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Developing social skills is a much better use of your time than making profiles and hoping someone likes what they see. Not that online dating is completely bad. Its just not for everyone and its not the only option out there.
I don't think anyone would disagree that online dating is not for everyone. (It was a great venue for me personally, but I must have the type of personality for it - not everyone does.)
And it should never be the only option used...it is just one of many. People should use every option available to them as well. The problem with the OP is that he clearly has no social skills, so he has greatly limited himself.
I don't think anyone would disagree that online dating is not for everyone. (It was a great venue for me personally, but I must have the type of personality for it - not everyone does.)
And it should never be the only option used...it is just one of many. People should use every option available to them as well. The problem with the OP is that he clearly has no social skills, so he has greatly limited himself.
I agree with both you and tonylu. If you don't have good social and communication skills, know how to read social cues and body language, it really doesn't matter where you try to find a date.
Too bad I was busy when this thread posted. I would have popped popcorn, and poured myself a drink.
I think what the OP did is a very interesting social experiment. If I recall correctly, JJ, you did quite an experiment a while ago.
The thing is, I know guys that get this EXACT response from women, but the guys are the real deal.
Two of my friends start convos with women verbatim, "Hello, what's your phone number, we should talk."
It works for them cause they are hot guys.
So many women claim, "I only give my phone number after messaging x amount of times." "I'm looking for a relationship." "I NEVER have sex on first dates." "I wan a guy to respect me."
The truth is, women are NOT that much different than men. Not as much as society believes. Women have needs, and wants. And women are EXTREMELY visual creatures. Just as visual as men. Women just hide it better. It is part of how we are socialized. Women are raised to have skills in making themselves more appealing to partners by improving their appearance. But they are socialized to pretend that they seek a man who 'will treat them well.' But how many women are with guys that treat them like nothing? Try being an average looking guy and treating a woman poorly. She will bolt faster than you can say "I'm sorry." But if the guy is hot..... Round and round they go.
Men are socialized to believe that hard work, having personality, a decent job, a sense of humor, and treating a woman well, is how to 'fall in love'.
Hot guys do not have to work at all for attention from women. And all rules go out the window. I have literally witnessed it. so. many. times.
I like idea of second profile. I will make profile without shirt and face from back and from front, and set false zip code. Will see what answers I will get.
I created a fake POF profile. A guy with a six pack, a picture of a mercedes, and a bunch of selfies.
Me header reads: "Men have obligations, women have options"
Said I "make a lot of money" and I "work hard and play hard." I like to hit up bars, and I like older women.
Been on for 30 minutes, here is what I found:
-I can message a girl out of the blue and say "whats your number?" and they give it to me
-I can message a girl and say "wanna hang out tonight?" and they say sure
-I have 2 girls sending my risque pictures already
Men (and probably women) who are looking for love on POF. I urge you to stop.
These women sending me sexually explicit messages are college educated, sometimes with Masters degrees. they have no provocative pics, and yet, they are sluts. Unbelieveable, can't trust anyone these days.
WOMEN ARE SHALLOW.
The only thing about any of this that makes me say "wow" is the fact that you apparently had nothing better to do with your time than create a fake POF profile, gather results, post them to us, and shame the people who responded as one would expect them to respond. If they're "sluts," what kind of loser does that make you?
Yeah, because people being attracted to attractive and wealthy people is a new thing.
Did the OP say attractive?
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