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OP, you are using a strong word that is linked to years of hate and bigotry to ask an innocent question on a forum-which is a group of strangers,half of which are trolling and are ready to jump down somebody's throat at the first sound of a buzz word..I'd tend to think that most of the people answering your question on here have the interests of social justice at heart but most of them will probably never know this situation.I think you need to get off this forum and discuss your concerns with your daughter and this young man..get away from the madness. You should invite him over for dinner,you might just end up liking him a lot and the fact is you'll only upset your daughter and push her away by acting like you don't like the kid.
I believe there is a terminology issue. I strongly believe that all people, white, yellow and black, should have same rights and should not be banned from any opportunity. So, on the mental level, I'm not a racist at all. And, I also strongly believe that people with of certain origin should not have preferences such as better chances to get federal fin aid, get accepted to the good college with lousy GPA. So I'm total for equality and justice. For all. Without forgiveness for those who suffered.
On a personal, emotional level, I would prefer my daughter to date and marry a person of same as we color - other thighs equal. But if she finds a wonderful, intelligent, culturally rich, responsible, kind black or yellow male with a sense of humor, I'll accept and probably will love him, if he will make my daughter happy. So, I consider I have my prejudices, but they can be easily overturned after I make a personal contact with people. They should not be their-color-racists, though.
So why would you prefer your daughter to date and marry a person of the same color? Because apparently to many here, this is the definition of racism.
You honestly believe an Arab man would let his daughter marry an African-American man without a second thought? You're more naive than I thought.
If he was a Muslim, why not? And that's assuming the Arab man was even Muslim.
I actually know plenty of Arabs and Muslims, and they usually prefer to be around people who share their values and lifestyle. Just like other normal people.
So don't use them to justify your racism. Because all you're really doing is revealing your prejudices against yet another group of people, confirming that you indeed are a racist.
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My daughter married a man of East Indian decent. He makes her happy. Case closed. BTW he has an outrageous sense of humor. I wish he was my son instead of my son-in-law.
I made a comment once about interracial marriages "Nobody cares about that anymore". My daughter replied "Unless you are in one", which I think says volumes about how far we still have to go.
I don't think the OP has anything against the black boy personally. I'm sure the boy is very nice, and the OP realizes that. It's the relationship that causes the problem. I don't care for PC-ness myself; I can tolerate it, and the OP probably can, as well. But for some people, the line is drawn where it intersects with the family. How well I remember George Jefferson on TV, complaining that his son (black, for those of you born after 1980) was dating a "honky" (cracker, for those of you born after 1980).
Why is it OK for a black man to want his son to date a black girl, but it's not OK for the OP to want their daughter to date a white boy? Both have refused to be PC when it comes to family.
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