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I shouldn't be mean. Again...it's not as if this stuff is a character flaw or anything, hair loss happens. It all happens...but that's the point. A 50something dude avoiding "baggage" is just...oh man. Folks, I really don't know.
I mean come on now.
No, I get it, you act like that, you are practically inviting mocking.
It's not that the hair is receding--the majority of men my age are at least partially bald, and a lot of the women are getting there, too.
What makes us mock them is the fact that they are lying to themselves about how the world sees them.
Yes, we all have baggage and we all are in somebody else's baggage, too.
Except for Under-The-Rock Guy, of course.
I think we should keep him on the forum for reference. UTRG, for short.
Yeah, my husband and I rib each other about "oh no, and is your bad hip acting up too?" over various ailments, LOL.
It's actually pretty cool.
Just an alternative thought. It's good to have a sense of humor, but it becomes not funny when your bad hip or bad knees or arthritis or any of 100's of maladies impede upon one's life to the point of continual pain or are an impediiment to mobility or make a difference in quality of life.
I don't see the humor in it.
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Just an alternative thought. It's good to have a sense of humor, but it becomes not funny when your bad hip or bad knee or arthritis or any malady impedes upon one's life to the point of continual pain or impediiment to mobility.
I don't see the humor in it.
I'm not a big fan of associating already unattractive physical traits with poor character, but we may just be no fun.
I think this is all about the insecurity that so often comes with age. Men or women who measure their worth even partly based on the youth of their partner are insecure. That's likely the OP's motivation and the motivation of men and women who target much younger people for relationships, and especially those who talk about it often with lots of and . It'l likely part of the motivation of men and women who look askance at these sort of relationships also. They're a big dose of O youth and beauty.
Aging is a sort of wound to many of us. Even those of us who never looked like much when younger feel the loss. We're all a little youth obsessed. I've aged fairly well and I'm probably better looking relative to men my age than I've ever been. If I live to 80 I'll be hot as hell But then reality.
The first line in the poem title in my status is "This is no country for old men". The speaker imagines leaving where he is for Byzantium, a sort of other worldly place where wisdom and spirit are the stuff. If Byzantium wasn't some near mythical ruin, I might go there.
Age and sex. I'll admit that I feel a twinge when women who might be in my dating age range if I were to become single talk about the younger men they date and play with. Who needs that image, even when a 35 year old is likely objectively not so hot. He's still relatively young, and that travels.
Age is a *****. I think it may be more so today than 30 or 50 years ago. Youth's worship is so ubiquitous. Yet I still, naively, want to be seen in an era when I've probably been invisible for 20 years.
This surprises me considering how vibrant and gracious and, I don't know, just generally cool you always are on the forums.
Not being a creeper, LOL, don't worry, you don't need to lock your doors or anything...just saying.
I do think age is a huge motivator in both defensiveness and offensiveness...it is SUCH a huge issue around here, for example...but particularly on relationship forums (where this started anyway). People positively freak out. They want to distance themselves. But you can't distance yourself from, well, yourself. Luckily there really is more to us than "stamina" or lack of wrinkles or whatever. And MOST reasonable people can see that and look at more than just one factor (for example, age)...that I truly believe. This place is its own little odd microcosm. I don't actually believe it's representative of the general population...certainly not from what I've seen IRL.
Just an alternative thought. It's good to have a sense of humor, but it becomes not funny when your bad hip or bad knees or arthritis or any of 100's of maladies impede upon one's life to the point of continual pain or impediiment to mobility or makes a difference in quality of life.
I don't see the humor in it.
I think this is just a difference in style. My husband and I DO have our chronic issues. We try to laugh one another past them because after taking care of them in every way possible (but knowing there are limits), what's the next step? Cry? That's an option but it's not my option, personally. I laugh and I believe I'll keep laughing to the grave. Then it will be God who's laughing at me.
I'm with jerZ. You either laugh or you cry. One thing I don't need as I age is dwelling on the negative. And I have arthritis that impacted my life. I couldn't walk up a flight of stairs. Diet and exercise took care of that and I feel great. My goal is to bench over 100 lbs, putting the 20 year old version of me to shame. I like that my partner and I are experiencing the joys of aging together instead of one person. We can commiserate with each other..he's noticing more grey hair for example. So am I. Stuff like thay
So you're in your mid-50s (and want a woman under 35) ... but women your own age are "up to their eyeballs with baggage," including about the fact that they are aging.
You, of course, despite being the same age, have no such baggage (I guess aging doesn't affect you at all?).
Really?
Guys, seriously, do you understand how you sound? (That's a serious question, despite the fact that it probably sounds snarky.)
I did not say I was baggage free nor is a 35 yo necessarily either. Aging effects everyone of course but having a younger woman by your side does soften its effects a bit. But I have met a lot of women 50+ over the years who are single and most have a lot of stuff from their past to process. I don't and its easier to find a compatible woman younger than myself and I am more attracted to younger women. I keep myself in shape and I am financially secure so I can pull it off.
This is just my experience and I don't expect everyone to agree with me. I do get this impression from you that myself dating younger women annoys you. Same impression I get in person from women from time to time.
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and 
. It'l likely part of the motivation of men and women who look askance at these sort of relationships also. They're a big dose of O youth and beauty. 
But then reality. 
Luckily there really is more to us than "stamina" or lack of wrinkles or whatever. And MOST reasonable people can see that and look at more than just one factor (for example, age)...that I truly believe. This place is its own little odd microcosm. I don't actually believe it's representative of the general population...certainly not from what I've seen IRL.
