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I have trouble asking women out. I'm rarely in a situation where I am conversing with women that are single. I organize two coed volleyball teams year round and I have an easy time joking around with ladies in the league, but every lady that I have gotten to know who is in her 30s or 40s is either married or has a boyfriend. Most of the staff in my department at work are women and they think I am funny and easy to talk to and they tell me that they don't understand why I'm still single.
1) Don't dress as if you do all your shopping down at the thrift store. You know, there are men's magazines that show you how to look snappy without spending a fortune.
2) Don't subsist on a diet of Quarter Pounders and Doritos. If the weight doesn't turn her off, your unhealthy pallor will.
3) Don't live with your mother. Seriously. MrsCPG and I were at a Waffle House one time discussing her 46-year-old brother who still lives with his parents. She asked two cute women next to us if they would date a successful professional who still lived with his parents. "Ewwwwww, no way" was their reply. You're better off admitting that you crash on your buddy's sofa.
4) Don't forget to groom yourself every day.
5) Don't neglect seeing a dentist.
6) Don't lunge at any woman who smiles at you in the same manner that a starving man attacks the buffet at Golden Corral.
7) Don't mention your model airplane collection, your Dungeons and Dragons figurines, or your high score in World Of Warcraft until about your tenth, thirtieth, or fiftieth date respectively. In fact, talk about your penchant for video games with about as much freedom as you would about how often you masturbate. In other words, don't go there at all.
8) Don't talk about you in the opening stages of knowing her. Talk about her. If she asks about you, answer the question in as few words as is polite and then talk about her some more. She'll think you're the most amazing conversationalist in the world and she'll want to know more about you.
9) Don't treat her like she's all that. I don't care if you've stumbled across freaking Giselle Bundchen at your local saloon and she engages you in conversation. Somewhere in the world, there's a guy who got tired of her. Instead treat her with just a bit of fun and amusement, while still showing respect. It'll drive her crazy.
10) Don't stare at her boobs. Regardless of how spectacular her fun bags are, or how prominently they're displayed, will yourself to gaze roughly 12-18 inches north of there. She's a woman, not a fertility totem.
11) Don't mention your mother and your past girlfriends (For those who have actually had them). Assume that the world began with the woman with whom you're having a conversation. No, it's not incompatible with rule #9.
12) Don't ask her out as if you're pleading with the banker for an extension on your loan, complete with pie charts and spreadsheets to make your case. Instead, make it seem as if the idea just sorta came to you at that very moment.
#13) be interesting, live a full life and dont make let women validate ur existence
Damn. That's a good one. The minute you treat a woman as if she is the end-all, be-all completion of your existence, that's when she backs away with a hunted look. Women like men who love their lives and are suspicious of men who need them that much.
Damn. That's a good one. The minute you treat a woman as if she is the end-all, be-all completion of your existence, that's when she backs away with a hunted look. Women like men who love their lives and are suspicious of men who need them that much.
1) Don't dress as if you do all your shopping down at the thrift store. You know, there are men's magazines that show you how to look snappy without spending a fortune.
2) Don't subsist on a diet of Quarter Pounders and Doritos. If the weight doesn't turn her off, your unhealthy pallor will.
3) Don't live with your mother. Seriously. MrsCPG and I were at a Waffle House one time discussing her 46-year-old brother who still lives with his parents. She asked two cute women next to us if they would date a successful professional who still lived with his parents. "Ewwwwww, no way" was their reply. You're better off admitting that you crash on your buddy's sofa.
4) Don't forget to groom yourself every day.
5) Don't neglect seeing a dentist.
6) Don't lunge at any woman who smiles at you in the same manner that a starving man attacks the buffet at Golden Corral.
7) Don't mention your model airplane collection, your Dungeons and Dragons figurines, or your high score in World Of Warcraft until about your tenth, thirtieth, or fiftieth date respectively. In fact, talk about your penchant for video games with about as much freedom as you would about how often you masturbate. In other words, don't go there at all.
8) Don't talk about you in the opening stages of knowing her. Talk about her. If she asks about you, answer the question in as few words as is polite and then talk about her some more. She'll think you're the most amazing conversationalist in the world and she'll want to know more about you.
9) Don't treat her like she's all that. I don't care if you've stumbled across freaking Giselle Bundchen at your local saloon and she engages you in conversation. Somewhere in the world, there's a guy who got tired of her. Instead treat her with just a bit of fun and amusement, while still showing respect. It'll drive her crazy.
10) Don't stare at her boobs. Regardless of how spectacular her fun bags are, or how prominently they're displayed, will yourself to gaze roughly 12-18 inches north of there. She's a woman, not a fertility totem.
11) Don't mention your mother and your past girlfriends (For those who have actually had them). Assume that the world began with the woman with whom you're having a conversation. No, it's not incompatible with rule #9.
12) Don't ask her out as if you're pleading with the banker for an extension on your loan, complete with pie charts and spreadsheets to make your case. Instead, make it seem as if the idea just sorta came to you at that very moment.
Damn. Talk about over-complicating something simple (not to mention that most of that stuff doesn't matter....I've done most of that at one time or another and it has no effect on things).
Here's a more concise list:
1) Talk to as many girls as possible
2) Ask them out
3) Make a move
4) Stay positive if things aren't going the way you want them to
5) Learn from your mistakes
If you do those five things, you'll be unstoppable.
Damn. Talk about over-complicating something simple (not to mention that most of that stuff doesn't matter....I've done most of that at one time or another and it has no effect on things).
Here's a more concise list:
1) Talk to as many girls as possible
2) Ask them out
3) Make a move
4) Stay positive if things aren't going the way you want them to
5) Learn from your mistakes
If you do those five things, you'll be unstoppable.
Well, you'd think. But that list is a distillation of all the problems I've seen on these threads over the years. Because if he's some overweight schlub who wears not just plaid but brown plaid all the time, has his hair cut as if somebody popped a colander on his head and began snipping, and babbles on and on about nonsensical crap that doesn't matter a hill of beans to a woman, then he could talk to 10,000 women a day and not get anywhere.
Well, you'd think. But that list is a distillation of all the problems I've seen on these threads over the years. Because if he's some overweight schlub who wears not just plaid but brown plaid all the time, has his hair cut as if somebody popped a colander on his head and began snipping, and babbles on and on about nonsensical crap that doesn't matter a hill of beans to a woman, then he could talk to 10,000 women a day and not get anywhere.
What's wrong with brown plaid, it might work if you're asking out collegiate or professor types :P.
Ah yes, it seems so simple. I do agree with you that talking to more women is the key, but I'm not sure that I can start walking up to women in supermarkets or bookstores and start talking. I'm not sure about doing that because I really don't think it would work. Since my friends have all long been married, I think that I need to do a better job of putting myself in situations where I can meet more women. I haven't been completely lazy though as I have attended a few "meet-up" groups.
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I do agree with you that talking to more women is the key, but I'm not sure that I can start walking up to women in supermarkets or bookstores and start talking. I'm not sure about doing that because I really don't think it would work. Since my friends have all long been married, I think that I need to do a better job of putting myself in situations where I can meet more women. I haven't been completely lazy though as I have attended a few "meet-up" groups.
