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Not necessarily-you are definitely prejudiced,but everyone is,if they say they're not,they are lying..at least you are being honest..I am a child from a multicultural relationship and I think there is reason to be concerned. People with no experience in these types of situations may look from the outside in and say"whats wrong with biracial dating?" well-nothing,but there are HUGE cultural differences that need to be addressed and I have grown up seeing an incredibly difficult marriage unfold,my parents really didn't discuss a lot of things before they got married and they had opposite views on very important issues. One might think that white and black people don't have cultural differences because they are from the same country-but there will be differences as your daughter will learn. It's more complicated than people want to admit,but that has nothing to do with skin color. The fact is,if you allow her to date,you can't tell her who she can and can't date. If anything,you should be concerned about whether she is sexually active,have you talked to her about birth control? Does she know the consequences of sexual intercourse and making sure he's been tested for STDs if they decide to go that route? Do you both communicate openly with one another? I would be more concerned about an unwanted pregnancy than anything else.
You are niave if you think there can't be cultural differences in people that have the same exact skin tone and proper sex education and precautions matterms for all teenagers no matter their skin color or the color of their interest.
To say the things the op has...without knowing the young man in question is not concern for a teenage daughter...it's racism plain and simple.
So she's just this wonderful angel who is practically perfect in every way but!!.........she made a bad choice and goodness it just happens to concern the color of her boyfriend.
My daughter is 17 and she's dating a young black man who is also 17. They go to the same school. Now I know in this PC- orientated world, people will immediately claim I'm a racist. Personally, I don't think I am. Racism has somewhat lost its meaning due to the rise of liberalism... it used to mean someone who believes in racial superiority and discriminates against people of a different race. I do neither. I'm just not comfortable with the idea of her being with the guys she's with. Call me old school if you like. And before people shout "racist" down my throat - Arab Muslims only want their children to date/marry other Arab Muslims. Is that racist?
I am not a Liberal, but even I do not agree with your perception that "Racism"/"Racist" has lost its meaning.
As it is, I don't know how you can argue that you are not a Racist when racism does mean having racial prejudice. You've yet to speak anything of this boy, other than the fact that he's black. You've brought out the stats which you use to base your prejudice on, but you don't even say if the boy is just as guilty as those stats prove (well, other than the skin color). You've mention your daughter, that she's a good girl, capable and smart... You don't trust her judgment? She's 17 now, nearly an adult.
I get that you're not comfortable, obviously this is something very different than you're used to. But don't hold fast to your prejudice and don't hold it over your daughter. Head over to the Nonpersonal relationship forum and read up on the Boer girl who just recently updated her situation which is an even extreme version of yours. Do you want to be that father?
OP, you are racist. It doesn't matter if your neighbor and my neighbor are both racists, it isn't a popular thing to be. I would be very careful in expressing this to your daughter since she will more likely than not rebel if you put up barriers based on race. She may be under your roof now but the day will come when she isn't.
You seem to think that presenting other scenarios will make you not racist. Ah, that isn't going to work since you have proclaimed yourself that already. You don't want give someone a chance because of the color of their skin, what the heck do you call that?
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