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Frankly, I wouldn't want my son OR daughter to remain virginal until marriage. One's virginity is not something sacred and holy. I would want my kids to have a healthy, safe and educated attitude
towards sex. Sex is a huge part of marriage and it's important to see if you're sexually compatible before tying the knot.
Here's what my husband tells my boys--first, if you sleep with girls that you don't really care about, but the girl thinks that you do, you'll hurt them, and it's a mean thing to do. Second, if you sleep with a girl, you'd better really care about her and think she'll make a great mom, because if she gets pregnant you're going to have to deal with her, and pay for the baby, for the rest of your life. Then he talks about condoms. I stay out of it because I just don't want to know...
It has likely never been held in less esteem than it is in present day Western societies. These "purity balls" are a reaction to the massive transformation of values we've seen over the past 50 years.
But isn't it a lot less confusing than to say that you can have sex with anyone you want? Sexual choices are difficult and have serious consequesnce, often negative. That's why society used to regulate them so strictly.
I think society regulated sexual behavior in the past more strictly first and foremost for practical reasons, secondly, because society was far more male dominant than it is today. if a woman makes informed choices than there is little risk. everyone these days could be a bit more picky, though.
I've never felt anthing about them and likely never will. Even after reading your opening thread, I have no clue what a purity ball is. My first thought is it's something you put in your washing machine to dispense soap.
In the early '70s there was a laundry detergent called Salvo, which was compressed into solid balls...actually they were shaped more like hockey pucks, just drop one into your washer with no need to pour or measure anything...oh wait, they were called tablets (I'd never try to swallow a tablet that size.
It was an epic commercial failure, I think the detergent did not properly dissolve into lukewarm or cold water.
It has likely never been held in less esteem than it is in present day Western societies. These "purity balls" are a reaction to the massive transformation of values we've seen over the past 50 years.
But isn't it a lot less confusing than to say that you can have sex with anyone you want? Sexual choices are difficult and have serious consequesnce, often negative. That's why society used to regulate them so strictly.
No, society used to regulate sex because young women used to get pregnant at the drop of a hat. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having sex with whoever you want, as long as you protect yourself. It's not dirty and shameful.
Here's what my husband tells my boys--first, if you sleep with girls that you don't really care about, you'll hurt them, and it's a mean thing to do. Second, if you sleep with a girl, you'd better really care about her and think she'll make a great mom, because if she gets pregnant you're going to have to deal with her, and pay for the baby, for the rest of your life. Then he talks about condoms. I stay out of it because I just don't want to know...
Ahhh, the ostrich approach. That usually doesn't end well.
Frankly, I wouldn't want my son OR daughter to remain virginal until marriage. One's virginity is not something sacred and holy. I would want my kids to have a healthy, safe and educated attitude
towards sex. Sex is a huge part of marriage and it's important to see if you're sexually compatible before tying the knot.
for me, it's my kids' choice, but I will say sex is a very important part of marriage for sure. I could not have married a man that couldn't satisfy me sexually. I'm trying not to be crude here, but, imo, it is the size of the ocean.
Purity Balls have been criticized for promoting the notion that girls and their virginities are like property to be dominated by men, and that females are incapable of controlling their own desires.
If this isn't a sexist thing (Purity Balls) then why isn't there one for boys?
Talk about doublespeak, it's OK for boys to get l**d but not girls....
How can you regulate sex for women without also regulating it for men? Think about it.
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You CAN have sex with anyone you want...
Yes you can, but should you? Who should you have it with? Will it make you happy or miserable? It's all very confusing.
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