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Hi everybody. I've been off the board because I don't have anything good to report. We broke up.
I did convince him to go to the bbq but we didn't have a good time. He kept thinking that he was getting "looks" and got weirded out. At one point I went to get something and when I came back a girl was chatting with him and then it was me who got weirded out. We left early.
The next couple of days were strained to say the least. He wanted to know my "frame of reference" and stuff about the past. There was no yelling or anything but he basically said he thought that I do not "have his back" and that I may say other stupid things in the future and that he can't see us as a couple any more.
I know you guys tried to help but when TBideon called him a p*ssy and that I should feel lucky, well I don't feel lucky at all. Ian was an all around great guy and I screwed up in a big way. I've unfortunately had my share of jerks and bad boys - Ian is not one of them.
Hi everybody. I've been off the board because I don't have anything good to report. We broke up.
I did convince him to go to the bbq but we didn't have a good time. He kept thinking that he was getting "looks" and got weirded out. At one point I went to get something and when I came back a girl was chatting with him and then it was me who got weirded out. We left early.
The next couple of days were strained to say the least. He wanted to know my "frame of reference" and stuff about the past. There was no yelling or anything but he basically said he thought that I do not "have his back" and that I may say other stupid things in the future and that he can't see us as a couple any more.
I know you guys tried to help but when TBideon called him a p*ssy and that I should feel lucky, well I don't feel lucky at all. Ian was an all around great guy and I screwed up in a big way. I've unfortunately had my share of jerks and bad boys - Ian is not one of them.
Too bad, OP. Thanks for coming back to give us an update, but it's a sad story.
Not to harp on this, but....alcohol is not your friend. While you're in-between relationships, you might want to examine your relationship to alcohol. It wrecked your engagement/impending marriage. Best of luck.
Ruth4Truth does have a point. Alcohol can rip things away from you. Alcohol aided in me losing my first girlfriend, because I was being a boneheaded idiot. If I would have curbed my drinking a lot more, I would have been in the right mindset, and surrounding myself with the right people, and been able to keep my relationship on the right path.
Now, alcohol is just a social thing for me. A couple of drinks out with friends is fun, but not black out drinking like I was doing years ago that put an end to my relationship.
There's nothing per se wrong with alcohol. The problem will always come in with the kind of people alcohol can have a tendency of putting you in contact with. Your friend circle has a tendency to increase, and the people occupying the newly increased circle, are usually not the people you would have in your life if you weren't drinking as much.
The people I had in my life when I was partying like crazy are no longer in my life today. They weren't bad people by any means, but they were bad for where I saw myself heading in the future.
I think the combination of the party atmosphere and the alcohol just made me stupid for a minute and I opened my mouth without thinking. I never would have said anything like that if I was sober. So I don't think Philosophizer is right when he said I would have said it at some time in the future. I loved him (and I still do) so why would I have hurt him if I was actually thinking (and not drunk at a stupid party)
Also I think he may have gone on a date with the girl who was talking to him at the bbq. Makes me so sad
What the h3ll? If that was the case then it's better that it is over. Maybe he was wanting to get out and he used this as a reason to get out. It still doesn't change how talking about his penis size was bad, but you wonder someone's intentions when they go out on a date so soon.
What the h3ll? If that was the case then it's better that it is over. Maybe he was wanting to get out and he used this as a reason to get out. It still doesn't change how talking about his penis size was bad, but you wonder someone's intentions when they go out on a date so soon.
It happens all the time. Not everyone does it, but it happens so much theres a name for it: rebound
And some people of this forum recommend it. And most have probably done it at some point in their dating life.
Well yeah it is kinda true that he's on the small side but it doesn't matter to me and I really mean that. If it was a big deal to me I would not be engaged to him. I know guys are really sensitive about stuff like this. I just don't want to lose him over something incredibly stupid that I said in all of thre seconds at the party. He's a really smart guy so I know he's going to ask me all sorts of questions and I don't know if I should be honest or fib or what.
Tell him exactly what you just said! I mean, you're still with him, it's not like his being small means anything to you, obviously he is doing something right!
Hey, can he do oral like a champ? My ex-husband was tineeeeeey but he would stay down there for hours. That's all I cared about.
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