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Lol jokes aside. Spitting is considered an extremely hostile act, basically like punching someone in the face, possibly even worse (in a symbolic way). You're lucky she hasn't filed charges for assault...yet.
I was wondering if there was a way of winning her back. We had a stupid argument, in which it was about how I've been lately spending more time with friends, don't visit her too much and forgetting Valentine's Day.
I was trying to reason, but there was some truth to what she was saying and it became an argument of her saying how maybe it's better she leaves. Some time passed by and that's where I said ''Fine, you stupid *****'' and spat in her face; stupid me. She looked at me in shocked and walked away. This happened last week and she isn't taking my apologies nor wants to speak to me. If anyone asks for our ages it's 22 and 20. I'm truly sorry and really wanted to settle one with this girl in the near future.
Another thing is my family (even my parents) adored her and sometimes even treat her like a daughter. If I told them what happened, I'm not going to get another but verbal bashing esp from my father. He feels strongly about men that disrespect women and I feel terrible for dissapointing him.
To have an idea of how strongly he feels with that topic, when I was about 13, I recalled seeing him beat the living deadlights out of this guy that was punching his gf. He actually broke that man's nose and bruised him up, then he filed charges. I told him how maybe the beating the was too.
Old man: Not for me. I'll beat one when I see one. Don't ever let me catch you doing that, you understand?
Anyway what can I do to win her back? I'm already feeling bad and don't need any more tongue bashing and him making me feel like the worst loser. I just want her to know I'm really sorry I acted like that.
You said what? You did what?
Married people don't even do that.
Be tolerant of other people's points of view!
Yes, you blew it mac. Really.
My ex husband did that to me....you notice I said, ex.
I think you should grow up and control your urges to do stupid things...and I don't blame her for not talking to you.
I've had other prior relationship and have never done this before nor even raised my voice. Already feeling like a loser, like one of those lowlifes. The very same thing my father and I always hated and still do.
I want her back. Is there a way?
Not right now. It's time to walk away. Perhaps, in a year or two, you can convince her you've grown up, if you, in fact, you do grow up. The first step towards doing that is leaving her alone now. No woman worth having would take back a "man" who did what you did. Go lick your wounds and spend the next couple of years developing the kind of reputation you'd like to have. Then you might have a chance at winning her back.
I would suggest you start with anger management counseling. If this is how you react over an argument over spending too much time with friends and forgetting valentines day, I do not want to know how you'll react to something big. You need to get your temper under control and grow up a bit. Then MAYBE you can win her back but don't count on it.
I don't think you come close to deserving her or deserving a chance with this one. Sorry. That was the epitome of disrespectful and basal.
You also came off in your post as not really thinking what you did was wrong, but more fearing that you'd experience repercussions from your family. So nope. I hope she moves on happily.
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