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Fro example when I become an American citizen and if someone asks me where I am from, I will say I am from USA. But if that person starts to dig deep and begins to ask where I am originally from, I think that would be rude or offensive because it means that this person does not believe in me. Right?
No, I don't find it rude. If I may be annoyed by it, it is because I'd rather not talk about it and that is me, not them.
Fro example when I become an American citizen and if someone asks me where I am from, I will say I am from USA. But if that person starts to dig deep and begins to ask where I am originally from, I think that would be rude or offensive because it means that this person does not believe in me. Right?
People have been and still do ask me where I’m from and it’s usually out of curiosity because they love my accent. I don’t see anything rude or offensive about it at all. I can’t think of a time when the people asking didn’t smile and open the door sharing their trip to my home country, or one or two friends grew out of those conversations.
I don’t relate to your notion that by asking people wouldn’t “believe in you”, that’s weird. Why are they supposed to believe or disbelieve in you, they are just being friendly or curious.
A person asking doesn't believe in you? What a strange assumption. The person asking is curious, attempting to get to know you better, trying to pinpoint an accent, making small talk, or just trying to kill time. It's neither offensive nor rude.
Unless you want to be one of those people nobody wants to be around because they feel like they're constantly walking on eggshells, I would give others the benefit of the doubt and assume they have good intentions.
Usually when people ask me where I’m from I tell them which state but then qualify it by saying “but originally I’m from the UK”.
As for the person asking “not believing in you” I agree , that’s the weirdest assumption I’ve ever heard in relation to such a question of origin. I’m just curious why the op would think that.
I worked with a bunch of contract programmers from India and they would just LIGHT UP when they were in my office and I asked them where they were from and bring up a map and have them show me. Then I would try to learn to say good morning or thank you in their dialect.
I think it is rather hilarious the OP is from Turkey and asking this, I have visited Turkey numerous times and have friends of the family that live there (they are ethnically Turks, but lived/born not in Turkey originally), and the Turks are always asking this question.
It is actually a normal question everywhere in the world I have been.
but why do people except me not to have an accent when speaking in English? English is not even an official language of USA
Americans and also Australians are fairly open and it is usually just conversation. I do get a bit tired of going into my heritage background on occasion, depends on the context. I use my husband's surname, which is European. So we get asked a lot, what sort of a name is that? Then sometimes, where are you from? BIL used to answer Wollongong or Wagga Wagga or Ulladulla to get his point across. But I end up having to say that I am descended from three convicts whereas DH was born in Europe but left as a child. Then I feel like saying, now can I have the *** form back.
but why do people except me not to have an accent when speaking in English? English is not even an official language of USA
An "official" language has little or nothing to do with someone's accent. An accent is usually based on where you happened to live as a young child and the accent you heard while learning to speak. You could easily grow up in a household of UK immigrants living in New Orleans LA, USA and still learn to speak with a British accent. You could grow up in a household of US immigrants living in London and still learn to speak with a New Orleans accent.
Why is this a problem for you? Accents are interesting and often beautiful. Do you want every single person to be exactly like everyone else? How boring THAT would be!
"Where are you from?" isn't rude.
"But where are you really from?" as a follow up is generally rude.
Or, "what are you?"
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