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already have 2 times. what is great about almost #3 was she confessed after 17 years that she would have divorced me long ago and gotten the assets had we had married.
an honest woman for this truth i will continue to help her even though we are no longer together.
No, I couldn't do it. I could be a co-parent with him (if I wanted kids, that is), but I could not commit the rest of my life to him. I think that would be selling myself short and setting myself up for a lot of pain, not to mention some guilt.
You probably should. Over 40 and pregnant...not to be blunt but I doubt you will get another chance at fairy tale romance. He's going to be in your life forever now, marriage or not. Think about it.
To the poster who was wondering why he is now so insistant on marriage, he is from a different culture that practices arranged marriage, and having a baby out of wedlock is the worst shame that can happen.
I'll probably do it for that reason. He'd be outcasted from his community otherwise. I am just really tired and not feeling good right now and feel like I can't think straight, but this discussion has helped. Thanks to all.
Are you and he of different ethnicities? I'm wondering if he intentionally blocked romantic feelings thinking that maybe his family might not approve of you? They might be ok with you dating him but they might not be ok with you marrying him?
You're willing to marry him to help save him from being disgraced knowing that this man does not love you the way you love him? OP, please get yourself some help--and I mean this in the nicest way possible. Sounds to me you stayed with him due to possible lack of self esteem. Again, I don't mean for this to be harsh--please don't get yourself into a marriage that you might regret. It's on him if his family outcasts him, not you.
We are of different "races" I suppose... He is Indian and I am white American.
I DID break up with him several times. But we were both so miserable apart, and I just let him talk me into seeing him again. He always know just what to say to me
These can be difficult concepts for those who have yet to marry to grasp.
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We are of different "races" I suppose... He is Indian and I am white American.
I DID break up with him several times. But we were both so miserable apart, and I just let him talk me into seeing him again. He always know just what to say to me
I guess I am confused why he is so insistent upon being together and professes to be so unhappy without you, yet says he doesn't love you romantically. If he doesn't love you, why does he want to be with you?
I guess I am confused why he is so insistent upon being together and professes to be so unhappy without you, yet says he doesn't love you romantically. If he doesn't love you, why does he want to be with you?
This is why I think his saying he doesn't love her is wrong.
We know she loves him.
We know he is unhappy without her and loves spending time together and having sex and traveling and being best friends.
I think he probably doesn't understand what love is...too many Hollywood/Bollywood films.
To answer the question of this thread, I would NOT marry somebody who does not love me. To me, that would be a total waste of time. Marriage is only a patch for what is lacking.
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