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Ya know, OP wants what he wants. He wants a woman that isn't afraid to show she really likes him and to take the lead on arranging some dates and initiating conversations. That is what he wants and we are all entitled to want what we want.
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Originally Posted by Dewdroplet76
Here's what I think - I think that everything is fine between the two of you but you are making yourself crazy with your rules.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
In a nutshell.
It seems to be going well for 4 dates, but the OP feels abandoned or used. That's sad.
strawberrykiki gets it. She elaborates on my point fairly well.
No one but the lady in question knows what's going on with this situation. OP can keep initiating dates, he can stop and see if she will take the lead when he doesn't, or he can just flat out ask her what is going on. I do think sometimes you have to play it cool and be willing to play the game so to speak, but when dating becomes miserable because you are so consumed trying to figure out what is going on, I honestly think it's better to just put yourself on the line and ask what the deal is. At least then you'll have an answer one way or the other even if it scares the other person off.
I texted her Sunday to check on how she was doing. She texted me today to joke around.
Sorry can't read the whole thread, but if she keeps the conversation superficial, joking, and not responding with how here day was or how your day was, it sounds like she just wants something casual.
Sorry can't read the whole thread, but if she keeps the conversation superficial, joking, and not responding with how here day was or how your day was, it sounds like she just wants something casual.
Interesting criterion. It's probably still a little early in the dating process for that kind of intimacy. Good to keep in mind, though.
strawberrykiki gets it. She elaborates on my point fairly well.
You are entitled to want anything you choose - but if you are willing to end things with her because she is not adhering to your rules and what you want - then you might be missing out on something really great. I just think that you should ask her how she feels before you just call it quits because you are assuming you know how she feels. But if it is really important for you to be with someone that initiates things from the very beginning - you can always break it off with her because she isn't what you are looking for. But that's on YOU - not her. And that's fine. It's fine if she isn't what you are looking for.
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Interesting criterion. It's probably still a little early in the dating process for that kind of intimacy. Good to keep in mind, though.
There is nothing intimate asking someone about how their day is going. It's almost common courtesy, that is, if you're interested in knowing (and even if you're not).
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