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I can imagine, I just don't wanna turn this thread into a political/social debate.... which isn't the premise of the OP....
You don't think it's wee bit late for that?
The premise of the OP is that women are as horny as men. The obvious corollary is that we keep it a secret -- otherwise everyone would already know and there would be nothing to discuss!
That might not have come up with the women you were with personally, maybe because she sensed you wouldn't be ok with it? But you may well have met women in such a relationship (as in: they crossed your path, you had a conversation), but you wouldn't know about the intimate details of their life. You better believe that in our society, a woman being in a LTR with more than one guy is kept on the down low. Puritanism is still alive and well in America, and women know to be discreet in order to avoid being burned at the stake. As Jet Jockey's post so handily points out.
The topic always comes up. That conversation is pretty much on the table with every woman I have been in a relationship with. If open dialogue regarding sex is not happening I wouldn't be with her or the relationship ends quickly. If she likes other men, If shes Bi, or has a particular kink, we have discussed it.
The only thing I have found that seems to be universal amongst women Ive dated, and most likely the same is true for men too is discussing the number of previous partners. Ive never had one women want to talk about her #, and for the most part I don't even care one one way or another.
Not true. Women have a high sex drive that is condition. When condition A, B, C is met, her drive is high. For men, Their drive is high almost always without exception
I can agree with this
I think Men are low maintenance when it comes to sex typically. They're ready to go at a moment's notice. No matter the conditions.
I am bisexual, and my experience contradicts your theory.
Interesting.
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I don't know where this myth comes from, that all men are the same, sexually
I wouldn't know where such a myth would come from, either. I certainly didn't say that.
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As for inexperienced men getting off more easily with a partner, that has to do with our cultural assumptions about what constitutes 'sex'. We define sex as the act or acts that make it easiest for most (not all!) men to orgasm. When you think about it, this is a rather bizarre definition.
Good point. I agree that this is part of it, but only part. Even if we eliminate intercourse entirely and just look at manual/digital or oral stimulation, it's still going to be far easier for an inexperienced woman to get an inexperienced man off than vice versa. Think of it this way: How many teenage girls do you think have an orgasm from being awkwardly pawed at by a boy on a date? How many teenage boys do you think don't have an orgasm when the girl does the same to them? One is far easier than the other without practice and experience.
If "when your d*** falls off" is a crude euphemism meaning "when you get an STI," you surely realize you don't have to be with a sexually confident woman for that to happen, right? If anything, I'd be more afraid of getting one from a sexually repressed woman, because she's likely not had the type of sex education to know how to protect herself from contracting them and the assertiveness to insist that her partners participate in that.
It would be funny if such boarishly misogynistic attitudes weren't so widely held by men. Heck, even other women frequently get in on the action of labeling others with differing levels of sexuality as "sluts".
I think what those guys really mean is "women don't like sex with me."
Women having sex drives as strong as men really isn't such a great revelation. However, this knowledge doesn't really change anything about dating because of the statement above. Okay, so now guys with little luck in dating can rest assured it's not because the girl doesn't like sex, she just doesn't like YOU.
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