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I don't like the idea of getting an "escort," but ideally if you became comfortable with sex after a few times of having sex with an escort, perhaps you would no longer be afraid to pursue a real relationship, so then you wouldn't have to worry about the cost of paying for sex for the rest of your life if you decided you couldn't live without it. Right?
Perhaps but only in a FWB kind of relationship because relationships are much more complicated than sex.
Sorry for bumping this one but I wanted to know a thing.
The curiosity is reaching its limit and I've been thinking lately of paying to get the thing done and see how it is (if I get the courage). The major advantage is that no one gets expectactions that way. It's pretty much a business deal and it's less likely she'll laugh at me or anything like that.
However, I'm afraid that once I try it I will want to have it again and again and again. And even though I'm quite well off (sorry for being vulgar here), I don't intend to spend thousands each month on an escort because there's more noble things to spend your money on.
Is sex kind of 'addictive' like masturbation? I say this because one of these days I decided to see how long I could go without masturbation. Well, after 4 days it seemed like my testicles were about to burst. Is sex this way?
I might make a trip to Amsterdam one of these days.
Go to Vegas, it is way cheaper than Amster Dee.
Paying for sex can turn into a nasty habit. I suppose it could be the sex, but for me I love the thrill. I have been robbed, beat down, stabbed (a pimp came out of the motel bathroom and got the jump on me) and almost killed and I keep coming back for more. I love it so much and I spend so much money on it, but I don't care. It's what makes me happy.
Plus you do not have to deal with all the crap that comes along with the game. Games are for kids. Here's 600 bucks, you know how I like it. And please lock the door behind you.
Paying for sex can turn into a nasty habit. I suppose it could be the sex, but for me I love the thrill. I have been robbed, beat down, stabbed (a pimp came out of the motel bathroom and got the jump on me) and almost killed and I keep coming back for more. I love it so much and I spend so much money on it, but I don't care. It's what makes me happy.
Plus you do not have to deal with all the crap that comes along with the game. Games are for kids. Here's 600 bucks, you know how I like it. And please lock the door behind you.
But Amsterdam is way closer to me. That's what I'm afraid of. I don't it to turn into an addiction because seriously there's better stuff to spend your money on.
I haven't read the entire thread but is there some reason why you haven't spoken to a mental health professional? I mean that in the kindest way possible.
Perhaps but only in a FWB kind of relationship because relationships are much more complicated than sex.
Not if you are with the right person...
boodhabunny makes a very valid point. You aren't going to learn anything from anonymous posters on here. A professional can help you far better than we could.
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Life is a gamble Jason!!!
It'll be a moment of mutual opportunity when you allow yourself: each of you can find understanding for each other. She might laugh. You can forgive her if it's worth it.
You need the practice of letting a woman know. Laughter isn't a crime. It isn't "nice" but inexperience isn't necessarily "nice" nor is it a crime. A mutual opportunity for understanding: You need to be able to expect at least one uncontrolled laugh BECAUSE she will NOT be expecting what you willl tell her. If the laugh continued, that would be mean. But an initial laugh would be natural.
Seriously. If someone wants to love you, she will be understanding & it's just the FIRST STEP past the first kiss.
Everyone needs practice. You'll be okay. Jump back in & call her. Tell her it's a sensitive matter but you need her to be nice about it. Tell her it isn't about a bad background or anything illegal but it's personal.
Then tell her it isn't that you're gay either. And when you tell her what it's really really really about... it'll be such a relief to both of you ----- YOU can BOTH LAUGH with RELIEF.
How about that. Jason. You are going to be fine. Go get this nice lady & take her on a really nice date. You both deserve it. I bet she misses you already : )
Don't ever bring yourself to that level where you have to pay for sex. I didn't read the whole thread but I glanced over part of it, you said Amsterdam is close to you? I'm guessing that you live in the EU, bro maybe you have a little situation anxiety but it's nothing to be ashamed of. Just remember the power of the bold action. People love to beat themselves up over their failures, yet they ignore the successes that they've had in life. Banging a broad is a natural right, not something for you to be afraid of.
I haven't read the entire thread but is there some reason why you haven't spoken to a mental health professional? I mean that in the kindest way possible.
Invest your money in getting yourself healthy.
Why should I go to a mental health professional?
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Not if you are with the right person...
boodhabunny makes a very valid point. You aren't going to learn anything from anonymous posters on here. A professional can help you far better than we could.
Perhaps but that's not an option in this case. Again, I can't see the goal of going to a psychiatrist when one doesn't have a mental illness.
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Originally Posted by sarahkate_m
It'll be a moment of mutual opportunity when you allow yourself: each of you can find understanding for each other. She might laugh. You can forgive her if it's worth it.
You need the practice of letting a woman know. Laughter isn't a crime. It isn't "nice" but inexperience isn't necessarily "nice" nor is it a crime. A mutual opportunity for understanding: You need to be able to expect at least one uncontrolled laugh BECAUSE she will NOT be expecting what you willl tell her. If the laugh continued, that would be mean. But an initial laugh would be natural.
Seriously. If someone wants to love you, she will be understanding & it's just the FIRST STEP past the first kiss.
Everyone needs practice. You'll be okay. Jump back in & call her. Tell her it's a sensitive matter but you need her to be nice about it. Tell her it isn't about a bad background or anything illegal but it's personal.
Then tell her it isn't that you're gay either. And when you tell her what it's really really really about... it'll be such a relief to both of you ----- YOU can BOTH LAUGH with RELIEF.
How about that. Jason. You are going to be fine. Go get this nice lady & take her on a really nice date. You both deserve it. I bet she misses you already : )
Ohh no that chapter is over. Saw her the other day with another guy, I don't know if it's her boyfriend but she has certainly moved on, thankfully.
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Don't ever bring yourself to that level where you have to pay for sex. I didn't read the whole thread but I glanced over part of it, you said Amsterdam is close to you? I'm guessing that you live in the EU, bro maybe you have a little situation anxiety but it's nothing to be ashamed of. Just remember the power of the bold action. People love to beat themselves up over their failures, yet they ignore the successes that they've had in life. Banging a broad is a natural right, not something for you to be afraid of.
What is wrong with paying for sex? I mean, for some people it's immoral, I can understand that. But that's not my case. Yes, I live in the EU and Amsterdam is closer.
Well, for many of us it isn't a natural right, we are racional beings. Besides, I've had plenty of successes in my professional life.
I'm not boodha, but it's because you seem to have a unusually strong aversion to social interaction. You had a woman interested in you, and you panicked and cut her out of your life rather than allowing yourself to be vulnerable. You seem to want to change, but you don't have the tools or the coping skills to do so, and a professional therapist can help you work through these issues.
And I want to change. That's why I said I have been thinking about paying for sex.
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Saw her the other day with another guy, I don't know if it's her boyfriend but she has certainly moved on, thankfully.
