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All of this aside, they were/are being petty and immature when it comes to goading you into breaking up with your boyfriend. Suggesting passive-aggressive behavior such as going "no contact" with your boyfriend for a week in order to teach him a lesson and calling him a "POS" is far out of line. It's also very odd for two women who are in their late thirties and fifties/sixties respectively (I'm presuming ages here) to encourage you to behave that way.
I don't see it that way. I think they are very close friends of the OP, and they probably share everything with each other. The friends clearly feel this guy did the OP really wrong. That upset them...and they were just encouraging the OP to stand up for herself and not let this guy walk all over her.
Whether or not the guy is actually walking all over her is open for debate, but the friends seem to believe (or were led to believe) that that's what's happening. And the closeness of the friendship allows for strong opinions.
I don't see it that way. I think they are very close friends of the OP, and they probably share everything with each other. The friends clearly feel this guy did the OP really wrong. That upset them...and they were just encouraging the OP to stand up for herself and not let this guy walk all over her.
Whether or not the guy is actually walking all over her is open for debate, but the friends seem to believe (or were led to believe) that that's what's happening. And the closeness of the friendship allows for strong opinions.
Exactly, but that is OP's fault for slamming the guy to them.
I don't see it that way. I think they are very close friends of the OP, and they probably share everything with each other. The friends clearly feel this guy did the OP really wrong. That upset them...and they were just encouraging the OP to stand up for herself and not let this guy walk all over her.
Whether or not the guy is actually walking all over her is open for debate, but the friends seem to believe (or were led to believe) that that's what's happening. And the closeness of the friendship allows for strong opinions.
The OP sounds young and immature about the responsibility of having children - and it sounds like her friends are the same.
I'm wondering if this man left his marriage because he was having an affair with the OP and now the honeymoon period is over so she's complaining and he's unhappy with her.
The OP sounds young and immature about the responsibility of having children - and it sounds like her friends are the same.
I'm wondering if this man left his marriage because he was having an affair with the OP and now the honeymoon period is over so she's complaining and he's unhappy with her.
Thats a real possibility. When I first separated from my ex, the last thing I would have wanted to deal with was a gf that was complaining about my obligations.
They've never even met him. I think they don't like that he's constantly putting his kids ahead of me, there have been instances where plans were changed last minute due to the kids, but I've was never angry at him over it just frustrated at the situation and I would vent to them about it, that was my mistake I guess.
OMG, of course he should put his kids before you. Who wants a man who puts the latest girlfriend before his children? If he were a flake who did not show because he was out with his friends, or sitting at a bar, THEN you’d have a reason to be angry.
Your friends sound like they are way too up in your business.
The OP sounds young and immature about the responsibility of having children - and it sounds like her friends are the same.
I'm wondering if this man left his marriage because he was having an affair with the OP and now the honeymoon period is over so she's complaining and he's unhappy with her.
He had been divorced for 10 months when I met him, there was no affair.
I don't see it that way. I think they are very close friends of the OP, and they probably share everything with each other. The friends clearly feel this guy did the OP really wrong. That upset them...and they were just encouraging the OP to stand up for herself and not let this guy walk all over her.
Based ONLY on what the OP has told them about him. It appears these "best friends" have never even met the guy.
OP, you are one of those tiresome people who spend "quality time" with others complaining and crying about your problems and your life.
People get sick of that. And then when you turn around and ignore their advice, and then cry some more, they get frustrated and eventually explode.
At some point, if he needs to spend time with the kids, you need to be able to a part of that even if there are potentially awkward situations with other adults. Heck, sometimes, the kids and him could come with you with your family too.
Maybe start off with short visits of like 1-3 hours worth with everyone altogether.
If that's not okay, then time to break up!
If your family and friends are just holding you back and not trying to sort your emotions properly, consider a therapist and/or life coach to vent to instead.
They've never even met him. I think they don't like that he's constantly putting his kids ahead of me, there have been instances where plans were changed last minute due to the kids, but I've was never angry at him over it just frustrated at the situation and I would vent to them about it, that was my mistake I guess.
OK, I'm confused on this. I kinda remember you being upset about the fact that he might not make it with you, to your best friend's thing at Christmas. I remember, because I TOLD you to just go, and tell him he's off the hook, and to tell him you would not expect him.
So essentially, he did NOT stand you up, and this was NOT a last minute change of plans. You knew full well he wasn't going to be able to make this date.
Does your friend know this? That you were NOT stood up at the last minute? That you KNEW this was going to happen?
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