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well I told him about my past and I told him I like him but I just need more time to this time avoid making the same mistake as I did in the past. Plus, there are several other reasons I was hesitant about being in an "exclusive relationship" with him. 1) one day I googled his name and his name came up on a two dating websites (and it showed he had been recently online--after he met me). I asked him about it and he said he got on to delete his accounts. 2) I invited him twice to go hang out with my friends, the first time he said his dog was sick and he had to stay home, the second time he said he had lost his dog and didn't want to go. 3) he never even asked me to go with him when he hangs out with his friends, and when he hangs out with his "friends", he never picks up his phone. I just thought there was something weird about this guy, and I want to take some time to figure out what kind of person he is.
Trust your instincts. Drop this guy, he's a waste of your time.
It doesn't take a lot of time to get the medicine and drop it off. You have to learn how to balance a potential romantic mate with friends.
I've done that with reasonable success over my time as an adult And like I said, I likely would have done just that - the only exception would have been if it was either right as I was leaving, or after I was already out, and she was way the hell across town or in another city.
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I've never had friends as cool as the ones you have described. All of my friends have been sport-loving and God-fearing simpletons who are rather ignorant of art and music discussion.
That sucks. Have you considered moving to LA, San Francisco, or Boston, or at least in the greater metro areas around there? I was a military kid and spent a lot of my childhood and youth in small country towns in the middle of nowhere where people were generally like that, and hated it. Don't think I could ever go back.
I don't blame the OP for being upset. I would not become any further involved with this guy. If the shoe was on the other foot, I would have gone and got him some medication rather then thinking of him going out in the cold.
I was married to a man like this. THE most important thing to him was being with his friends. He left me home sick on more then one occasion. I mean the kind of sick that I was too weak to get up and get my self something to eat or stagger to the bathroom. I was left wondering why on earth he ever got married in the first place.
If this guy is just like this, don't expect you can jump through some hoops and it will change. I jumped through a lot and my ex never changed.
I live in a much bigger city now than when I was in college. And so far things are a lot more art, music, and culture focused now. All of the herds of people I knew while in college were worthless losers; even if they were into art and music, those interest were second to stupid stuff like local gossip or celebrity gossip or God fearing junk. I was friends with a lady in college who was an amazing opera singer and talking to her was like nails on a chalkboard: she only wanted to talk about Mormonism and local gossip. It was horrible because everyone was like her.
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That sucks. Have you considered moving to LA, San Francisco, or Boston, or at least in the greater metro areas around there? I was a military kid and spent a lot of my childhood and youth in small country towns in the middle of nowhere where people were generally like that, and hated it. Don't think I could ever go back.
well I told him about my past and I told him I like him but I just need more time to this time avoid making the same mistake as I did in the past. Plus, there are several other reasons I was hesitant about being in an "exclusive relationship" with him. 1) one day I googled his name and his name came up on a two dating websites (and it showed he had been recently online--after he met me). I asked him about it and he said he got on to delete his accounts. 2) I invited him twice to go hang out with my friends, the first time he said his dog was sick and he had to stay home, the second time he said he had lost his dog and didn't want to go. 3) he never even asked me to go with him when he hangs out with his friends, and when he hangs out with his "friends", he never picks up his phone. I just thought there was something weird about this guy, and I want to take some time to figure out what kind of person he is.
... the reason I'd advise you to not pursue anything with him has nothing to do with him not coming over when you're sick, it just sounds like you guys aren't compatible.
well I told him about my past and I told him I like him but I just need more time to this time avoid making the same mistake as I did in the past. Plus, there are several other reasons I was hesitant about being in an "exclusive relationship" with him. 1) one day I googled his name and his name came up on a two dating websites (and it showed he had been recently online--after he met me). I asked him about it and he said he got on to delete his accounts. 2) I invited him twice to go hang out with my friends, the first time he said his dog was sick and he had to stay home, the second time he said he had lost his dog and didn't want to go. 3) he never even asked me to go with him when he hangs out with his friends, and when he hangs out with his "friends", he never picks up his phone. I just thought there was something weird about this guy, and I want to take some time to figure out what kind of person he is.
Hard to tell.....keep your ears and eyes wides open on this one.
Don't take his calls if he bothers to try to get in touch with you. What an immature jerk. Ugh.
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And like I said, I likely would have done just that - the only exception would have been if it was either right as I was leaving, or after I was already out, and she was way the hell across town or in another city.
