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Is it important to you?
Twenty five years ago I met a gal in a bar and asked her out on a date the next night. She agreed to dinner and a movie. She had commented on my outfit as being old fashioned. The next day I went out and bought a nice sports coat. She was so appreciative that I had paid attention and upgraded the outfit, that we are still together today.
She still checks my clothes before we go out, after 20 years of marriage.
So, my point, and I did have one, is if these people are important to you, dress nice, if not screw em.
Let's not forget..... she actually has clothes in boxes in her house for the 90s (the year she was her current clothing size). Which she is pretty sure fit. But instead of just going through the boxes and picking something out (90s are back in, so OP is in luck), she spends her time posting here.... another 20 pages and we can cover the importance of ironing!! Yay.
But again, this "formal" event might be pizza (as per the OP's brother....), so go figure...
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I think, if she were to consider it, that OP would have a wonderful, wonderful Thanksgiving if she showed up in black tie and tails.
So much fodder for future posts!
I'd probably would.........but I would feel like Tracey Adams!
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Originally Posted by SimplySagacious
Hiker's mentality? How will that work when your playmate body returns at which time you say you will be dressed to kill?
Well, in brief, that's sort of a different discussion. With a little bit more detail, that, like the comment above, is playing a part that I would have fun with.......but it is probably not appropriate for a family gathering. That is, it's like playing a hooker........."I can be anything you want for your fun.". Mind you, I am talking about being the role player for a lover or for myself AND NOT being an actual street walker.
After reading part of all the reasons why the OP can't or won't find something to wear to a pretty ordinary family event, my reaction is that its really an elaborate rationale for not making the trip at all. Dreaming up such negative responses to all the suggestions smacks of another issue....you don't want to upset your fairly rigid life enough to attend a dinner. Its too much of an emotional hassle. You worry too much about what these relations think of you and you don't like what you see in any clothes from any source. There's a lot more backstory behind this fuss over a pair of knit slacks. Send a thank you to your relatives for the invite, send them a nice bottle of wine or a holiday treat basket, and politely explain that you can't attend this year. Then be honest with yourself and work on fixing what's really going on. Or not. Up to you. Holiday dinners are going to happen every year whether you go or not. If you like your relatives make the effort. If you don't like your relatives don't.
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Ie, the one that doesn't have any formal clothes, who barely hangs things up when they come out of the dryer, who is just as happy as pulling clean clothes out of a laundry bag and wearing that? Whose travel luggage consists of back packs?
Here's the catch......I'm that sibling.......
You can get a sweater tunic and black straight legged or skinny leggings at WalMart for about $30...you can smush that stuff up all you want in a duffel bag
I don't see why your luggage matters, but I also don't see why it would be so hard to have a skirt or a pair of pants that aren't jeans. It seems like grown-ups, no matter their usual lifestyle, should have something to wear to an unusual occasion.
How would I deal with that relative? What's to deal with? As long as you don't smell, I don't think I'd care.
I typically (and always have) just attended with appropriate hygiene, a clean pair of nice jeans, and a nice *sweater (usually a turtleneck) and a contribution of my special shank ham recipe as well as a dessert.
*Also bring a denim shirt for helping to clear tables, dishes, wipe-ups/wipe-downs and miscellaneous dish/pot washing. Have to clear the tables for Uno...
Finally, if I can find the right piece of luggage, ...
oh my goodness! The right piece of luggage! You are overthinking!
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