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Although I have a BF, there are things that are weighing down on us very heavily. How can I date when I've found the one person that's perfect for me? No one will ever surpass what I have with him. So, if I end up single, I may be single forever due to my own choice. If it took me 38 years to find him, how long would it take to find someone as good or better than him?
And to make things worse, I'm a shy, introverted, CFBC woman. I hate going out and meeting people. Ugh!
Although I have a BF, there are things that are weighing down on us very heavily. How can I date when I've found the one person that's perfect for me? No one will ever surpass what I have with him. So, if I end up single, I may be single forever due to my own choice. If it took me 38 years to find him, how long would it take to find someone as good or better than him?
And to make things worse, I'm a shy, introverted, CFBC woman. I hate going out and meeting people. Ugh!
Eh, what's another 38 years. Time flies as you get older...
No I won't always be single. I am still on my dating sabbatical by choice. I am starting to think about starting to date but really not in a big hurry. I have other priorities in my life that need to be handled. Having a boyfriend would be nice but it is not a neccessity.
I also am very picky and am not settling for just anyone. I did that before and that is how I ended up being married to a twit. He is a nice enough guy but very lazy and not driven. I am a driven person and a little bit alpha. I scare the crap out of guys that are passive. Oh and I am 41.
.....not because you are picky nor anything like that. Do you feel you're not good looking enough, financial situation isn't stable enough, too fat, too skinny, etc....
If you feel as if you'll always be single, why do you feel this way?
im financially secure enough but im not good looking enough
And to make things worse, I'm a shy, introverted, CFBC woman. I hate going out and meeting people. Ugh!
I sympathize, from one introverted CFBC woman to another ^
I hate going out & meeting people, too-and I'm pretty crummy at doing so.
Thank goodness for the internet where there's at least some chance of finding new person(s).
But I'm glad you found someone, and I wish you well in that
It can be so hard to identify & recognize a compatible person. Then one really treasures that person,
given how agonizing the search for any other like-minded & emotionally suitable partner would be.
With my mental issues, my setback/self exile, and my strong introverted personality I am way behind everyone else my age in pretty much everything. I have a lot of work to do to improve myself and even then I will still struggle to find a partner. I am apathetic to pop culture, music, fashion, and other subjects that interest my generation. I feel like an alien observer in a strange planet.
I do have strong desires for companionship but I am no state to seek it.
I can tell you that I do not play games with people in any way.
It could possibly be the men I interact with although I've interacted with all different kinds and get the same result whether they are bikers or hard core Christians. And I pretty much hear this from every female of my acquaintance from my sister to my cousins to my friends to my sisters friends. In fact, most of my sisters friends have just settled because there is no other kind of man out there and they are afraid of being alone. But as I mentioned before, it could be the area I live in.
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Originally Posted by cloven
I sympathize. I can't stand people, generally, but I absolutely want to have onespecial person in my life, and sorting through meeting/getting to know a bunchof people in order to find "a keeper" is agony (I'm an introvert,too)
I am JUST like this and it’s because I really lack trust in people in general, men and women. I have had many disapointments from people ranging from my ex-husband to my own mother. So it’s hard for me to meet and get to know others but I do try very hard. But Cloven says it perfectly as I can’t stand people but just want that ONE person as a companion.
Always? Well, if I had to judge from my experience with women in all these years, then the answer should be "yes". I've never been able to attract women, despite making big changes and efforts. And right now I see no reason to believe it will change shortly.
So far, it's been like winning the lottery. Could it happen? Of course. But since I have low chances and don't have any control over it, I wouldn't plan my life counting on it...
I can tell you that I do not play games with people in any way.
You might not, but it seems like 99% of men do.
I'm not saying that women aren't like that too. I'm sure some are; I wouldn't know, I've never dated women. But I am not like that and I still get the dregs.
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