When is a woman considered wife-material? (marriage, single, younger, family)
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one is a girlfriend when one is dating and/or in a serious relationship; one becomes a wife when one is married.
I suppose one becomes 'wife status' when a man proposes.
The problem is he did once asked the ''Will you marry me question'' long ago but afterwards never set up a specific date nor at least show other gestures that he was serious about it and not just talking. If he was serious, my status would have change from gf to fiancee already.
Then the topic was not brought up for a long time and he would just talk to me as a gf, sometimes I felt treated like a friend.
So that's what I'm asking. Where was I lacking??? I heard if a man either never proposes, or does but was only talking to lead her on then it's because she is was never good enough to be considered wife-material.
So if he never saw any potential in me, why the hell stringing me along for?
The problem is he did once asked the ''Will you marry me question'' long ago but afterwards never set up a specific date nor at least show other gestures that he was serious about it and not just talking. If he was serious, my status would have change from gf to fiancee already.
Then the topic was not brought up for a long time and he would just talk to me as a gf, sometimes I felt treated like a friend.
So that's what I'm asking. Where was I lacking??? I heard if a man either never proposes, or does but was only talking to lead her on then it's because she is was never good enough to be consider wife-material.
You have to warm them up to the idea first. Only a fool goes for the homerun with a single base hit.
You have to warm them up to the idea first. Only a fool goes for the homerun with a single base hit.
I know but I was somewhat naivee then. I was a then 19 year-old virgin with practically zero experience (other than making-out) about relationships so that didn't really help out too much. The first time I ever fell in love too so I thought he was serious about it.
I know by now.
I know but I was somewhat naivee then. I was a then 19 year-old virgin with practically zero experience (other than making-out) about relationships so that didn't really help out too much. The first time I ever fell in love too so I thought he was serious about it.
I know by now.
Well, I can't speak for every man because we are all different. Here it goes... (1) We think you are attractive. You don't have to be a model, just "cute" is plenty. (2) Is she going to cheat on me? Is she the flirty type with all the other dudes while we are standing right there? If so, that is not a good sign for a wife. (3) Does she work, and can she hold a job? No guy likes a soap opera queen who doesn't, and won't work when WE really need the extra income. (4) If we were going to have kids, what kind of mother would she make? N/A if you both agree to not have children. (5) She has to have some sort of home skills. It's never good if the guy who only knows how to make brats, burgers, dogs and steaks is the master chef of the household. Oh..."so cook for yourself...cook for ourselves!" Yeah, well we need a "back up" plan in case we suck at it!
(5) She has to have some sort of home skills. It's never good if the guy who only knows how to make brats, burgers, dogs and steaks is the master chef of the household. Oh..."so cook for yourself...cook for ourselves!" Yeah, well we need a "back up" plan in case we suck at it!
Yeah I do know the basic surviving skills (frying eggs, streaks, making the rice etc.). We're all going to learn more about it in our major (but almost at the end of the career). But I'm still far from being an expert at it. If I were making different plates, they would be kinda simple.
By the way, what you meant by brats?
I believe that in order to be wife-material you need to let your man know what is important to you. If he makes it important to himself, he is now husband-material for you.
The problem is he did once asked the ''Will you marry me question'' long ago but afterwards never set up a specific date nor at least show other gestures that he was serious about it and not just talking. If he was serious, my status would have change from gf to fiancee already.
Then the topic was not brought up for a long time and he would just talk to me as a gf, sometimes I felt treated like a friend.
So that's what I'm asking. Where was I lacking??? I heard if a man either never proposes, or does but was only talking to lead her on then it's because she is was never good enough to be considered wife-material.
So if he never saw any potential in me, why the hell stringing me along for?
To the OP. I might as well lay it on the line, I wouldn't consider you wife material. You don't even sound much like girlfriend material. I don't know what you think you can bring to the table. You're still in school, so you maybe have school debt, and are not employed full time so you will need to be supported. You don't like cooking or keeping a nice house. You say you don't care about having children but most men should know at your age that almost every woman has the potential to change her mind when she gets closer to 30. YOu apparently by your own admission don't have much of a sense of humor, and prefer to read, so you are not into any fun guy, outside activities. Maybe you should consider why would a guy be interested in you? After all, all women have the ability to make a man happy between the sheets.
I personally think that there's someone for everyone, that's the only way I can explain some of the pairings I've seen. But maybe you just weren't the right one for your ex.
I don't even know how much a lot of those domestic abilities matter in finding a partner. One of my good friends didn't cook and had barely even cleaned before she got married. She lived at home (where her mom did most of the cooking/cleaning) or in the dorm (where there was a cafeteria and she only had to pick her stuff up off the floor) before moving in with her husband. And he taught her to cook and clean. He is antisocial and has a strange sense of humor and she gets him to go out and helps him feel more comfortable.
He's my ex bf now. After a while I got fed up with it and send him to hell.
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Oh..."so cook for yourself...cook for ourselves!"
Yeah, well we need a "back up" plan in case we suck at it!
