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It's not something I judge on. I am 25 years younger than my husband. He was so charming. He was also a bit embarrassed to be dating a woman so much younger. He didn't want to hold hands or be affectionate in public. He got over it. We dated for four years and have now been married for 29.
As you know from my topic I am dating a younger woman, and got a lot of negative reactions, I have also gotten some in real life, though I have noticed a pattern with it being women around my age group; 40 and up mostly. I can only guess it's the same for on here. Does it really bother you? Surely there are plenty men in your age group so why the negativity?
I don't really have skin in this game...I'm happily married. So take my opinion for what it's worth.
No, I don't think the negative reactions come from jealousy so much. Maybe I'm wrong on that...but maybe more like women think the men involved with the younger girlfriends are...probably foolish.
Now...if you as the man, dumped your wife, who was around your age, for a younger woman...than sure, your ex wife could very well become jealous, and hurt that you basically turned her in for a younger model.
Obviously you know that there are deficits between you and your young girlfriend. She doesn't have the same level of life experience as you, possibly can't relate to the music you like, etc. BUT...obviously, whatever the deficits are, you're OK with that, and so is your girlfriend. At the end of the day, whose business is it anyway? If you're happy, I for one am happy for you. (Well...I don't even know you, but I don't begrudge YOU being happy in your May December romance.
All I can tell you is that I am glad my husband decided to stick it out with me and we eventually got married. I am five years younger than him and that was ALMOST too big an age gap for him. He much preferred that women he dated be closer to his age. He tried the younger woman thing but quickly lost interest, and like I said, I was nearly too young for him to even consider (when we met I was 42 and he was 47).
Anyway, I have several friends who married men who were quite a bit older than them. It was fun when she was 30 and he was 50. Not so much fun for them when she was 60 and he was 80 - not for her anyway.
When I was in my early 40s, newly single and dating, there was a guy who was about 35 who really really really was after me. He was a cutie, and I wasn't self conscious about a 7 year or so age gap, but what I DIDN'T like was that I had adult kids and he had never even had kids at all! I didn't want more kids. He claimed not to but I didn't feel good about all that. Besides the fact that I didn't want him to suddenly realize he wanted kids (when I was, say, 50), I also found him to be, well, frankly, one dimensional - shallow, even - due mostly from what I could tell to the fact that he'd never had kids and never had to make the choices and decisions and priorities that raising kids involves.
We were just too different.
I also dated a man who told me he was in his mid fifties, which would imply about a 12 year age difference, but I could tell he wasn't leveling with me, on just the first date - I realized quickly that he was around 60. I asked, and he told me he was 62. Twenty years difference. He really really really really really wanted to keep dating but I kept thinking, "Wait a minute - he will be 80 when I'm 60 and he'll want a nursemaid. Then he'll die and I'll be old and alone. NO THANK YOU."
From the title of the thread, it seems like an over 40 woman is over the hill and may as well throw in the towel. Maybe in the past, but these days there are lots of women who work on keeping themselves looking good. I can’t imagine that many of them would be jealous of a guy in their age group dating a young woman, when they could just as easily date a younger guy.
I get plenty of flirts from younger guys and I’m thinking ‘dude, I’m old enough to be your mom, lol. I’d say this thread topic is appropriate for a few women, but look at Kim Kardashian. Isn’t she forty? She looks terrific and she could hold her own from someone twenty years younger. Cindy Crawford is over fifty and I can’t imagine many women competing with her.
A lot depends on how the woman feels about herself. A woman with good self esteem shouldn’t be threatened by a man dating a younger woman, unless she got dumped for one. I suspect that many women on this thread would find themselves with a wide choice of age groups to chose from, if they were single. It’s just the way things are today.
I wouldn't call it "jealousy," but it does make me feel a bit wistful to see a man my age with a younger woman. It reinforces my fears that, past a certain age, a woman is no longer attractive to men. It feels like a form of rejection. While I consider myself a feminist and don't "need" a man to be OK, I love men and enjoy their company and their attention. Seeing other women getting the attention that used to come so easily to me feels kind of sad. You see, I used to be that younger woman. My first husband was nearly 20 years older than me. So it feels like karma to experience the same feelings of rejection that older women felt when I was with him.
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