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Everywhere. They start off nice, and then the 'real guy' comes out. It's incredible how manipulative men can be. And these are intelligent, college educated, employed, successful men as well as blue collar tradesman. They learned early on how to use a woman and they're very good at it.
Then, when a genuinely nice man comes up and actually tells a woman he likes her and thinks she's great, guess what? She's not going to believe him. She's going to put her guard up and assume he'll use her because the nice men and the not-so-nice men are very similar in the beginning. They use very similar tactics, but desire very similar outcomes.
True. When it gets to that point, it is easy for men to pack it in and they are doing that in droves.
True. When it gets to that point, it is easy for men to pack it in and they are doing that in droves.
Yep. And that's the point I'm at now, which is generally why women start making men 'wait' to get physical. We simply want to make sure you're going to stick around afterwards. Why can't a man simply wait to get physical with a woman he genuinely likes? Why is that so difficult? If you don't think the woman is worth it, please move on and let her find someone who will.
Yep. And that's the point I'm at now, which is generally why women start making men 'wait' to get physical.
The words nächste haltestelle (next stop) are usually among the first words that come to mind when I hear something like this.
You put out for the "wrong" guy at the right time (aka the aviation convention) but you make you genuine cat wait (aka the one who doesn't get you as hot). Lolz talk about throwing logic out the window, that's no surprise though.
The words nächste haltestelle (next stop) are usually among the first words that come to mind when I hear something like this.
You put out for the "wrong" guy at the right time (aka the aviation convention) but you make you genuine cat wait (aka the one who doesn't get you as hot). Lolz talk about throwing logic out the window, that's no surprise though.
Anyone with a right mind wouldn't follow this, that's just setting yourself up for disappointment.
Wrong guy? I knew what it was. I knew I'd probably never see him again, I wasn't pursuing a relationship with him in any way, shape or form and he wasn't pursuing one with me (obviously, since sleeping with me was a bet) ...especially considering he lived in Ohio and I live in California. He didn't get me hot at all, I was drunk and made a stupid mistake, we've been over this. Sheesh. You keep trying to use my ONS as an example and it's comparing apples and oranges.
Regardless, while I won't put a rule on it (like 90 days) I will take my sweet time getting to know a guy because I've made stupid mistakes in the past and I'm determined not to make them again. But I suppose since I've made a few mistakes in the past, I may as well give it up on the first date because that's all I'm worth is a quick lay, right? I always thought learning from your mistakes was a good thing.
Wrong guy? I knew what it was. I knew I'd probably never see him again, I wasn't pursuing a relationship with him in any way, shape or form and he wasn't pursuing one with me (obviously, since sleeping with me was a bet) ...especially considering he lived in Ohio and I live in California. He didn't get me hot at all, I was drunk and made a stupid mistake, we've been over this. Sheesh. You keep trying to use my ONS as an example and it's comparing apples and oranges.
Regardless, while I won't put a rule on it (like 90 days) I will take my sweet time getting to know a guy because I've made stupid mistakes in the past and I'm determined not to make them again. But I suppose since I've made a few mistakes in the past, I may as well give it up on the first date because that's all I'm worth is a quick lay, right? I always thought learning from your mistakes was a good thing.
That story is one of the funniest things that i've read on this website, I'm laughing hard as i'm typing this thinking about that second thread that got locked. Learning from your mistakes is a good thing but this rule is like putting a plastic bag over your head for no reason, quite counter productive.
That story is one of the funniest things that i've read on this website, I'm laughing hard as i'm typing this thinking about that second thread that got locked. Learning from your mistakes is a good thing but this rule is like putting a plastic bag over your head for no reason, quite counter productive.
I'm glad my mistakes and misfortunes make you laugh
You sleep with as many women as you want, and I hope you enjoy it.
I'm going to take my time and get to know someone beforehand. If I stay single for a long time, it's no big deal. Airplanes are more interesting than the majority of men I come in contact with anyway
That story is one of the funniest things that i've read on this website, I'm laughing hard as i'm typing this thinking about that second thread that got locked. Learning from your mistakes is a good thing but this rule is like putting a plastic bag over your head for no reason, quite counter productive.
I'm glad my mistakes and misfortunes make you laugh
You sleep with as many women as you want, and I hope you enjoy it. I don't quite understand why it's counter productive though. If I want a man who values me for more than my vagina, why wouldn't I take my time getting to know him?
I'm going to take my time and get to know someone beforehand. If I stay single for a long time, it's no big deal. Airplanes are more interesting than the majority of men I come in contact with anyway
You sleep with as many women as you want, and I hope you enjoy it. I don't quite understand why it's counter productive though. If I want a man who values me for more than my vagina, why wouldn't I take my time getting to know him?
I'm going to take my time and get to know someone beforehand.
look there's nothing at all wrong with getting to know someone beforehand, but there is something that's wacky about pre determining when you're going to smash. Yeah you make some mistakes in the past giving up the kitty but when a worthwhile dude comes along you want to drag things out like a serial drama? That doesn't make any sense and it's counter productive. If I meet a chick and I'm feeling her and I don't put some pre set time on when I'll bang her out. Something like that might happen then first date, sixth date or sometime further down the line. There's a lot of fear in stuff like this, I know I sure as hell don't want to get anyone pregnant but there's no guarantees on anything in life. Things like death and old age are inevitable, to have some stupid rule determine something as natural as smashing is backwards.
look there's nothing at all wrong with getting to know someone beforehand, but there is something that's wacky about pre determining when you're going to smash. Yeah you make some mistakes in the past giving up the kitty but when a worthwhile dude comes along you want to drag things out like a serial drama? That doesn't make any sense and it's counter productive. If I meet a chick and I'm feeling her and I don't put some pre set time on when I'll bang her out. Something like that might happen then first date, sixth date or sometime further down the line. There's a lot of fear in stuff like this, I know I sure as hell don't want to get anyone pregnant but there's no guarantees on anything in life. Things like death and old age are inevitable, to have some stupid rule determine something as natural as smashing is backwards.
lifes too short for that.
Didn't I mention NOT having a predetermined rule like 'waiting 90 days'? I will go through it when I feel ready and not a moment before. The minute a guy tries to talk me into having sex, or pressures me into it, he's gone.
It might be 3 weeks, it might be 3 months, who knows? But I will take the time to get to know him and hopefully that will lessen the probability of him disappearing once he gets the goods. It's not foolproof, but sleeping with someone before you know their last name is kind of stupid as well. Especially considering I could catch an STD or get pregnant. I'm protecting myself and I don't see how that is wrong.
look there's nothing at all wrong with getting to know someone beforehand, but there is something that's wacky about pre determining when you're going to smash. Yeah you make some mistakes in the past giving up the kitty but when a worthwhile dude comes along you want to drag things out like a serial drama? That doesn't make any sense and it's counter productive. If I meet a chick and I'm feeling her and I don't put some pre set time on when I'll bang her out. Something like that might happen then first date, sixth date or sometime further down the line. There's a lot of fear in stuff like this, I know I sure as hell don't want to get anyone pregnant but there's no guarantees on anything in life. Things like death and old age are inevitable, to have some stupid rule determine something as natural as smashing is backwards.
lifes too short for that.
Agreed.
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