Turns Out Women Have Really, Really Strong Sex Drives: Can Men Handle It? (long-term, friend)
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They are obviously missing out...
What's hilarious is that many of us have had very few partners - we just really like the partners we are with....
Another myth: Women who have strong sex drives must have been promiscuous / had lots of partners...
It would be funny if such boarishly misogynistic attitudes weren't so widely held by men. Heck, even other women frequently get in on the action of labeling others with differing levels of sexuality as "sluts".
I have seen hundreds of forum posts, including many on CDR, in which men state categorically that they would never have a serious relationship with a woman with a high sex drive, especially one higher than their own.
These men say that they believe women with high sex drives are more likely to cheat, and/or more likely to have 'too much' previous sexual experience. (These men do not explain why their own higher drive doesn't make them likely to cheat, or slutty, or otherwise rule them out as partners .)
I think it's clear than, when it comes to marriage, many men deliberately select women with lower sex drives than their own. A man with an average sex drive chooses a wife with a lower than average one, and a man with a high drive chooses a wife who is average. This does not mean women with high drives don't exist, only that they are unlikely to be married to men with issues around gender and sex.
I think this is why we get so many married guys complaining about lack of sex. They are the guys who did not think about the predictable consequences of their choices, and do not think now about what they did to create the situation they are in. They just complain.
That and the couch potato explanation someone posted earlier .
My first wife baited and switched on me, we had tons of sex the first 3-4 years then she drug me through 6 months of nonsense counseling becuase she did want it anymore.
It would be funny if such boarishly misogynistic attitudes weren't so widely held by men. Heck, even other women frequently get in on the action of labeling others with differing levels of sexuality as "sluts".
A bit older and wiser men KNOW that "we/us/you" don't have anything that will be a miracle cure to keep her around. It doesn't matter if you are the biggest she ever saw and had. Someone did it better, somebody has/makes more money and is better looking.
I've seen that backfire for women many times. They met a really good looking guy with all his stuff together. Some way or another that subject comes up. The guy is even a bit out of her league looks wise. She "assumes" he's been around and informs him of her 15+ partners. Come to find out he only had 2.
The look on their face is priceless with embarrassment and it's no wonder the dude bails on her.
Why is it that supposedly grownup men and women can't generally just be satisfied with common-sense assumptions that their partners have: 1). had sex, 2). possibly/probably had sex with more than one previous partner, and 3). had encounters that they enjoyed, hated or thoroughly regret? They can enjoy some entitlement to their secrets, no?
A bit older and wiser men KNOW that "we/us/you" don't have anything that will be a miracle cure to keep her around. It doesn't matter if you are the biggest she ever saw and had. Someone did it better, somebody has/makes more money and is better looking.
Exhibit A: inferiority complex. Man's fragile ego on display
Why is it that supposedly grownup men and women can't generally just be satisfied with common-sense assumptions that their partners have: 1). had sex, 2). possibly/probably had sex with more than one previous partner, and 3). had encounters that they enjoyed, hated or thoroughly regret. They're entitled to their secrets, no?
The point was that "she" (lady A) was so caught up in bar hopping, she just assumed he was doing the same.
It would be funny if such boarishly misogynistic attitudes weren't so widely held by men. Heck, even other women frequently get in on the action of labeling others with differing levels of sexuality as "sluts".
Yes, it is boarishly misogynistic, and it tends to come from the ignorant, insecure, overly judgmental/controlling, and from those who experienced vile relationships (e.g. their own, or their parents).... I always avoided those kind of men - luckily, there are better ones around.
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Originally Posted by Philosophizer
Exhibit A: inferiority complex. Man's fragile ego on display
LOL.... Just saw that post... So he fits the above description - they usually do.
Yes, it is boarishly misogynistic, and it tends to come from the ignorant, insecure, overly judgmental/controlling, and from those who experienced vile relationships (e.g. their own, or their parents).... I always avoided those kind of men - luckily, there are better ones around.
LOL.... Just saw that post... So he fits the above description - they usually do.
Like me and your husband. He's a lucky guy. I've been around long enough to know that you are quite the keeper, yourself.
I'm on a roll tonight. It's a hoot beating back mental midgets with backward views.
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