisconsin I moved up quickly, in part due to the amount of work I got done. Perfectionism is a horrible weight to carry around.
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Old 04-02-2014, 11:46 AM
 
Location: Portland Or
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Portland beer yumm! Great biking community!

When I moved to Portland it was less than three mo, had people inviting us out, over for dinner, to go on hikes they extended their hand, I didn't have to do all the work as the newbie...I have tried, it's tough here, I have met a few people, but not even close. I volunteer, joined the gym only to walk in say " good morning" for people to look at me like I have two heads. I feel like it's pretty insular!? It was the adventurers who did move west, and maybe that's what I like, it feels like everyone is from somewhere else, all needing to find and make there way, here people are more "settled" conservative, which is fine and some of it even charming. But fortunately we can go back.
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Old 04-02-2014, 11:59 AM
 
Location: a bar
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It was the adventurers who did move west, and maybe that's what I like, it feels like everyone is from somewhere else, all needing to find and make there way, here people are more "settled" conservative, which is fine and some of it even charming.
I can't imagine anyone would disagree with this.

I think if you're going to move to Boston, you need to be a very independent person. Borderline loner. You'll see no welcome wagons here.
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