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Wow, apparently two weddings in two different cultures is a "thing" in some circles. I have a friend who is Palestinian and a Muslim. She married an American guy who is Muslim. But their families have a lot of Christian as well as Muslim people and they live in Israel and the US. So she had a Christian wedding in the US and a Muslim wedding in Israel. I was really surprised, especially because neither the bride nor the groom is Christian.
Both weddings were huge ordeals. And yes, the Muslim wedding lasted several days.
OP, I'd just go to one of those weddings. And if the bride is offended, oh well. Too bad.
Update: well I sent my reply to my nephew as follows:
Dear John and Jane,
We are so happy and excited about your wedding plans and the wonderful life you two will share.
Jane, you are so welcome in our family! We are look forward to attending your Florida wedding, but will only be able to be at the Turkey wedding in our hearts.
We are just so delighted that you will have a celebration in Florida, too. We can’t wait to celebrate your Florida wedding with you both.
Love,
Aunt Carol and Uncle James
And I got this response:
Thanks for the love Aunt Carol! That’s unfortunate. We’d love to have you there as it’s important for us to have our families meet. Almost 90% of responses have been positive toward our wedding in Turkey. Which is important to us because Janes grandma is old, similar to how our own grandmother was for Susies wedding. So for this reason we chose Fall 2020, and based on the enormous cost of hosting two weddings, it is unlikely that we’ll be doing anything in Florida. Much love, John and Jane.
Honestly, blow it off. That's just too expensive to cater to. Unrealistic expectations and they will only continue.
Send them a nice gift.
Yes yesterday they made it clear they were having a “small family ceremony in Miami” and now they’re not. Oh well . My sister is talking about hosting a reception here so if she does we’ll go to that.
I wouldn't feel guilty at all, and I think that it is rather rude that they expect people to fly to Turkey.
I just read through all of the comments. It sounds like he is trying to guilt you in to attending, which is a pretty crappy thing to do. If it is that important that the families meet, he can pay your freight.
I too had two weddings, one in Europe, and one in the states. I did not expect anyone from the states
(except my mom and dad) to attend the European wedding. And I didn’t expect anyone from the European wedding to come to the American wedding, except my husbands parents, which we payed
for. This bride is being very inconsiderate IMO.
I too had two weddings, one in Europe, and one in the states. I did not expect anyone from the states
(except my mom and dad) to attend the European wedding. And I didn’t expect anyone from the European wedding to come to the American wedding, except my husbands parents, which we payed
for. This bride is being very inconsiderate IMO.
Congratulations and that was nice of you. In discussing the situation with another sister, who is also not sure they can go, she said that because 90% of the people they polled about Turkey were positive, they’re probably thinking there’s no point on the 2nd ceremony.
I would be interested in seeing how many of those 90% actually end up going when it’s time to purchase the ticket
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