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I think it's interesting how much validation some people get from assuming everyone is jealous of them.....
I don't think the OP believes other women are jealous of him when he dates younger women. I think he believes the older women are jealous towards the younger women. So I don't think he's looking for validation but looking for explanations of their behavior. And sometimes, jealousy is the root cause of criticism and negativity.
I don't think the OP believes other women are jealous of him when he dates younger women. I think he believes the older women are jealous towards the younger women. So I don't think he's looking for validation but looking for explanations of their behavior. And sometimes, jealousy is the root cause of criticism and negativity.
Right, well, that equates to: he thinks older (I wonder why we keep using the word "older" when he actually means his own age...that's not older) women would have wanted him but now they can't get him, hence they're jealous. So...same thing, really. They're "jealous of" the younger woman because she took this dude out of the dating pool. Women the world over are wishing they could just claw one another's eyes out fighting for the middle-aged dudes and this just proves it, etc., etc.
But even then, he doesn't actually think that. Because he knows that everyone was responding to that thread based on HIM saying he was being used, with men and women alike of all ages responding that yes, his fired-from-Walmart, not-exactly-in-school-but-requires-tuition-in-cash, loves new cars as gifts, lukewarm "girlfriend" is probably using him. So it's a false argument. It was disingenuous from the start. But boy has it gotten mileage! So...there's that?
In this case it really IS a a case of the OP wanting to make himself feel better. He knows he's being used, it was the title of his own thread, for heaven's sake. No, people were NOT responding to that thread en masse because of unwarranted but totally uncontrollable jealousy. We...men, young men, older men, women the OP's age, young women, were all just agreeing with him but he couldn't handle that so he made this jeer-jab thread just to prove that no, we're all wrong (and even he was wrong about HIS OWN assumption), it's really just all about jealousy.
This whole thing is really just so weird.
But it does win the internet today for epic ridiculousness and misleading button-pushing. So as I said, there's that.
People do weird things when they're bruised. Some people just lash out at whole categories of other people...I mean...I dunno. Can't see what this has accomplished for anybody besides being divisive and going off in a thousand different directions, but that's just my take.
I don't think the OP believes other women are jealous of him when he dates younger women. I think he believes the older women are jealous towards the younger women. So I don't think he's looking for validation but looking for explanations of their behavior. And sometimes, jealousy is the root cause of criticism and negativity.
To me, the OP is obviously being disingenuous and trying to deflect from his own issues. This thread was made in response to the thread he posted a little while ago in the relationships forum. He took everyone criticizing him on his parenting skills and agreeing that he IS being used, as older women being jealous. So no, this is not about trying to understand certain behaviors. Evident in the fact that he hasn't come back since. A little discernment goes a long way.
Wasn't an issue for me. In my 40's I attracted younger guys all the time ~ some of them considerably younger. I coulda' been a cougar but ... I wasn't available in the first place, but I wanted more brains than youth from a guy.
To me, the OP is obviously being disingenuous and trying to deflect from his own issues. This thread was made in response to the thread he posted a little while ago in the relationships forum. He took everyone criticizing him on his parenting skills and agreeing that he IS being used, as older women being jealous. So no, this is not about trying to understand certain behaviors. Evident in the fact that he hasn't come back since. A little discernment goes a long way.
I am not aware of his other posts, I was just responding to the one here on this particular issue.
I am not aware of his other posts, I was just responding to the one here on this particular issue.
Well, he actually references his prior post in his OP here and states the negative reactions there (??) are what led him to make this post. So that actually is the particular issue of this thread, according to him.
I understand your confusion, though, given how deliberately misleading it was.
It would be like posting a thread "Are older men generally insecure of dating because of erectile dysfunction?" and then watching the fur fly and claiming the men are responding negatively because they obviously all have ED. They couldn't just be offended, angered and hurt because of their entire collective group having been painted as probably having ED.
Only it would be like posting that "reasonable" question on the tail end of having asked people why one's older boyfriend left - was it because of X? - which had NOTHING AT ALL to do with ED.
Not entirely true. I have gotten scowls from women on several occasions when dating a much younger, attractive women who actually looked younger than her real age. The age difference was almost 19 years. I was 48, and she was 30 when we started dating. Also, when we were out, they would also treat her poorly due to pure jealousy. It did not happen often, but often enough.
I regard younger women who date much older men with either sympathy or disdain. Sympathy, because like some women I know, they will end up being a nursemaid at some point (if they stay married to the older guy long enough). Disdain because they are probably after his money or are enamoured of his power. Either scenario will probably end up badly for them. I’m beyond the dating age, so none of this is jealousy!
As you know from my topic I am dating a younger woman, and got a lot of negative reactions, I have also gotten some in real life, though I have noticed a pattern with it being women around my age group; 40 and up mostly. I can only guess it's the same for on here. Does it really bother you? Surely there are plenty men in your age group so why the negativity?
Some women may feel that way, but I personally do not care who you date. But, depending on how large the age gap is, I will avoid you if I get a pedophile vibe. I mean 40-year old dating an 18-year old, for instance. That is just creepy. I am no way jealous of the high school kids that is being preyed upon.
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Right, well, that equates to: he thinks older (I wonder why we keep using the word "older" when he actually means his own age...that's not older) women would have wanted him but now they can't get him, hence they're jealous. So...same thing, really. They're "jealous of" the younger woman because she took this dude out of the dating pool. Women the world over are wishing they could just claw one another's eyes out fighting for the middle-aged dudes and this just proves it, etc., etc.
But even then, he doesn't actually think that. Because he knows that everyone was responding to that thread based on HIM saying he was being used, with men and women alike of all ages responding that yes, his fired-from-Walmart, not-exactly-in-school-but-requires-tuition-in-cash, loves new cars as gifts, lukewarm "girlfriend" is probably using him. So it's a false argument. It was disingenuous from the start. But boy has it gotten mileage! So...there's that?
In this case it really IS a a case of the OP wanting to make himself feel better. He knows he's being used, it was the title of his own thread, for heaven's sake. No, people were NOT responding to that thread en masse because of unwarranted but totally uncontrollable jealousy. We...men, young men, older men, women the OP's age, young women, were all just agreeing with him but he couldn't handle that so he made this jeer-jab thread just to prove that no, we're all wrong (and even he was wrong about HIS OWN assumption), it's really just all about jealousy.
This whole thing is really just so weird.
But it does win the internet today for epic ridiculousness and misleading button-pushing. So as I said, there's that.
People do weird things when they're bruised. Some people just lash out at whole categories of other people...I mean...I dunno. Can't see what this has accomplished for anybody besides being divisive and going off in a thousand different directions, but that's just my take.
Women over 40 who date younger men: "Rawr, Cougar. You go girl!"
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We...men, young men, older men, women the OP's age, young women, were all just agreeing with him but he couldn't handle that so he made this jeer-jab thread just to prove that no, we're all wrong (and even he was wrong about HIS OWN assumption), it's really just all about jealousy. 
