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I would leave him. That's just me. That seems really odd, especially adding the fact that you were invited the first time, but not THIS time.
I can't imagine not inviting my SO on a trip with me like that.
At the end of the day, he wants this type of relationship (freedom to vacation with females), and you do not. This has the potential to cause even more serious issues if you were thinking about marriage. People can sit here all day and say what's right or wrong, but the fact is that this relationship isn't working for you. If you don't want your boyfriend going on vacation with two females while he DOESN'T want you coming, well then you shouldn't accept that.
Given all you've written here, this sort of situation would not be okay with me. You asked to come along and take a fun trip and meet his friends and he refused.
Does not bode well.
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Not because he's vacationing with 2 females, but because he KNOWS you'd enjoy it and he's still not including you in it....just expecting you to eat those feelings.
Don't make yourself miserable. Break up with him before he goes, and plan something fun for yourself around the same time.
If you guys love and miss each other after he returns, you can always consider getting back together then.
When he comes back from his vacation tell him you wanted to have a 4 way with the girls and your BF but since you were not invited you didn't want to be pushy and invite yourself.haha
This is a tough one to call. It could be on the level, but if so, why doesn't he want you there? You sound like a nice person, welcoming that other girl, giving her and your bf the benefit of the doubt. I don't know what else to tell you.
I did answer this question Ruth - there is just the real possibility that he doesn't want to change the dynamic of the existing group.
Not everyone believes in "the more the merrier".
And things DO change (sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse and sometimes just for the different) when a member of an existing friendship tries to include their new significant other.
There is nothing wrong with people keeping their existing friendships when they enter a new romantic relationship and not all friends now have to become the couples friends.
Absolute complete and totally BS. I have had many female friends and do not or have not ever wanted to have sex with them. Like NEVER!!!!!!!!!!!
We are not all horny dogs wanting to mate with any female that comes along. If you are, then don't assume everyone else is.
And non of them are attractive to you? You only are friends with unattractive women? If they are attractive, then you are lying to yourself. Either you are in denial that you don't, or in denial that you are gay. I don't assume anything, I just know what I have experienced, or have been told by women, and all of them tell me that all their guy friends would sleep with them if they allowed it...I know a lot of women, this isn't just a couple of girls that I work with. I don't have those types of conversations with people that I work with. If you can be friends with an attractive woman, without wanting to have sex with her, then you are a tiny minority..or like all guys who say that same thing are not being honest, they are fronting. It's laughable when I see women say they couldn't believe that their male friend had those feeling for them...LOL, what a joke, why would he be around, if he didn't.
Thank you for all your responses!
Interestingly, we almost got another topic- can men and women be only friends? Or think only like friends? I am pretty sure this has been discussed under other headings but...
in my opinion, they can be just friends; but best friends- never... because in such a case, at least one of the parties is attracted to another. For example, a woman can treat a guy like her best friend, but the guy will have the hots for her for sure. Not necessarily he will act upon it, but fantasize for sure. (and vice versa.) For that is a part of our human nature - we are attracted to someone, and if we are attracted so much to become so close, the attraction would have to be both mental and physical. Women and men best friends is just sex on hold.
At least for one parties. Who will do anything to be so close to the other.
I have good male friends; but my firm belief is that my best male friend can only be my partner.
If, in my boyfriend's case, he is not thinking to cheat consciously, but still for some reason wants to guard me from meeting the girls (yet, still thinking of them as friends), he is keeping a protective perimeter around them to be able to have some self-validation that he is still desirable/ attractive to other girls.
In that case, is mild flirtation with other people healthy to a relationship?
Am I making any sense here?...
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