Are attractive women really much 'harder' to get than average looking women? (dating, love)

[Trimac20]

I can't really speak from personal experience (only internet dating really ) but I'm wondering if you've found this to be the case...

That there's no point 'limiting yourself' and sticking to girls who are 'in your league' because you think they are too good for you or because they are very attractive, let's say the top 10% of the population.

Personally, I think girls who think of themselves as attractive - which isn't always the same as actually being so - often try to play 'hard to get' or just keep themselves off-limits. A lot of rather average looking women think of themselves this way. On the other hand, it seems if you hit the right buttons it's not all that impossible to land the 'hot chick', especially if she doesn't have that attitude.

I guess my point is that maybe the whole belief that attractive women are much harder to have a relationship with isn't entirely true (and mean of course there is a basis for it). I'm not just talking exceptions, but maybe a different dynamic is going on.

What do you think?

[filihok]

Women who don't like you are hard to "get".

Women who like you are much easier to "get"

Signed
A dude who "gets" women who are much more attractive than I consider myself.

[xxbabeechick]

Originally Posted by Trimac20

What do you think?

I think...

a) men for the most part are delusional and clueless about their level of attractiveness to women.

b) men are always trying to score with someone out of their league

c) most men would be better served finding a a strong, reliable woman within their "league"

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by xxbabeechick

I think...

a) men for the most part are delusional and clueless about their level of attractiveness to women.

b) men are always trying to score with someone out of their league

c) most men would be better served finding a a strong, reliable woman within their "league"

The use of terms like 'out of my league', 'scoring' confirms to me that dating is really more a sport, a competition, than it is about love.

Men are visual creatures (what a cliche) and the main avenue for meeting women is in a bar or club, where the only way to really notice someone is by looks. That's why they're generally pretty bad places for seriously meeting singles.

[carp killer]

Good looking women are only attracted to money. If you have money, they will be less likely to reject you. All the attractive women I know only go with guys who have lots of money.

[SwedishViking]

No, the uggliest woman with tripple humps on her back and a foot growing out of her ear will still want a perfect prince charming and settle for nothing less.

I've been rejected by women I'd almost think it a charity to offer myself to while drunk. at least I'm happy about those rejections when I sober up :P

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by carp killer

Good looking women are only attracted to money. If you have money, they will be less likely to reject you. All the attractive women I know only go with guys who have lots of money.

What about good looking girls who enjoy good looking guys and sex?

I guess they choose those who are good looking AND have the money.

[xxbabeechick]

Originally Posted by carp killer

Good looking women are only attracted to money.

Bitterness.

[Trimac20]

Originally Posted by SwedishViking

No, the uggliest woman with tripple humps on her back and a foot growing out of her ear will still want a perfect prince charming and settle for nothing less.

I've been rejected by women I'd almost think it a charity to offer myself to while drunk. at least I'm happy about those rejections when I sober up :P

For some reason I find 'ugly' or overweight women are often not very friendly, and bitter...maybe the attractive ones are being fake, but I've met some who seemed really genuine. In general, however, bitchiness has no correlation to how good looking somebody is.

[noela]

Originally Posted by xxbabeechick

Bitterness.

You bet.