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The first guy i dated, I initiated and looking back, I don't feel I would do it again. But I feel you can initiate at any time, if you feel that the feeling is mutual.
Do it whenever, if a guy isn't interested he'll say no. It is no different than a guy initiating conversation with a girl... if she isn't interested she'll say no..
I believe this to be true. So when , as a female , can you initiate contact? How long to let him do all the initiating of contact?
I'm not sure what this question means, could you clarify?
This is a good topic. i have a question. Why are some guys kind of lame and awkward about initiating contact? If you see someone you like at the coffee shop on a Sunday morning, and she responds in a friendly manner, doesn't it make sense to go back the next Sunday morning to see if she's there, and talk to her? Rather than waiting until the next random encounter somewhere? I've seen guys who are definitely interested, but they never figure out how to "close the deal", so to speak. The next chance encounter might be at a bad time, there might not be an opportunity to talk, so doesn't it make sense to try to make the most of an opportunity when it does arise?
I'm not sure what this question means, could you clarify?
This is a good topic. i have a question. Why are some guys kind of lame and awkward about initiating contact? If you see someone you like at the coffee shop on a Sunday morning, and she responds in a friendly manner, doesn't it make sense to go back the next Sunday morning to see if she's there, and talk to her? Rather than waiting until the next random encounter somewhere? I've seen guys who are definitely interested, but they never figure out how to "close the deal", so to speak. The next chance encounter might be at a bad time, there might not be an opportunity to talk, so doesn't it make sense to try to make the most of an opportunity when it does arise?
Why can't she initiate contact? Guys can use that same logic that girls can.
I'm not sure what this question means, could you clarify?
This is a good topic. i have a question. Why are some guys kind of lame and awkward about initiating contact? If you see someone you like at the coffee shop on a Sunday morning, and she responds in a friendly manner, doesn't it make sense to go back the next Sunday morning to see if she's there, and talk to her? Rather than waiting until the next random encounter somewhere? I've seen guys who are definitely interested, but they never figure out how to "close the deal", so to speak. The next chance encounter might be at a bad time, there might not be an opportunity to talk, so doesn't it make sense to try to make the most of an opportunity when it does arise?
Here is my 2 cents. A woman should never offer of give a guy her number. A guy needs to take the initiative to ask for it. If he doesn't, there is a reason for it, including he is not interested having anything more than coffee shop encounters with you. Unless the guy is a social retard, no guy is too shy about asking for your number, it's too easy to do... "hey, give me you number and I'll text you the link/direction/etc."
There is one other related item you should be aware of. Some guys, including myself in certain situations, find it a turn off when they are no longer the pursuer, the one doing the chase. It's weird concept but sometimes it feels like it deprives us of playing that part of our role as a man. I know it's crazy and we should get over it, but it somehow affects libido and sexual desire. For example, I use to think it would be great to have a hot woman just come up to me at a bar and say, "lets go to your place and screw our brains out." Guess what, happened to me twice and it totally turned me off, no room for me to be the hunter, my tube snake wasn't interested in that boogie, and I didn't go through it. Go figure, and I may be different from others in that regard. Good Luck.
Here is my 2 cents. A woman should never offer of give a guy her number. A guy needs to take the initiative to ask for it. If he doesn't, there is a reason for it, including he is not interested having anything more than coffee shop encounters with you. Unless the guy is a social retard, no guy is too shy about asking for your number, it's too easy to do... "hey, give me you number and I'll text you the link/direction/etc."
There is one other related item you should be aware of. Some guys, including myself under the circumstances, find it a turn off when they are no longer the pursuer, the one doing the chase. It's weird concept but sometimes if feels like it deprives us of play that part of our manly role. I know it's crazy and we should get over it, but it somehow affects libido and sexual desire. For example, I use to think it would be great to have a hot woman just come up to me at a bar and say, "lets go to your place and screw our brains out." Guess what, happened to me twice and it turned me off, no room for me to be the hunter, and didn't go through it. Go figure, I may be different in that regard. Good Luck.
Most of my guy friends have said the same thing...that it's a huge turn off and makes the girl look 'easy' if she makes the first move.
Personally, I don't give a crap and if I like someone I'm going to pursue it. I went out with a guy last week, he immediately texted me after the date telling me what a great time he had, then texted me on and off for the next two days...then nothing. So, I made the initiative and asked him on a second date and we're going out again this weekend.
If a guy can't handle a confident woman, then we're obviously not meant to be
If a guy can't handle a confident woman, then we're obviously not meant to be
It's not a confidence issue, but I understand where you might think that is the case.
But let me put the scene together for you from a man's perspective: once you give me your number without me asking for it, you have now let me know that you want me to f_ck you, and any talk or thinking about dating you or being involved relationship with you will come later after I get laid... but it's highly unlikely now that I know you are a very forward woman and have no problem putting yourself out there when it comes to your sexual needs. If the sex doesn't happen soon, the guy will feel like you tricked him into dating you.
If there are any guys who think I'm over stating this, please post your thoughts.
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